Do You Seem Gay?

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Just asked my little brother, and he did the gay wrist-flop thing and said "Ah, yes, darling."
Sarcastic little...

I think I am pan-sexual and pan-gender which basically means that I don’t juge people based on there gender and I don’t feal I fit into and gender stereotypes or more I fit into both.

Supposedly if i wear a proper shirt i look gay. But i assume they just cant handle my style*cough*. By the way we really need a 'Not to my knowledge' answer

I'm not stylish enough for people to consider me gay.

I appear to be an odd non-entity as far as sex goes. I think people see me more like a dog who comes into the room when you're having sex than another human being.

You might not be bothered or unnerved by someone with an ambiguous gender, but it makes a lot of people nervous for various reasons. Reasons i dont think are stupid or unreasonable. Perhaps if all people were wise, experianced, and strong they would not be bothered by the issue, and would be apologetic and patient when they made mistakes and offended people, but they arent.

The truth of the matter is that when someone in unnormal in anyway(or in other words different in anyway) there exists the possibility of them being sensative to that difference. You need to assume the right thing about a person otherwise conflict will occur. You need to assume that a strait person is strait or they may come a situation in a conversation where you say something that implies they are gay and will take offence. And you can't ask them what they orientation is because that might offend them and most people consider such a question grounds for alienating and fearing the questioneer. Next thing, if you make the question serious and signifigant that will imply that this might be an "issue" for you. Like being so curious about it means you have insecurity issues. So you can't ask, and you can't assume the wrong thing.

I feel that it is this way that people with aspergers are blessed. Because when doubt exists, i ask, and if people get offended i tell them i'm crazy, remember? And even if they do get offended i just damn the consequences.

I'm hungry. And i have all of those items available. Be back in an hour.

I don't think I do now, but in the past I had lots of people who were under that impression. Back then some people had told me that I seemed 'in touch with my feminine side' and I think with my having that ADHD bright-eyed and chipper look also really lent itself toward people taking me that way.

One f'd up thing that happened even a few months ago - I drove to Dairy Queen to get one of those MooLatte things and I remember that day I was getting hit with seasonal changes or something. Sometimes when my overload gets bad, I'll ghost out and have a hard time talking but I'll get that real wierd goofy bright-eyed look. To make a long story short I had some kid behind me in line, by himself (not trying to impress anyone) and ended up shouting "Hey fa***t!! !" like he thought I was gay, showcasing it, and pretty much showing his disgust about it. In the end I think it kinda surprised him when he heard a straight-guys voice and rhettoric comming out when I was ordering.

Yeah, I know some people just talk s**t like that but when that's been a huge pattern in my past and when that kind of thing always not only illicited that response but had people really thinking I was gay and saying as much, it seems like this was just one more of those times.

Someone told me I looked effeminate once- so I hit him with my handbag!

In my past there were those who tried to hang that label on me for various reasons. In 5th grade, I had no interest or talent in sports, football in particular, and going to a school that thought for boys sports was everything, there were kids who wanted to hang that label on me. I also didn't have a desire to get into fights with other kids, and aspired to make high grades, which also lowered my status some. Fortunately, I got out of there the next year so that ended.

It started again when I was in 8th grade and lasted part way into high school. During those years, I wasn't interested in dating, school dances, the prom etc. and personally thought there was nothing wrong with that. Others had an issue with it though and tried to hang that label on me for that reason and when word somehow got out that I had attended an all boys school a few years before, some people considered that fact to be even more proof that it may be so.

The fact I rejected the unwanted advances and teasing from girls made even more problems for me in this area. I thought it should be my choice and not someone else's whether or not I go out. I also didn't like the double standard of it being OK for a girl to reject a guy but not OK for a guy to reject a girl. I didn't understand it then and don't understand it now.

One thing that did help distract people from it a little is one day when this one girl was teasing me I told her she was a "dumb blonde" and everyone got a laugh out of it. After that, everytime this girl bugged me, I'd tell her she was a dumb blonde and everyone thought it was funny watching us argue with each other like that. Even so, the problem still remained.

It took me a long time to realize it wasn't that they actually thought I was, it was they knew I was different and wanted to find some category to put me into to make picking on me acceptable, so they chose gay.

So glad those days are over.

Many times other gay people will assume that I'm straight, even to the point of being judgemental about me. --I suppose it works out better that way, because I really don't feel comfortable around shallow, judgemental people anyways.

Maybe when I was a young non-sport-playing Sarah McLachlan-listening theatre person. But then I gained 40 pounds, stopped grooming properly, and only wear 80's rock T-shirts and 5 year old jeans.