How to let older aspie know you fancy him?

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That sounds more like a tic than an orgasm.

explain....

Perhaps he suspects it's the sort of tic that people with Tourette's Syndrome often have: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tic

What the hell ...this is not related to AS, he has serious other problems.

Yeah, I know someone whose entire body shakes sometimes. In his case, it's due to neurological abnormalities caused by scoliosis.

That sounds like something other than an orgasm, but who knows what.

His body only shakes when we discuss something sexual or emotional-related. I know he is having an orgasm because once it had happened to him and I hugged him very close (he had an erection). Things are getting a lot better now though. As I said, I too am AS and for the first two or three months, I could barely sit next to him because of anxiety. I am actually wondering if it's been a lot of years since he has had sex.....maybe not at all, even for his advanced age?

Same with the guy I was referring to. It has to do with the way the nervous system works. Kind of hard to sum up in one post, and off-topic.



OTOH, yeah, it could be an orgasm. I'm glad to hear things are getting better.

Well, my take is that he's one lucky @#$%... The stuff of middle-aged fantasies...

That being said, the spontaneous orgasm bit does give pause. I'm sure you're no stranger to the bedroom by age 25, but you might have a problem if all you ever find is a sticky limp noodle? What about your needs?

Ordinarily, you will find men that age (I like to think, or dream... are more mature, considerate, knowledgeable about what women want, and once they've had an orgasm, you have to wait a lot longer than a 25-year-old to have a repeat performance. This isn't a personal problem, but a natural fact considering the prostate, which grows through the life of a man, and both decreases the amount and (shouldn't we move this to the Adult forum?... Let's just say it takes more time. Many women would kill for if 'it took more time'...

Now this is hardly a universal situation; some men rise to the occasion more often, etc. Maybe you should just 'let things happen' (i.e., you start making out, and suddenly 'your clothes fall off'. See 'Fear of Flying for details... However, if you do run into 'the train left the station before I got on board', you need to be understanding.

I know I'm probably a bit young to know, but something that could help would be to watch a movie together at your house (ask him over for a "movie night") and snuggle a bit. Things might progress from there, and they might not, but it's a very casual thing, and there's no pressure either way so he won't feel like he's being pushed into anything. It could open an opportunity to advance things if the two of you feel the time is right/feel comfortable to do so, in a low pressure setting (the problem with going out on a date and that sort of thing, is it's very high pressure which can be a put off if the person is too unsure or nervous).

Heh heh. Spontaneous orgasm is rare but it does happen to men.My intuition tells me that this guy has not had sex in a long time (maybe never?) and he and I have a very deep connection so this is why it is happening. I am not 100% certain of this but everything is leading me to this conclusion.



Well, I have not gone to bed with him yet. I have noticed that after he has the orgasm and takes care of himself in the bathroom, he returns back to his seat as if nothing has happened. He is much more relaxed and more romantic with me (as most men can be post orgasm). Except that this is all happening in public with no sex involved at all!