Big show offs

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Actually staying in a city where the average height is less than most in the UK, I and other tall guys have found there to be an epidemic of 'small man syndrome'. Where they all feel insecure about their height and try to take it out on the taller people.

Glasgow is known for it's poisined dwarves and that is why the knife crime is so high and shorties like to pick on their taller contemporaries. Id rather take a punch from a big person than a knife in my guts. It looks like you have a bad case of this syndrome. It starts of with insecurity and fear of the bigger man frequently leads to you and other short guys conspiring against big people and feeling a need to prove how tough they are to them and can lead to a poisenous face and bitter outlook and often culminates in the sufferer being a wifebeater. Dont worry it can be cureable or at least managed by getting a life and not worrying about what size other people are and what they do.

As an aspie it would drive me round the bend to keep comparing myself with others. Life isnt fair and we have to deal with it. It is too easy to get eaten up with biterness at the way the world is (and i know what im talking about here this isnt something that i read in some manual) but it does your mental health no good and the bully types wont shed any tears for your demise so i impore you to not let them win by letting them get to you so much.Otherwise you could move to Glasgow and become part of the conspiracy instead of being conspired against . To be honest 5 ft 8 is average and not very small atall.

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To an extent iI'm with ante, but think the description of the state of things may be just a wee bit subjective. People are incredibly irrational in general. I love the rationalisations people generate, the stapler isn't working properly, I'll hit it harder; I was late getting to work today, I need a bigger car, my workmate is better at the job than I am, I'll start rumours about his personal life, etc,etc. It's sad that so much importance is given to the newest, biggest, best, or whatever. The competitive outlook is far more prevalent than is being suggested and seems to be built in. That guy Darwin has a lot to answer for with his "natural selection". ante didn't the French have Napolean for a time?

Well do weights if it bothers you that much. Not every female fancies guys with big muscles. Unfortunately lack of socialisation skills as comes with being aspie plus little build doesnt help anyones chances, particularly if you are seen as needy and someone that makes a big deal out of things.(which i dont know if you are)

Girls like to feel you are a strong man that can look out for them because they want to be the needy and protected ones in a relationship and want to be in a relationship with confident happy person that makes them feel good about themselves. You need to feel positive about yourself and your life before any women will want to hop on board. Personally being fancied doesnt help me much because i am generally reclusive and always retreat into my shell even if i can put up a show for a little bit.

Well have you noticed Ante is playing this game too? He wants to get the girls and the good job and will probably get good things to go with the good job. I like big dogs, my two favourites being Rottweilers and German Shephards but im not going to worry if someone is looking on jealously with their anklebiter by their side.

Quite a lot of contributors here show off about how gifted they all are here and how they think they are going to be the next best thing, how is that different from the jocks showing off themselves? At least they were just having a conversation about dogs that they liked, not obsessing over themselves and others that we tend to do. Everyone has an ego and likes to massage it. I try not to encourage my own ego and emotional downfall by playing the game and then getting jealous that NT's are doing it better.

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heh. you could say that.
ante - how old are you, 18? You haven't finished 'filling out' yet. I'm with Eamonn on the 'little guy' thing as well - my dad is a classic case, 5'5" and a complete headcase in his youth. We call em Yorkshire terriers. As for me, I'm a big bloke now, but I was tiny when I was at school, I didnt start growing in earnest until I was 17. I don't throw my weight around now either, unless I have to. Size only matters if you let it.

I suffer from anxiety myself and apart from the odd drink the only time i leave the house is when i need to get something and people being around me (particularly in short spaces) makes me anxious so i am not mocking you just trying to understand. I have an anxiety of all people big and small which leads to anger and depression.

If you feel very threatened by males fair enough but it is irational to go through life fearing every medium sized male so id see a psychologist about working on it, im not taking you as a joke. I have problems myself but i think i should work on it rather than giving in continuing to be a prisoner to my irational fears of which i have many. Though to be fair if you have tried treatment and overcoming these fears and this still gives you stress then maybe it is best you avoid men but have you given this a try? Good luck.

LOL, yes here their counterparts are the Scottish terriers.

god, I hate show off "hot shots" they make me so mad and they take away all the nice girls... grrrr

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Wow. Just... wow.


Got Megalomania?


If all this is some kind of piece of satire, Ante- then congratulations it's very clever. If this is real, and how you actually view the world, then it really is very worrying.

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perhaps the authorities want us to believe that society is more violent than it really is?

after all, if everyone went straight home from work, digested three hours of crap from the television and we tucked ourselves up in bed by 10pm like good, little citizens because we are too afraid of what might happen if we went out and interacted with other people then the authorities have got us exactly where they want us.

ante, i don't think you're being irrational. your negativity is a product of your environment and there are people out there who are thugs. i used to attend a group for people with OCD and there were people there who would endlessly check they had shut all the windows of their house before going out because they were worried that they would be burgled- this is pointless because if someone is that intent on breaking in to someone's house they would probably just smash a window to get inside. what i'm trying to say is that, although fear can be a useful emotion (because it encourages us to avoid situations that are dangerous), excessive amounts of fear can prevent a person from living life to its fullest.

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sorry, i didn't mean to sound bossy. at lot of the things that you wrote in your posts on this thread reminded me of how i used to feel about things so i thought my words may of been some help to you. i just thought that you might find it useful to hear things from another perspective.