The main cause: Lack of an adult look

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Facial Hair is definately the way to go! People always thought I was younger than I was but when I was 14 I grew sideburns, which helped a little. I then grew proper facial hair at 17 and havn't been properly ID'd when out since.
It does work the opposite way if it's too patchy or pale, also if you have a very small frame you could still struggle.
Clothes can help, staying away from things associated with kids/youth and picking things that make your body look better.

Looking more masculine would probably help but I believe I look like a man and don't get very far. I think the secret is actually feeling like a man, which I often don't so have no advise to offer...

go to the gym, build muscle, muscle, muscle to make you look bulkier..that's very appealing, no matter the height. Get a pers trainer if possible, to ask abt nutrition, what foods to eat ...Grow a goatee, not a full beard:)

If you act like you're bothered by your "youthful" appearance, that will prevent you from achieveing many things. When people comment or whatever, you'd better just make a joke about it and then move on to whatever it is you want to talk to them about. Once they hear you talk no nonsense, they'll focus on your words.

Yeah, the benefits don't kick in for men until later. Nothing wrong with being 40 and looking 25-30, whether you're male OR female.

I, too, found my youthful looks a curse. Now that I am in my early thirties, looking early twenties is definitely a bonus. Of course, my girlfriend (some age as I) is Asian, and Asian women often look younger than their age.

Hey hope you don't mind me using your pic. I don't really see what the problem is. I don't think you look really young.

no, but you should have asked me first.

Is that you on the left LPP?

^ I am the one in red.

Online, I was never been told I look that much younger ...there are things that doesn't appear in pics , it seems height and body size (which are hard to be estimated in pictures) affect so much the people's estimations of my age.

I had terrible trouble being taken seriously by other mums at the school gate because I looked so young, too young to have children of the age they were.

The only thing you can do is to dress older and try different hairstyles, it would be good to be able to change postures and that kind of thing but most is automatic so that would be too difficult to keep up all the time. Standing tall is an example of changing posture as most people actually don't do this but it does give an 'older' impression.

Seeming confident helps a lot if you look young.

This is curious...I am 26 and am often mistaken for 17/18 or early 20s at best...but have also been mistaken for mid-30s a few times! I`m not quite sure how that happens! I love asking people how old they think I am cos they never get it right.

I have had this problem in the past, but not to a large extent. To combat this I forge a mighty beard! And I recommend you all do the same too! "Even the women?!" I hear you cry! ESPECIALLY the women! BWAHAHAHA!




Or maybe not.

LePetite, taking a look at your photo I have a few recommendations.

1). When you go out get some vertical-striped dress shirts, don't know if rolling up long sleeves would look outlandishly weird with your climate - its a good idea up north but short sleeve would work all the same. Have some leather dress shoes when you go out as well, not like shiny black ones for a suite, more like something business causal.

2). Get some nice designer jeans and even some dress pants, if you want to do something crazy that would actually be kind of stylish - get the black and white checkered "old man" pants from a thrift place; you personally would look pimp in those.

3) You have glasses, I think this is a point that you could really use a lot to your benefit. I'd say spend a whole day or so, or even up to a couple of weeks - shopping online, around town, wherever you can, trying to find the perfect frame. The frames I'd recommend, for your purposes, are the ones that project a bit of that "I'm an a**hole" vibe - I think you know what I'm talking about. Of course you'd want them to fit your general personality a bit but be somewhere 50/50 between you and between the a**hole look (and of course you don't want them to be real loud or gaudy, something subtle but tasteful).

On a non-fashion point work on mannerisms. Look around, try to figure out how guys who are more virile are feeling on an internal level, maybe if you really want to try and figure out where those feeling come from and if you authentically felt them what would be the past experiences and things of that nature that pulled it all together for you. Just saying that while working on mannerisms and faking it to make it can work for some people, when you have AS and particularly overload problems its frankly a bad idea - try to change up your emotional paradigm as best you can to naturally fall into the right zone, don't make up points on reality but just try to view it from different perspectives just like you may want to keep trying to view yourself from perspective and vantage points that you haven't already (not random stupid stuff of course, just something you think could add to you). It can take years to really shift yourself in that direction and come off as an adult from the inside out but it almost takes incinerating your innocence and then returning to being an authentically good person but in a fathering capacity and as a man rather than a child - I know, it sounds weird and extremely cerebral, and yeah when you try to blaze up your innocence I'm not suggesting you get yourself thrown in jail, but you do have to work a lot of these things from the inside to change them and it seems like its the only way to take direct charge or command of the situation.