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21 Sep 2008, 12:40 am

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He came here for support, and you're jumping down his throat? C'mon, Zak... there are more constructive methods than that.

RG... I'm not sure how to approach your issue, save for continuing to make the effort, perhaps starting online so that any expression is more overt, more evident, so that you can better read it. Ask questions, and keep trying. Good luck to you.


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Sometimes what a person needs is a bit of a stern position to wake them up, when I read that I saw my former self, so I reacted as if I would like to speak to my former self. Much time is wasted wallowing in one's self pity because one is too blind to see the simplicity of what must be done - if he's sitting there doing nothing,then nothing will change, the only thing that can change is how he behaves. I hear you on the "tone it down a bit", I winced after I re-read my first post, but you have to understand I've been there, so its like talking to a former self.



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21 Sep 2008, 1:01 am

ZakFiend wrote:
makuranososhi wrote:

He came here for support, and you're jumping down his throat? C'mon, Zak... there are more constructive methods than that.

RG... I'm not sure how to approach your issue, save for continuing to make the effort, perhaps starting online so that any expression is more overt, more evident, so that you can better read it. Ask questions, and keep trying. Good luck to you.


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Sometimes what a person needs is a bit of a stern position to wake them up, when I read that I saw my former self, so I reacted as if I would like to speak to my former self. Much time is wasted wallowing in one's self pity because one is too blind to see the simplicity of what must be done - if he's sitting there doing nothing,then nothing will change, the only thing that can change is how he behaves. I hear you on the "tone it down a bit", I winced after I re-read my first post, but you have to understand I've been there, so its like talking to a former self.


rAmen on that - I've been having to look at some of my own words in retrospect... *shakes head* Appreciate your response; helps to make sense of the purpose behind it. It makes much more sense in that light - and I'm sure it helps him to recognize that as well. Change is essential.


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21 Sep 2008, 1:44 am

ZakFiend wrote:
makuranososhi wrote:

He came here for support, and you're jumping down his throat? C'mon, Zak... there are more constructive methods than that.

RG... I'm not sure how to approach your issue, save for continuing to make the effort, perhaps starting online so that any expression is more overt, more evident, so that you can better read it. Ask questions, and keep trying. Good luck to you.


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Sometimes what a person needs is a bit of a stern position to wake them up, when I read that I saw my former self, so I reacted as if I would like to speak to my former self. Much time is wasted wallowing in one's self pity because one is too blind to see the simplicity of what must be done - if he's sitting there doing nothing,then nothing will change, the only thing that can change is how he behaves. I hear you on the "tone it down a bit", I winced after I re-read my first post, but you have to understand I've been there, so its like talking to a former self.

Hah. I don't see myself wallowing in any self-pity. Maybe your reaction is a startling example of how unwritten communication or "reading between the lines" can cause us Aspies difficulties even in an online forum.

I'm exploring options and will get to the stuff you have suggested soon. I'm in the process of moving my home now, but things should get back to a more routine state next week.

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21 Sep 2008, 1:53 am

ZakFiend wrote:
Much time is wasted wallowing in one's self pity because one is too blind to see the simplicity of what must be done

Or most likely, they're hoping to find some easier way, when there is none. I have been guilty of this!



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21 Sep 2008, 5:37 am

BPalmer wrote:
ZakFiend wrote:
Much time is wasted wallowing in one's self pity because one is too blind to see the simplicity of what must be done

Or most likely, they're hoping to find some easier way, when there is none. I have been guilty of this!


Yes you are correct.