04 Dec 2008, 11:00 am
Haliphron wrote:
makuranososhi wrote:
And in the absence of definitive proof, why choose to find the worst possible answer? There are a lot of reasons why they could have split, why she is in a new relationship. We determine how we see the world, and we choose a lot more than we realize.
Because its so totally OBVIOUS!
Why waste your time running through all possible motives?? Even if we determine how we "see" the world, that dont change the fact that an objective reality exists that is independent of our perception. In a nutshell:You dont create your own reality, reality imposes itself on you and the only choice you have is to acknowledge it or try to ignore it.Might I add, IME women are notoriously dishonest and disingenuous when they end relationships. They often simply cut the other person and keep their true motivations concealed, perhaps not to hurt the guys feelings and/or to incite his wrath and envy.
Why waste your time being negative and impairing your bias further in relating with the other gender? No matter what happened, moving on is the important part. In a nutshell - you don't create a reality, you create a perspective. The difference between ours is clear, although I wonder how different our experiences have really been. I'd caution a guess that it is less than we'd imagine.
People are dishonest and disingenuous creatures - not women, not men, but people. Quit making this a pissing match or spite fest and recognize that for every time you've been spurned or hurt, there has been another hurt as bad or worse. Sorry, but I call BS on the label.
M.
04 Dec 2008, 11:40 am
makuranososhi wrote:
Why waste your time being negative and impairing your bias further in relating with the other gender? No matter what happened, moving on is the important part. In a nutshell - you don't create a reality, you create a perspective. The difference between ours is clear, although I wonder how different our experiences have really been. I'd caution a guess that it is less than we'd imagine.
Because JM2008 asked a question about his ex-gf's motives and I felt he deserved an honest answer. Although I dont doubt you have good intentions, what you said initially did come across as slightly patronizing.
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People are dishonest and disingenuous creatures - not women, not men, but people. Quit making this a pissing match or spite fest and recognize that for every time you've been spurned or hurt, there has been another hurt as bad or worse. Sorry, but I call BS on the label.
Totally!
04 Dec 2008, 11:46 am
04 Dec 2008, 11:49 am
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