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I agree.

I have a lot of trouble with men trying to get romantic with me; just this last weekend I met someone I knew for afternoon tea and had a long talk and he tried to kiss me on the cheek when I went to catch the coach. I had made it perfectly clear that I wasn't interested in him in that kind of way and had never had any physical contact with him. I was also dressed very ordinarily in a loose fitting long dress complete with a rain mac, so nothing wrong there either.

Just because a guy feels like he wants to get physical with a woman, it doesn't mean that SHE is leading him on or that she is interested in more than friendship.

I think this girl is young and very innocent and doesn't see how sleeping in your bed and kissing you is a bit too much. I think you should tell her that if she just wants friendship then she must not kiss you or sleep in your bed because then it is not clear what she wants and its not fair to you.

I'm sorry...

Sleeping repeatedly in the same bed and kissing on the mouth is not platonic. If she truly thought so, she was either lying to herself or is very confused. But I think she simply liked the no-strings flirtation, at your expense. Something in her needed the ego boost, and she took advantage of your niceness and perhaps your confusion. It doesn't mean she is mean or evil, but she does sound very confused and a bit selfish. And I'm not trying to just 'dis' her, every person has negative traits, so that is not a judgment.

However I think it is OK to judge people so far as their behavior, and what's good for you to be around. If someone does you this way in the future, tell them to stop messing with you, and to find another place to sleep. If she said she wanted a relationship with you or that she was single that might be different. But she still was playing with your feelings in my opinion (I'm female).

Sleeping platonically in the same bed is possible if one or both people are very lonely. But it doesn't go with kissing on the mouth or sleeping in that bed night after night. Sorry. That's sexual or romantic. Again she didn't necessarily do it to be mean. Maybe her boyfriend is not so nice and she needed a little brush with romance from a kinder fella. It does not give anyone the right to take advantage though, and she took advantage. You have feelings too.

I don't see why you'd want to be her friend...she seems like a user to me. But, it sounds like you have a crush on her despite everything that's happened.

To the person who got a kiss on the cheek. In many cultures that is the same as a handshake. I was confused the first time a man kissed me on the cheek to say hello. It was in front of his wife who didn't seem to mind and I had just met him. Then I realised everyone did that in this city. So it's possible that was non sexual when it happened to you, also.

Guys. He said that she hasn't been sleeping in his bed and stuff anymore. You should probably read the whole thread before you attempt to give advice.