An online dilemma ... plz help.

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Tell her you just want to remain friends because you havn't met her yet. It is her problem if she can't handle that, not yours.

If she ever travels to Lebanon you need to meet her.

Damn! you are a little heart breaker.

She's a person not a thing.

I have no issue with meeting people on the internet, or even starting a relationship there, and making it a reality in "real life". You would have to proceed with caution, and make sure you are not filling in the blanks with wishful thinking. And you would have to trust that your partner do the same. And then both of you would have to be completely, brutally honest. Send pictures both flattering and unflattering, talk on the phone, confess some things. Both people would have to be very realistic, and it is very difficult to find realistic people.

Just because a girl has online friends and an active online life doesn't mean she is socially incompetent, or unpopular. A girl in this situation may be a socially adept person who is an introvert, or going through an unusual dry spell, maybe just had a falling out with her best friend or group of friends, possibly in a transitional phase between social groups, or someone who lives in a town where there really is absolutely nothing to do. Maybe her parents are overprotective, or she lives in a small town where everyone knows everyone else and she is tired of the local yokels. There are a million possibilities besides "she is hiding something".

Still, I wouldn't take her declaration of love very seriously. Not yet. Not until you have talked on the phone at the very least, or preferably have met in person. Or, have made concrete plans to meet in person.

The fact that she says she "luffs" you, though, already, leaves me a little bit concerned about her judgement. I might start backing slowly away, if I were you....

being easily offended is always a great quality. thus proving an easily offended person can be offended by almost anything. i bet you voted for george bush

you refer to her as a she. You're listed as a female. yet you say you're opposite sex?


I am officially confused

*shakes head* [fail]

That is a difficult situation, LPP - I do not envy you. Given what you describe, she may consider attraction to be love; I cannot say for certain, but it does seem to be that she's expressing interest, being affectionate, instead of professing the deepest of love for you. It is foreign to me, your aversion to online attachment - provided you recognize the difference, which it is apparent you do, then it need not turn into something negative or loathsome. What is lost to considering it flattering and moving on as friends, perhaps starting to talk more? There is indication that she would like to get to know you better, and you can do so at a distance without pressure.


M.

well i had that in my profile because i wasnt a serious guy. i changed it a few days ago to it correct stats.
i already explained why i had female in my profile and i really dont feel like explaining it again

and im shure you are in a relationship? if not how can you say "fail?" since the majority of sociaty seems to work this way

Yes, I'm engaged and moving cross-country to be with her. I find your approach to be repulsive, and is completely unrelated to what was being asked in the first place - thus, the [fail] tag.


M.

That's great LPP!

But I too would be a bit suspicious if the word luff/love was used. I'd be weary if I was you, especially since she's only been communicating to you via online.

I think it's easy for people to put much ideal onto someone who they can connect to online rather than real life. That doesn't mean you shouldn't meet this girl, just be prepared if anything should come as a surprise.

I see that she is from Africa-Sudan, maybe her way of saying she's interested in you is luff/love. But I would be careful...

Only reason I say that is I've had spams that involved words misworded....

Other than that, I kinda agree with AnnaBanna, most of us in general get sucked into projecting our interests onto someone who we don't know much about other than what is communicated online.

That doesn't mean don't take a chance at it, just be very cautious and careful.

oh no! cry into your shirt. lepetiprince isnt some emo, and probably already knows what hes gonna do despite asking for advice

Thank you for your advice. While he likely does have his mind made up, he asked for input in a sincere manner which I respect. If you don't mind, there isn't much more that we have to say and I'd rather the thread remain on topic.


M.

and this is why your moving across country. once you've been on the block awile you'll be back here asking why the girl who you moved all the way across the country for dumped you

For my best friend of the past eight years, ever since me met at work? Looking forward to the future. Sorry you have such a negative attitude, but I've had my fair share of bad relationships and petty betrayals... you have your cynicism, just as I have my belief in her and our relationship. Even if things go as you suggest, it won't keep me from looking forward.


M.

yeah desperate guys are usually more opptomistic. hopefully she isnt in a fishtank, oh im kidding! goodluck, but i doubt it

Anyway - look forward to your response, LPP. Hope all is well.


M.