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the problem with having relationships with normal women is once you learn how to do it, for the most part you will attract women that like you because you are different, not because you are you. this shiit played out many times in my life before i realized it. now its certainly easier to attract women when you are unique and functional, but it simply wont last when the basis of attraction is what amounts to boredom with everyone else on her end. still you can get lots of asss being "weird"

Well, my boyfriend has Asperger's. I'll start with that bit of info. I love him more than anything in the world, and I truly mean that with no doubts in my mind. When I became attracted to him, I didn't quite know him that well. I was shy of him, afraid to talk to him. I'd see him in homeroom and in the hallways of my high school, and I'd see how much of a mystery he was to me. Sometimes, I'd see him being quiet, takling vaguely. Other times, he'd be really into a conversation, full of so much energy and interest in what he was talking about. What first got me liking him was, of all things, his looks. But not just his body, his eyes and his face. He has a good look about him, and when I looked at his eyes for the first time, I was hooked on him. They were so deep and brown, and... I don't quite know how to explain it. It was like I could see more of him, knwo more about him just by looking in his eyes. And then I was intrigued to know more about him, to get to know him. We talked a little bit more as the months went on, me still being extrememly shy of him. He was so kind to me, so sweet natured towards me. If I were upset, he'd give me hugs, comfort me, tell me it would be alright. He made me smile, and I tried my best to understand him, after learning about his Asperger's. I'd ask him many many questions about Asperger's, and life for him, and he'd always be willing ot answer. Now, it may just be me, but I like to learn more about things. And I wanted to know everything about his Asperger's. Soon, a few months later, my friend sent him a text message telling him that i loved him, and he became so engaged in conversations with me for months afterwards, interested in why I loved him, how long I have, what love feels like, why I loved him, etc. Eventually, he fell in love wiht me, but denied it from himself, not wanting to fall in love with me because he didnt' want to complicate my life *he told me this, so I'm not just guessing why he denied it*. A few months after that, he told me, and we've been together for a while now. ^^ I fell in love with him because he was different from everyone else- not because he had asperger's as well, but because he treated me better than anyone else. I like people who care about me, love me. I didn't plan on falling in love with an AS person, but I did, and I couldn't be happier. Also, he relates to me. I haven't had the greatest life in the past, and we're similar in almost everything. No one understood him, or me. We didn't tak to people, we didnt' have too many friends, no one quite understood why we were the way we are. *I'm NT, but I was just antisocial and awkward around people to begin with*. So we know what it's like for eachother. Also, it's almost scary how similar we are. We like the same things in just about everything.

Basically, it was just a chance thing that he has AS. But I became attracted to him mostly because of how he acted. He's sweet, he's caring, he makes me laugh, he keeps me interested when he talks to me, he's a mystery to me sometimes, he's a character, and I love him. It differs for everyone, but I've heard somewhere that AS people can be every good lovers *i read about it after we were together* (not for the sexual way, but because they love their other person with so much emotion). I hope I helped a little. I wish I could be of more help to you. Just be yourself. You'll find someone, if that's what you're attempting to do. Find someone who makes you happy, who intrigues you. Because chances are, you'll relate in some way. Then just take it from there.