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26 Dec 2008, 11:57 pm

It sometimes happens that a gal will meet a guy and they fall in love. They're so happy, that they see another person who isn't attached, and feel compelled to be 'matchmaker', so that their friends can be just as 'happy' as they are.

That help? it's usually the 'b' plot in most romantic movies...;)



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27 Dec 2008, 12:23 am

JohnHopkins wrote:
...Prejudice?

...Why does prejudice bother me?

...I didn't think there was much that needed explaining about why prejudice bothers me. Prejudice is inexcusable.


you have no prejudices?

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27 Dec 2008, 6:04 pm

None that come to mind, though I'm sure I do. Any that reach my attention I try to work on. Prejudice and bigotry are among the things I hate most in the world.

Are you my psychiatrist now??



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27 Dec 2008, 6:44 pm

No one is free from prejudice, even if it is against only one person.

And if prefjudice were truly inexcusable, then the majority of members currently on WP might very well be banned.



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27 Dec 2008, 6:52 pm

...

Interesting logic, there.



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27 Dec 2008, 8:35 pm

JohnHopkins wrote:
None that come to mind, though I'm sure I do. Any that reach my attention I try to work on. Prejudice and bigotry are among the things I hate most in the world.

Are you my psychiatrist now??


no, I have never been to a psychiatrist, is that the questions they ask?

I have prejudices and probably bigotry too, but I also can't allow myself to indulge them as it is morally distasteful to me. Some of it I was surely taught, as I can't think how nature would have had born such opinions hard wired into me.

My biggest problem is trying to identify when I am not living up to the task I have given myself.

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28 Dec 2008, 3:08 am

Miyah wrote:
I have never had a chance to date a guy and I have three girlfriends who have boyfriends right now. I am very happy for them but I notice that there is less time to do some girly time. First, on of them invited me to go bowling with she and her boyfriend tomorrow. However, I suggested to her that there is a bowling alley at a mall and we could meet there so I could get some good deals and still see her. However, she wasn't interested and I felt like it was cold. Not only that, I don't hear from my friends as much as I used too because they are occupied with them. I also saw this girl at the beginning of the month and we were having a good time, but it got cut shoddy because he was calling her on the phone and she took off on me. Not that I was staying around any longer anyway but I still felt left out.


I have to say I've been lucky at this end of things, yes my friends will end up dating but it never really closes them out or has me seeing them so much less - if anything they're girlfriends just end up being part of the group. Also, then again, as I'm rather independent in spirit and not really hanging out with any particular set of friends more than once a week it helps in that we aren't really cutting into personal or relationship time.

I think your right though, this is just human nature and its what tends to happen especially at the beginning of relationship. Its a bonding process and the cement and groundwork of intimacy start here, as its established and as they build a stronger basis with each other I think it lightens up a bit and you'll likely see at least a little more of them.



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Fnord

All this could happen for sure and I love your quote about Donald Trump: yes he is an a**hole!

I just hope that none of that happens to that man.


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16 May 2016, 1:52 pm

pakled wrote:
It sometimes happens that a gal will meet a guy and they fall in love. They're so happy, that they see another person who isn't attached, and feel compelled to be 'matchmaker', so that their friends can be just as 'happy' as they are.

That help? it's usually the 'b' plot in most romantic movies...;)


Yep, I agree


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17 May 2016, 12:21 pm

nevermind...why do people pull up dead threads?


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17 May 2016, 12:21 pm

Night of the Living Eight-Year-Old Thread



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20 May 2016, 1:12 pm

Unfortunately, this is very common.

It broke my heart in high school, but instead of feeling sad I just find it annoying these days lol.

When some people get in relationships, they struggle to place heavy emphasis on their friendships.

Give it time though. Once the novelty of their relationship wears off, and it always does, these girls will want to come complain to you about all of their problems.

Advice - find reliable friends to turn to when your relationship obsessed friends let you down. Because should you ever challenge their behavior, they will take their own side against yours in a heartbeat.

Also, plan ahead. Their priority is now the boyfriend. Choosing a girls night 2 weeks in advance may give your girlfriends time to prepare so that their bfs are not dictating their time when you finally hang out.