MR_BOGAN wrote:
When a guy doesn't want to get to close it means he want's to get to know you before commiting, which is a good thing. Or it could mean he is not really interested.
Rest assured that, if a guy has any sex drive at all, some kind of romantic relationship will be in the back of his mind somewhere if you're around him long enough...
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When every you say the words "let's just be friends", that is like a polite rejection and the guy will think that you are not really interested in him. You need to explain that you are not rejecting him and you are seriously interested in him.
QFT.
Women use "let's be friends" to mean "hell no" so much that it's sickening...
Probably the best course of action when you want to get to know a guy better would be to say that you want to get to know him better, and then you would choose to date him or not... Most guys (at least any guy that is worth dating) wouldn't mind the wait, and would actually be a little relieved in that he doesn't have to do that usual pyrotechnics show to attract you...
PS: I'm not rolling in cash, but I'm fairly emotionally stable and don't have a substance addition (in fact I'm phobic of personally drinking anything alcoholic, although I dont mind when other people drink...)
Also, of your list of "bad" qualities:
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suffer from bouts of severe depression during which I lie around and don't do much of anything
not good at navigating world of traditional careers due to AS + life history
socially awkward - tend to be too quiet or ramble on without knowing when to stop
probably have an annoying lisp
unabashedly geeky (could be a good quality)
high sex drive
very disorganized, have a hard time getting things done on time, or at all
don't think in terms of money - not much of a bread winner, but at least I'm thrifty
SPACEY
very forgetful when it comes to mundane things
get anxiety about attending large social gatherings
become bored and depressed if not intellectually stimulated
The only one I see as a quality that would turn me away is the first one. The lisp and the forgetful I'm indifferent to, but all the other qualities in that list I actually see as attractive (even the socially awkward, since that means that I'm not alone...)
So do know that there is at least one man in this world that would be willing to go out with you (although I would be more content staying in with you than going out because of aforementioned social awkwardness)... and if there's one there's sure to be others...
13 Dec 2008, 4:59 pm
