Women Marrying Off in Their Mid-Twenties

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Quoted for absolute undeniable truth.

I think what's infinitely more depressing than girls marrying-off in their mid-20s, is, coming from Scotland, AKA First-World Teen Pregnancy Central, is girls my age or younger with two or more kids, tied to some completely useless lowlife ugly scumbag that barely counts as human, purely because they couldn't handle the parenting on their own.

for the other side of the story...

it's kinda hard for single women to age BECAUSE of this magical line when most women marry off... it's far more common for men to be older in relationships than women... so even if a single guy is older, he can still kinda dip down into that younger bracket more easily than a single woman in her 30s or w/e can date a younger guy.

guess what i'm saying is that i understand your dating frustration, but that it's probably even harder for a single gal of your equivocal age cause she has to compete against all these younger gals moreso than older single guys have to compete directly with younger single guys.

just generalizing... but it's probably true more often than not.

I guess I have less reason to worry.
But if all else, fails I try for the unfaithful wives.
A lot of people have the impression that all NT relationships last forever when they really don't.
The average number of partners a human will have is 8, and that's worldwide.

Eh, I imagine that number is on a steady rise currently...

I'd hate to see the number for just the U.S.

Dating someone else's wife is a bit racy, I know, but that's a sign that it might not work with the marriage and that divorce time might be around the corner. And there's a chance he's cheating too.
Don't expect anything long term though, but I learned that I shouldn't expect that out of any relationship unless both parties know what they're doing.
We aren't a monogamous species, that doesn't just count for marriage but courtship as well, of course this doesn't justify cheating, everything I've just said is a hypothetical hyperbole. Wow, I really like saying that

Things are not that good for an older aspie man, though I cant say that it is as harder then an old aspie woman.If the younger years was hard, then imagine getting older and facing an extra burden that comes with older dating.

Wow, suddenly this thread is making me see the light. There is no hope only dreams of what could've or should've been.

Geez, I feel bad for trying to make people feel good

we can set a tentative marriage date, MC.... if things don't pan out

jk

or am i? lololol

Not to mention that some people choose to co-habitate without getting married.

I, personally, would get married eventually.

Well, your generalization applies for me, at least (how I feel & how things seem in my life).

I get depressed thinking my "market value" is declining every day, since males (overall, am not trying to make assertions about those with radically different experiences & perceptions) can seek out & attract younger females. I'm a female getting older (of course, no one actually gets younger-but anyway) and that shrinks my potential dating pool-not by my choice, but because younger guys seem even less likely to be attracted to me. "Double-standard" bothers me in itself as unfair, arbitrary, and culturally promoted-yet is especially offensive & distressing on personal level since it cuts wrong way for me (my demographic).

I don't say that things are tougher for one or the other gender, because it's not simple or just one thing (the various, multiple factors designating who will get paired up vs. who won't.
Back to topic. I got married in my mid-twenties, and was divorced at 31 (no kids).

But then us younger guys have to compete with older guys with their fancy "stable careers" and "houses" for OUR women! Lay off my lady, baldy!

Reminds me of when I was a sophomore in high school asking out a junior only her to tell me she had a bf in college. Blast, how can I compete with that?

Sounds like an unverifiable lie. Have you considered that?

If it's any consolation, I have no intention of marrying until my thirties. I want to be an attorney, and that requires at least 7 years of school. There must be women out there who are childless and over 28 or 30.

^I just can't understand why most women want children since they're a gigantic responsibility and why most of them are obsessed with trying to biologically have them when they're infertile. I guess part of what kept me from wanting children (or at least for now) is watching teenage girls in shelters taking on the responsibility without a father figure around or hearing about their mom caring for them. Just from watching, it would drive me crazy with what you'd have to go through.

Also my sister had hers very young and went into some depression while my mom temporarily helped in caring for them. They turned out cute as ever so I don't hate children when I post about not wanting children. I just hate adults who can't take responsibility for something they planned on having. It's not like they're pets.

Whoops, I guess I sort of went off topic.....

^^^ Been my impression that a lot of people have a deeper and more genuine appreciation for their pets than they do for their kids. Kinda like people usually do better quality work on their hobbies than they do on their jobs.

Being considered an unappreciated responsibility isn't the best thing for a kid.

I know that wasn't in any way what MissC was suggesting or implying.

and...

I'm not going to tell you what you do and don't find attractive, but maybe this is a widespread, commonly accepted idea that should be reconsidered.

I'm quite a bit more than just the origins of my DNA, and so is any kid I raise. There's a mind in that kid that's growing and learning and taking shape. It's not somebody else's kid or mine either. It's a unique human being.