(non-intelligent) girl has a crush on me

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I wonder if she just gets tongue-tied around you because she has a crush on you.

Maybe seeming like she is not knowing what to say because she has a crush then?

That could explain it.

Still, it does seem at minimum her mother has kept her very dependent and with 40 coming up fast if mummy has been doing this what kind of favor is this if mummy is sixty something very heavy and health poor? What is she gonna do if mummy kicks it?

I'm sorry, and I don't mean to be rude here...but....yeah.

But you're going by the social norm of whether you two should date because according to some socialized (and stupid for that matter) scale, you're smarter then her, and you're worried about what others are going to think??

I'm sorry, but when in Heaven's name did it become popular to judge a person on whether or not they finished college or not, anywhere in the world(with the exception of Iraq and Iran, we're not counting them) and if they're smart or not, and if your friends like her. I'm sorry, but are you trying to be a douche bag here? YOU"RE JUDGING HER BECAUSE SHE"S NOT AS SMART AS YOU? WHAT? ARE YOU STUPID AS WELL AS BRAINLESS??

If you like the girl, then go for it. It shouldn't matter at all. It's nice to know that the US is far less judgemental then the rest of the world, after all we have free speech, and idiots can choose to marry whomever, since they won't be looked down upon if they marry someone smarter then them.


With all due respect, Asterisp, you are too far out to even be considering a relationship. Grow up and mature slightly. Thank you.

Just as long as there are shared values.

Recreational compatibility is very important for example.

I catch myself reading and watching the extended cable (History, Military Channel, Discovery, Investigation Discovery, Green Channel, BBC America, you name it), plus a few outdoor activities like camping, hiking, fishing.... a few indoor activities maybe cooking or Internet

If you don't have that, you might be tempted later by someone who you do find desirable..... so wait for the one you really want.

I think a lot of what you said, Gamester, has merit. But the situation's not completely clear. Sounds like: you're affected your friends say, Asterisp--and you should dump that. But do you enjoy the time spent with her? Is the conversation awkward because you have nothing in common? It's hard to have long conversations with someone you're just getting to know. Try doing activities together, then people relax and forget themselves and talk in between whatever it is you're doing and you get to know her more.

AND...I would put a lot of money down that you have annoying things that you do too Everybody does. That's why they invented "commitment," so people wouldn't leave once they found out what is inevitably true: we're all annoying in one way or another.

In short, if it's that hard to get out of, I'd set up a date with her, and seeing as that's very likely to not go greatly, say you're not made for each other afterwards, and amicably detach yourself completely. It's what I'd do as I'm always good for time, and it's not like I'd run around the main street proudly announcing I have a "date".

There ain't a lot I've learned, but there is one thing:

Heart's more important than the brain.

I don't get this, you say she is nice and would be nice to spend time with her, you also say you are attracted to her and that she is attractive, sweet and hot. It sounds as if the non-intelligent deal is just an excuse...

One cannot reproduce with a stupid person: you'll have stupid children!

I think I am going to arrange some things to do together, like renting a small sail boat or something (she can sail also). Then we have some time to talk. Then I can get to know her better and talk about her interests; without people interfering. If it does not work, then at least I know, I tried to be nice to her and I took the time to know her better.


@Gamester: Social judgement is not something determined by country, but by the social circles you are in. Mine are a bit more restrictive, has it's disadvantages but for an Aspie a lot better to understand. I know some more 'liberal' circles, but I could not last there. If you prefer the term 'not grown up', well maybe that's true; otherwise I would not post the question? At least your answer tells that I need to make a good choice, thank you.

Just be honest if it comes to that, i.e. you are not compatible intellectually. That is the best type of dick to be...

Intelligence is multifaceted anyway. Some people think some sporty people are less intelligent, when in fact the have high spatial and motor intelligence.