Sex: whats its personal value and meaning too you.

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[Male 22]

Sex to me is very intimate.

the woman to me is the object of my affection.

I have often thought about the idea of a ONS (one night stand)

I believe it is all about the women. I love sex don't get me wrong but it is much more fun to please a woman than "get my rocks off" as they say.

I certainly have never and will never lie to a woman for sex.

Unless i find out some loop hole my personal Bushido would never allow it...


PS: Deadroses I L O V E that avitar. Shikamaru is literally my favorite manga/anime charactor ever. Totally relate to him. So true.

-meaning: reproduction, enjoyment or obsession.
-value: very little unless sex worker.
-male: You got male!

Sex is good. Nothing wrong with mutual pleasure, no matter your kink.

I think it's a basic animal act, no matter how much we humans "sanctify" it. Sex is normal and healthy, I don't care what gender it's with.

Sex:

What's its personal value and meaning too you?

I'm strongly, seemingly instinctually and perhaps even genetically monogamous (though the latter would be considered farcical by scientific standards), right off the bat. Traditionally, I didn't used to care about such things, especially marriage. I started looking deeper at the effects of sexual lifestyles and formed the values I have now. Sex, for me, is with one person for life, and should I lose them, I won't have it again with another person due to lack of interest in it outside of my chosen mate.

Sex in and of itself is not important to me, and I can live perfectly well without it. With my mate, it's very important to a deeper, more trusting bond. It's basically the culmination of the bond, the consummation of our love, and something of great value that is shared between us and no one else, that only we can experience in such deep and detailed ways because of said bond. It's not mere gratification, even though it can be anything from slow, sensual and totally psychological, to very physical and even kinky. Whatever the way it's done, it's that it's done between myself and my life partner and best friend.

What does the opposite sex as a person mean too you (objective)?

I'm not exactly sure what this question is getting at, but on the whole I actually tend to deeply distrust males. With the ones I do trust, it's a deep trust and friendship like any other. Within my one relationship, it's much more about the individual than his sex or gender role. He stands for my 'duality' partner, the yin to my yang, so to speak. Without him, I can't achieve the full sexual duality of sperm and egg, either, so this has biological as well as psychological and philosophical, implications.

I've always felt there were a couple men out there for me, and I've been very picky. I chose my current life mate from dreams, before I knew who he was. He's my archetype, as best I can tell, and although our time together is hard and the sex has been, and can, be daunting, it feels necessary to stay in the monogamous union, very probably for both of us.

So, basically, sex for me is defined within that monogamous duality. Anything else is just masturbation and doesn't hold a candle to it.

Well im 16 and a virgin
Well it used to be somethng to just get it over with.. doesnt matter who with.... honestly. i felt like such a freak for stil being a virgin.
But yeah.. now i want to wait.. it should be with someone u care about and who cares about you who u love and who loves you.. who you want to be with..
My ex kept telling me sex and love were the same thing to try and get me to have sex with him.. Aaaaah i am so glad i didnt. it would have been the biggest mistake of my life.i do not think sex and love are the same thing. i did not love that guy and he most certantly did not love me.
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Ps. i am female if u hadnt guessed lol

I find that really respectable, Angel. Kudos to you, your words are wise for your age.

Thanks Orbyss
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sex is very very fun...also it makes me feel better about myself, less isolated from the rest of the human race (i got rejected MANY times in school, so actually finding someone to have sex with relieves my dread somewhat) ^.^ x

By itself, it's simply a physical act--one that causes me a lot of frustration since I haven't found anyone to do it with.

At this point in my life, I don't need it to mean anything in particular in order to make it worthwhile. However, depending on how I feel toward my partner, sex COULD mean many things. I don't consider having sex for the simple sake of the act to detract from the possibility of it (in another case) being an expression of the intensity of my feelings for a woman. When I talk about feelings here I mean a deep attraction to a person on a physical and personal level. I have never experienced wanting a life-long, committed relationship, though I suppose this would add another dimension to sex.

