" *love* is gay, dude!"

When someone's being a jerk to you: "Not cool, dude.."
but that isnt really a genuine sentence with the -, dude-suffix as part of its content - isnt it rather an act of translating the point of uncoolness to an easily-digestable format for the uncool?
I've never been attracted to the bad boy image and felt wrong for it. When I use to bring that up with the particular friend I was talking about, all she'd tell me was, " There's something wrong with you, he's hot." I think she even thought I was gay, imagine that, me not attracted to the "macho guy." I think I've learned a lot from my mistakes of trying to fit in the "what we consider normal world." Just made me more miserable, that and aspies I didn't know about.
BTW, is it just me or is that, "that's so gay" starting to sound old or like a broken record. Does to me, besides it being homophobic which some ppl are, it's getting corny as hell. So's the word fa***t but I don't know, maybe it's a guy thing or ppl thing. It's just getting old to me.
The question wasnt why women fall for 'bad boys' and macho thugs as opposed to romantic 'nice guys' MissConstrue, its why its considered unmasculine for a guy to want a romantic relationship and not just sex.
I was agreeing with someone else on this forum and was sharing an experience. I don't think I said I was into thugs except from one experience. Sorry I wasted your time on this thread.
I've never been attracted to the bad boy image and felt wrong for it. When I use to bring that up with the particular friend I was talking about, all she'd tell me was, " There's something wrong with you, he's hot." I think she even thought I was gay, imagine that, me not attracted to the "macho guy." I think I've learned a lot from my mistakes of trying to fit in the "what we consider normal world." Just made me more miserable, that and aspies I didn't know about.
BTW, is it just me or is that, "that's so gay" starting to sound old or like a broken record. Does to me, besides it being homophobic which some ppl are, it's getting corny as hell. So's the word fa***t but I don't know, maybe it's a guy thing or ppl thing. It's just getting old to me.
The question wasnt why women fall for 'bad boys' and macho thugs as opposed to romantic 'nice guys' MissConstrue, its why its considered unmasculine for a guy to want a romantic relationship and not just sex.
I was agreeing with someone else on this forum and was sharing an experience. I don't think I said I was into thugs except from one experience. Sorry I wasted your time on this thread.
S'ok. No worries

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I think the reason why our culture tries to beat that into guys just goes to show how much the alpha-esque protector image is valued over a guy being sensitive. It also of course stems from what does work and what doesn't (ie. if women took a full 360 turn and started dating guys who were sensitive - the drive wouldn't be so hard pushed in that direction; each genders preference really tends to define the other's more doministic and competitive behaviors). I don't think it'll change anytime soon though - the controls are off, everyone's now completely free to be as into themselves as they choose, and because of that the 'run and play' philosophy has our more primitive sides shining as bright as ever; I think our society will really have to bring itself to the brink of self-destruction on that end (don't ask me how) before the more women's and guy's more pragmatic emotional sides kick in.
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