Board index › Coping in life › Love and Dating

Why don't girls with Asperger's Syndrome reply on myspace to

Page 2 of 2 [ 22 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2

Previous topic | Next topic

MartyMoose
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 31 Mar 2008
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 957
Location: Chicago

25 May 2008, 1:20 pm

Aspie_Chav wrote:
Texting and emailing is a chore. I know of an aspie girl, but she never reply because she don't waste online she has better things to do.
That reminds me why I never finish sending thank you cards.



KingofKaboom
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 20 Oct 2007
Age: 39
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,471

25 May 2008, 1:22 pm

Sedaka wrote:
im TERRIBLE about all this kind of stuff: keeping up phone correspondence, checking phone messages, checking PMs, responding to PMs, same for emails. i get a lot of anxiety about even reading emails or pms from people i want to make good responses to but... but have no time to doso... ill just skip the message until i do cause i just can't look at them... i get worried they'll think i'm ignoring them.

it's no wonder a lot of the friends that i have made... don't bother with me anymore.
I do the EXACT same thing, whenever I send a girl I like an e-mail I wonder if they got it or ignored me and when I get one I'm to scared to open it b/c it could be bad or a rejection or something so I just put it off as long as I can out of fear :cry:


_________________
Tacos (optional)


LoveableNerd
Deinonychus
Deinonychus

User avatar

Joined: 23 Apr 2008
Age: 52
Gender: Male
Posts: 380
Location: USA

25 May 2008, 1:30 pm

You all make very good points about why they might not respond right away, if at all. Some things I hadn't considered.

However, I still think it best to err on the side of caution. The last thing you want to do is email her every day or two, "I haven't heard back from you yet, is everything ok?" That kind of behavior screams "clingy/needy" at the least, and "deranged stalker" at worst.


_________________
Reasonable people adapt themselves to the world. Unreasonable people attempt to adapt the world to themselves. All progress, therefore, depends on unreasonable people.---George Bernard Shaw

8th Cmdmt: Thou Shalt Not Steal.


EvilKimEvil
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 26 Sep 2007
Age: 47
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,671

30 May 2008, 2:30 pm

Thomas1138 wrote:
Where's your tatoo?


I've got about 8 of them, all in places that can be viewed by anyone, provided its summer (otherwise almost all of my skin is covered because I'm always cold). I have plans for a full back piece and 2 full sleeves . . . Actually, I'm planning out a whole body suit. But I can't get any of that work done until I have the $$$$$.



pakled
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Nov 2007
Age: 68
Gender: Male
Posts: 7,015

01 Jun 2008, 12:18 am

Back when I was single, I used to think there was a perfect girl for me; sitting home alone with the cats and a book, watching Star Trek...;) no wonder we never met...

there's always gonna be some rejection. You can get used to it, but hopefully not too used to it.



Who_Am_I
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 27 Aug 2005
Age: 42
Gender: Female
Posts: 12,632
Location: Australia

01 Jun 2008, 9:05 pm

Because Aspies are really, really bad at keeping the communication going. We get distracted by our interests, we don't know what to say and how to say it...


_________________
Music Theory 101: Cadences.
Authentic cadence: V-I
Plagal cadence: IV-I
Deceptive cadence: V- ANYTHING BUT I ! !! !
Beethoven cadence: V-I-V-I-V-V-V-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I
-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I! I! I! I I I