I just cant Deal

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Well that certainly IS a possibility. But what can I really do about that?

If some female who I thought was cool was needy for love because she needs love, then I would be like awwee I love you! (more than likely). I wouldnt turn her down and make her more miserable than she already is. Why not see if it would work out? What would it hurt? Does any one else on this Earth feel this way? Ooooffff course not. They have to go around rejecting people and claim to be "nice"..
I wouldnt be repulsed or "scared" like most other people are in that situation.. Those feelings make no sense to me at all when it comes to this.. Seriously, it makes no sense at all! If anything I would be flattered if she chose me when she was in need of love the most, not "afraid".. People are so ridiculous..

Hide your neediness completely. Learn to control it, women smell it from a mile away and will want nothing to do with you if they sense it. I mean this very seriously; you will never get the sort of woman you want if you don't.

Agreed.

"Just play it cool, boy... real cool."

It's a sucky part of the dance you do around new potential romantic partners- and I doubt I like it anymore than you do.

...but if you have intense feelings that could possibly make her wary, you have to try your best to conceal them at the beginning. Although my reaction might be closer to Utul's, we are in the minority.

Yes. May I buy you a beer?

How does one go about doing that?
Whats so ironic is that the b***h I just go through with who basically dumped her feelings onto me talked about being honest enough to admit that you need somebody and how doing such is a sign of boldness and security.Ha!

It will take a few tries to really get it I think. What I always do is behave as though I am completely neutral about whether or not I have a relationship. I don't treat dates like I am looking for my life parter, I just go about it casually. You can of course be friendly and make compliments and what not, but just don't get sappy until you have gone out a few times. Also, the way you pose questions and say things can hint at your inner feelings. If you say "do you feel like doing this with me?", that sort of shows neediness and emotional weakness. You should already expect that she wants to, therefore you say "we should do this", and simply wait for affirmation.