06 Jun 2008, 2:40 pm
Cyberman wrote:
Zane wrote:
Just tell the guy at the gym your into him.
No, she's not "into" anyone... she said she just wants to have some "flirting fun."
But casual flirting still seems very unnecessary to me... it just makes things even more confusing than they already are. As guys, unless we want to be alone for the rest of our lives, we have to somehow be able to decode the "signals" that women supposedly give off, which is damn near impossible for an Aspie. And it's even more difficult when women are faking the signals too (by flirting.) So my question is, how are we supposed to tell the difference between a serious ("romantic") signal and a non-serious ("flirtatious") signal? (I figured it would be better to ask the question in this thread, rather than the other one.)
P.S.: I find it disrespectful when a girl who flirts with me is also flirting with ten other guys. It's like saying, "Your feelings don't matter."
I find your contradiction amusing. On one hand you tell me she isn't "into" anyone. But on the other hand you are blatantly stating that you wish women would be more direct as opposed to flirting and enjoying the chase...
You see?
Flirting is a game. It is an evolved social past time. When we flirt most times it is just plain harmless fun. But as Aspies we take things way to literal.
I was passing on advice for ways to start convos. She did say she wanted that.
Best way to this day for "hitting" on a person is a direct and to the point "Hey, my name's ____ and I want your nuts" ... j/k on the last part
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I say hi to a lot of women. It shows both interest and confidence. Personally I wish women would do the same. Don't hate on flirting just experiment and have fun with it.
Golden rule of flirting: Never take anything seriously.
06 Jun 2008, 5:25 pm
