I dont understand why no one will date me....

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aspie check your pm.

Even if you haven't asked a girl out in a while, you've probably been putting out an "I'm very interested in somebody, anybody" vibe. Sounds like your current social circle isn't going to respond favorably; you've got to start looking elsewhere. Start fresh with a new group, and try not to come off as the creepy guy who really wants a girlfriend.

I've seen desperateness in a worse fashion of my own. I've seen a 25 year old aspie guy begging a 17 year old girl to date him who had a "boyfriend" . So yea, being desperate is bad.

Well, the only other problem I can think of is being too passive. This is one I take to heart, because it was my own problem for years.

I had a ton going for me.

I could be bold ... when the situation called for it
I could helpful ... when someone needed my help
I could be wise ... when asked for advice

I could be anything ... if that's what was expected of me

Even compared myself to a vehicle, one time. A locomotive. Powerful & capable of doing great things ... only if I had the track layed out for me w/ someone in the engine room shoveling coal in the furnace

Being able to stoke your own fire is a true sign of confidence & women really respond to it. Try being the proactive one instead of waiting for a stimulus to react to.

i don't see any problem with the way you look. You got pretty nice skin to boot!

you look as normal as anyone to me, btw. your expression in your eyes is the only thing that may be considered a bit different. That's subjective though.

When you meet women only to see if they will suit in a relationship...they can sense it. Nothing is more of a turn-off than when it feels like you're being judged right out of the gate. I like it when people are interested in me as a friend. If they have something in common in me just for the sake of talking to me.

The moment I feel like they want something more I run screaming...

Fact is, you seem a little self-centered. You need to back down, and lay back a bit. Get interested in something, find someone who's interested in the same things, and do stuff together just for the hell of it, not because she might end up as your girlfriend.

People who are self-assured and relaxed. Who have a zen center to them are attractive, regardless of their looks. I've dated people who weren't much to look at, but their inner beauty was mind-blowing.

Take it easy...you're still young.

Your problem is obvious--you want people to show an interest in you, but you won't show an interest in them. This is evidenced by the fact that you want *A* girlfriend, not a specific girl. What DevonB said.

Bingo!

I think you look fine. Personally I would be put off by the christian bit as Im an atheist but I presume you go to church and that would be an ideal place to meet a like minded girl. The only thing I can think could be off putting is if you have an odd manerism or stim, as a friend of mine has that and that puts women off (and he has smelly feet). Any way best of luck