Porn & Marriage

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If you don't mind Padium, i'd like to get your take on posts i created on a thread in this forum called "so confused my head is about to explode".

I am dating a person with AS who seems a bit asexual but kind of like you he also seems to love women, and he does have some of the views on porn and sexuality. If you have a take on my situation, i'd love to hear it.

Then you don't have as strong of a sex drive as the average person, or even me.

If both people in a relationship like porn, it can be something that they enjoy together. It can even be an interesting little addition to their existing sexual situation. Now I'm not talking about really fake commercial porn. More like the homemade videos you find on sites like xtube and youporn. That's the more realistic stuff.

I have a decent sex drive, I just don't view that stuff as an exciting thing, and I am not into it, and can easily go without it, but I do have a sex drive that I just deny, and can easily deny.

"Does it give you memories, or ideas?
Ideas" - League of Extraordinary Gentlemen...

Once again the crazy idea of lock-step attitudes rears it's ugly head. If your partner enjoys porn, and you do as well, what's the problem? There's a whole spectrum of attitudes about pr0n, from outright banning to bandwidth hogging...

all the other good stuff has been said, so (for once), I'll shut my pie-hole...

Porn is simply put: Imbecilic and lacking realism. My friends all bow down to there "girls gone wild" DVD's...kind of annoying I mean really arent video games enough? Im not asexual either but a video lacks dimensions, thus lacking reality, really go find the real thing, you dont watch videos of cheese burgers on cheeseburgers when you hungry now do you? senseless.

You misjudge me, Toadie. You see, in this thread we're not talking about your partner looking at porn. ^_~ Of course it works both ways--so if your partner feels so sexually dissatisfied that THEY turn to porn then it's just as much of a problem. Both people in the relationship should have the same kind of sexual needs and both should have those needs satisfied if it's going to work.



Mmhmm, very true. The problem only arises when ONE person is watching porn, usually the man, and the other, usually the woman, is hurt by this. It's like a less extreme form of cheating on your partner, or at least can feel like it to some people.

Of course, it doesn't even have to be a problem then. Say a man's got a crazy sex drive and his wife knows it, and feels bad for not being able to satisfy him, but she's simply too busy and exhausted for her own good. She's got such an intense job and it eats up so much of her time. Maybe one such person wouldn't mind her husband watching and masturbating to pornography to satisfy his needs; better that than actually cheating on her. But there has to be the honesty there; it's only really acceptable if your partner says it is.

Hitting the local fast food joint for a burger is easy, takes about 15 minutes, and costs about 5 bucks. Finding an eligible woman, getting her to like you, going out on multiple dates before she even considers you as being in a relationship with her, and countless other variables involved... that will take many years and thousands of dollars. If you're fortunate enough to live outside the US or don't mind breaking the law, you can negotiate it down to about a hundred bucks (if you're extremely lucky) and 15 minutes (if she's good enough) by hiring a hooker. Of course, that also increases your exposure to STD...

Point is, some of us don't have access to the real thing...

Not much of a fan of porn. At least with prostitution, men often go there to ease their emptiness a little;however, Pornograthy cannot do that.

Uh, porn isn't necessarily a one-way ticket to marital suicide.

Yes, and that makes it interesting.


It depends, there are a great different types of porn, the amateur ones seem to be more realistic.


Any woman you would have sex with is someone's daughter or sister.


Me too.


Sadistic extreme porn isn't.

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PastorNate has a point, although not every marriage has been ruined by porn, many have. It depends on how both marriage partners view porn in the first place.

Roughly a quarter* of all couples could be okay with it, while roughly three-quarters* of all couples could have at least one partner that isn't.

(* == WAG)

Porn doesn't cause divorces. Marriage does.

I believe that Porn is a Good Thang; even though I rarely watch it. You see, if you have a straight couple where the woman isnt putting out and/or is trying to withold sex to manipulate her man and he starts watch porn and jerking off........than he no longer has an incentive to pander to her EVERY need and want and she has to start putting out to keep his interest.

Quick question: In the real world how many people do you know who actually have this happen?