I won't say I really understand sex until I have experienced in at least several of its forms and dimensions. If there is anything I don't like, it is when people try to set what the meaning of sex needs to be. I find that forcing a meaning on sex makes it have in essence no meaning, for then it becomes nothing separate from what someone else has assigned to it.

""Sex: whats its personal value and meaning too you.
and what does the opposite sex as a person mean too you (objective).""


Omg thats one hell of a question - i`m male, straight as they come
but i`m not sure how to answer this... I prefer love over sex but
both combined can be dynamite. Sex is not something i have a
goal of having just to have it, theres alot of things that have to
"click" first or else i get nothing from it and i just feel very bad
afterwards. I know some guys dont get this at all, and i`m not
sure i get it completly myself, its just the way it is. My worst
nightmare is a sexual experience where the other person
doens`t have much fun, how the other person feels is everything
for me, its more important then how i feel in that situation because
there is no way i can feel good if the other person doesn`t and i just
feel like crawling into a hole in the ground and stay there if that
happens, it can feel very devistating. Which might be why i am so
careful with keeping my pants on. if i should stumble into a bad
experince it leaves me feeling bad for weeks, so its not worth it.
Actually, i still feel a little bad about a experience i had in 1998
and thats a while ago so it shouldn`t matter in any way, but thats
one of the things i have to block out, or else it can almost make
me just sit down and do a massive *facepalm*, its kinda crazy
it being over 10 years ago but theres nothing i can do.

I am female. And I don't think I will ever do sex. Because I don't like touch, and closeness of someone's body. I can't tolerate even my own body; sometimes my own skin is caussing terrible distress... Besides sex - I only connect with evil things; evil outcomes of humans' instincts. So it's both psychological and phisical aversion to sex. I don't even feel the need of masturbation.

At its most basic level, sex is a tempting and enjoyable (albeit risky) activity that we spend loads of money and effort on, and therefore must have some entertainment value. Ah the visceral, literal aspie use of language

Nonetheless, I personally feel that sex is something to be shared only between two people who love each other. By love I mean the real kind - the kind that is pretty much impossible for people under the age of 18 to feel and understand (that is, high school love is not the love I'm talking about)

I'd imagine that, even though I'm an atheist, that this stems from the strong family values that were instilled upon me as a child, raised in a strongly Mormon family. I am a virgin by choice (many opportunities, all turned down), and plan to be so until I find someone I truly love - even though the biological temptation to just let loose and f**k is still there.

I'm virgin (17 y o) and sex has no meaning for me. I dislike touching a person. Sometimes I even can't.

Male, and also a virgin which might have an effect on my answer.

The "meaning" of sex, at face value, seems trivial so I assume you're asking more of the value of it. I don't see sex as all that valuable per se, at least not anymore, but I take great personal stock in the notion of being in a committed relationship where both parties are satisfied. Also, I take some stock in the selfish "mission" to keep myself in the gene pool as some compensation for my own mortality so I may want children, eventually.

Consciously I try to treat women the same age as me the same way I treat men, but unconsciously I treat them a little bit differently. I can only hazard conjecture as to why this is, but I have a few ideas particularly in the case of women I like or find attractive (not necessarily both). The first is bitterness or defensiveness from having been let down; for whatever reason, I always found it much more difficult to get on with women than men at any age. The second is anxiety as a sort of reaction to my own fear of change. The third is signs of indoctrination since I am mostly surrounded by people who consciously prefer to treat the opposite sex differently.

WOW!
There were some very frank and honest answers here.

For me?

I love the feeling of intimacy of laying next to someone, feeling their body warmth, and placing your hand on the curve ov her hips.

As far as actual sex goes, when done correctly, it's great. Being able to give another person the intensity of an orgasm is incredible. And knowing that your lover is trying to do the same to you is great too.

If you are a Christian, you will see the face of God, if you are an atheist, you will call out your lovers name!

I've been unattached for a while now, and I miss the intimacy more than anything else. The feeling of being wanted, loved and maybe lusted after is the best!

I'm still undecided on kids or not.