Why do people get married?

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It does seem like maybe it is a sort of rite of passage of sorts. It might provide a certain level of closeure....maybe at least for a while....It is a sort of binding contract that makes it harder for one partner or the other to escape....It might make the implication of their actions within the relationship mean a bit more. These are just theories....There are lots of people who wouldn't have stayed together (or shouldn't have stayed together) if they weren't married....and then lots of people who are together for years who break up once they get married. I guess marriage is alot more relevant if children are involved...and perhaps pointless if they are not...and the reason I will never marry is because I can't have kids....What's more...I am in an open relationship (more or less)....which seems only logical....though somehow it also makes it seem more binding than a marriage...as there are no rules to be broken that would potentially terminate the contract.....it will just go on and on....until I get old and unattractive....and my partner finds someone who is young and fertile....

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"""It is a sort of binding contract that makes it harder for one partner or the other to escape""

escape...wow that sounds bad but its kinda like that
if you love someting, let it go and it might come back.
I get a little with those that rip out a contract
the first thing they do, to make sure they keep all their
money and stuff if it goes bad. To me thats something
children would do, not adults. It might be "smart" but it
has nothing to do with love, maybe other then loving yourself
alot

the fact marrigae does not work for half the population, but works for the other, does not mean marrige doesnt work. 50/50 is a lot better odds then some things people go for, and at timesw ends up costing less. Some couples are wrong for each other, some people shouldnt get married, and marriage is found in other cultures and relgions, so its not a christian thing.

If marriage is just a piece of paper, why are gays fighting so hard for it?

There are a number of legal benefits to marriage, at least in the US.

My brother in law met a woman who insisted on marrying him so she could have say if he were ever on life support... ... and once married she got a lock box and put his passport in it. He doesn't know the combination. What a metaphor!

actually, when we got married my husband was allowed to stay in the uk, as he is from africa.
Also it was much easier to register our kids with a marriage certificate.
If my hubby dies i will have some benefit (YEEHEE!! ! lol)
etc... It makes life simpler.

Nobody needs to make a huge party for the wedding. It was very simple for me, i dont regret it, because who needs big dress which you will wear only once?

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Guess it just depends on the people and what they like,
it couldn`t have worked better for us anyway - we were
together for many years and made it fine, drifted apart
after a while and parted as very good friends, no hard
feelings or anything, and no papers or lawyers or trouble.
She has a very good job now, shes on tv sometimes and
i have nothing to complain about myself in a way, so we
made it just fine i think when looking at the whole relationship
and after it ended. We did plan and think long term, just not
in the same way as many others maybe. People are different,
thats all. It ended but we had 8 wonderful years together.

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I`m really happy it ended the way it did - it would have
felt awful if we had argued and made alot of noise about
it. Of course i didnt want it to end but sometimes its the way
of things i guess. Still care for her as a friend and could not
be more happy that she has come as far as she have, even
though i`m no longer a part of her life

Basically I see three reasons for it.

1. It eliminates alot of dumb questions later on down the road if you should ever want to have children.

2. There are legal benefits as mentioned above should you ever become sick or disabled and need someone to handle your affairs.

3. It somewhat deters blood-sucking relations from hovering like buzzards over your personal possesions while you're on your death bed.