Reyairia wrote:
Gamester wrote:
3) It shouldn't matter or not if he was joking.last time I checked, no guy in their right mind will threaten another male friend even in joke because they're jealous. that's a warning sign for any female to watch out for, and any self respecting friends to make sure that this guy doesn't hurt her.
He never threatened anyone, he just was somewhat of a jerk.
Gamester wrote:
4) Rey. You may be smarter, but you're being blinded for your "love" for him, and I'm using the quotations because I'm thinking that on both ends it may be lust, not love that you're both feeling for each other with the breakup. I'm not saying that's what it is, I'm saying that's what it could be.
Considering that is, as I mentioned in the opening post, a
long distance relationship, it's impossible for it to be lust, as I only knew what he looked like until after we started our relationship (and he's ok looking, leaning into ugly apparently - when you're in love you can't tell). And considering how much I love every detail of his personality, and how I'm allowing myself to suffer like this I highly, highly doubt it's lust.
Gamester wrote:
6) It means that he's an idiot. For him to be jealous in a good mood, but down in a bad mood, is evident of the fact that if he were to ask you out again, he'd be like this no matter what.
Even if he were, I'd have to reject him unless he really proved he loved me. And if it were to happen, I don't think it would for at least another year.
Gamester wrote:
The way I see it, you are too young Rey to be this devoted to a man. You're still both young, and the whole long distance thing, LONG DISTANCE, you're here and he's there, you see each other........what? maybe once a month? that's a sign right there that it isn't meant to be. I would advise you to read "When God Writes Your Love Story," by Eric and Leslie Ludy. I don't care if you're a Christian or whatever, read it. you don't know how to maintain a relationship until that book speaks to you. Trust me on this. I read it.
a) we haven't met outside of the internet yet, though I hope to do so next summer.
b) A lot of people have gotten married from meeting on the internet.
c) Considering that I am fiercely anti organized religion, I would not feel comfortable at all reading it. Could you suggest to me a secular alternative?
In answer to C, I'll advise you on this. It doesn't make a difference whether you're christian or not, religious or against the established religious continuity, such as yourself, and also such partly as my views on the church as well. This book is for those who are searching on how to find the ideal relationship. I don't give a rat's behind what you believe. To me this book helped me realize that looking isn't what we need to do, it helps us look within ourselves to find what we need. One of the other people on WP who is Buddhist took my advice, the way I see it. Be offended by my offering it, or read it, I don't care. But I'm being serious here, this is what I do. I help people. Anyperson who so snidely rejects my advice, can reject the fact that by what I say, I may be stopping a situation from starting that may be bad on both ends, and as such in relation to A and B, the fact that you haven't met yet goes deep in to this as well.
you need to grow up a lot more Reyairia, and until you do, you shouldn't date, because the way I see it, you're looking for mr. perfect. Well Mr. Perfect this guy isn't. You need more then that, but you are too blinded by your long distance objectivity to see past your own short sightedness.
I'm blunt, but my bluntness is to an effect that I Hope helps you understand what you need. Internet relationships just don't work, no matter what you've heard. Those small percent and I do mean very small percent, got lucky. But you need to go out and find someone close by, you're blinded by someone you haven't met. For all you know he could be a rapist, but he's not telling you that. Search for what you believe in is true. But I'm done helping you.
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04 Aug 2008, 12:32 am
