Relationships and not being able to drive.

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I think a person who really loves you, loves you for you and not material possessions. I don't think you have to look cool with your hot ride to just pick up a girl, however realistically it can make things more difficult if she can't drive either and you are unable to go places.

My boyfriend takes buses and when we need more groceries, I take him to go shopping.

My boyfriend would love to get his lisence thought but I told him what was the point, he doesn't have a car. I am nervous about him driving my car because I don't know if he is a good driver or not. I have never seen him drove and he has never had his lisence. I also told him he probably won't be able to drive anyway because he has seizures.

It's one of the things that keeps me from asking out the girl I like because I live in the suburbs and have to walk a mile or two to get the town center.

Getting a license wouldn't be practical for me since I rarely leave my house for anything other than school. It would take forever to even save up for a car also. My parents would never get me one because they think people whose parents buy their cars for them are more likely to crash it because they don't respect it as much since they didn't buy it.

To go out with girls would be the only real practical reason for me to get a car.

Not to mention Maryland has a ridiculously long way to procure a full license, perhaps it's the same in other states, I don't know. I can't be assed to explain it at the moment.

I appreciate not all women are the same, but here's my view:

I passed my driving test at the age of 38. I'd never needed to drive before, because I worked in city centres and it was easier and more cost effective to commute by bus or tram or underground train. But then I moved to a foreign country with poor public transport, not very reliable taxi service, so I had to learn to drive and pass my test. I now appreciate the freedom that driving gives me and I love it. It's such good fun, and I don't have to rely on anyone. But my car is in the country where I work. I don't have a car in my home country, and when I go home it can be tedious to rely on expensive and inconvenient and unreliable trains to go to different cities, and it can be inconvenient and miserable to walk or wait at bus stops in my home town when it's raining.

I'm single. I've previously been in relationships with guys who drive and guys who don't. Yes, sometimes, it's nice if you can drive to the countryside to go hiking in the mountains. But I certainly wouldn't ask a guy what time he intended to pick me up for a date and then if he 'confessed' to not driving tell him I was busy. Tbh, if some girl/woman does that to you, then she's silly and fickle and you're better off without her. And it certainly doesn't matter what car. Silly, superficial men think it's important to drive a Porsche or whatever. Tbh, they deserve to be with the equally silly and superficial women who think that's important and a good thing. Tbh, if some guy tried to impress me by telling me that he drove a Porsche or whatever, that would actually be a huuuuuuuuuuuuge turn off for me. I'd rather go out with a guy who told me he didn't have a car and he rode a bike because he was trying to keep his carbon footprint down. I'd be waaaaaaaaaay more impressed with a guy who told me he didn't have a car and it was for environmental reasons, and I guess that kind of includes, tangentially, my own reasons, there was just no incentive for me to drive a car when I worked in the city centre, in terms of convenience, costs and eco stuff.

And tbh, I've always been one of those incredibly independent women. Yeah, sometimes it's nice if someone picks you up and taks you home for the sake of convenience, but I'm a big girl, I can take care of myself, in this day and age women dontt actually neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed men to look after them (although a bit of chivalry and courtesy doesn't go amiss).

Sooooooooooooooo, j5689, if there's a girl you like, ask her out. If she immediately asks you about what car you drive, then you know she's silly and superficial (or maybe she's previously had bfs who did drive and pick her up, so you need to explain to her that you don't drive but will come to meet her and make sure she gets home safely all the same).

The reason I don't drive (despite my job I can afford lessons and maybe a car), is the fact that I manage to bump into things even when stationary. I would not be someone who you would want to be next to in the overtaking lane on the M6. I would probably lose concentration and finish upside down on the central barrier. When I concentrate, my spacial perception is fine. When I get distracted, well, the bruises and scratches on my arms tell their own story.

That bit about the seizures is dependent on laws of country/state/whatever

here in the UK, you MUST be clear of seizures for a full year before they'll give you a license

I've been clear for 7+ years and have held a provisional (learner) license for about 5/6 years, and took 2 tests so far (both failed, lol)

it may be good for you and your boyfriend to look into the laws about seizures and driving in your country/state (unsure how it works in the US) and maybe your boyfriend could get a license

Thanks for all the posts and advice.

It's a pleasure