pakled wrote:
Here's how I see it (hope I'm wrong)
Girl comes on friendly to you, while either close to or in the process of a breakup with her boyfriend. How to respond? Make him jealous? Hang around with other guys.
You're a nice guy. Maybe something could happen, if you shows some interest.
Meanwhile, she's trying to get the boyfriend back. It's not working. This is probably when you could try to comfort her. Maybe something could happen.
Since she didn't see any (well, for an NT) sign of you making the first move, when the other guy came along, she was ready for a 'fallback' guy, and they're together.
It happens to us all the time. It even happens to NTs. Maybe not so much for this generation, but in my time and earlier, women expected the guy to make the first move, unprompted. They set up the opportunity, but the guy has to take the chance. And they're perfectly free to turn the guy away, if they choose. They felt upset if they had to make a move; it looks desperate to them.
It doesn't feel fair, and it may not be, but now that you have some experience, you know not to do the same thing again. You can do it, so get back on the horse, you'll win in the end.
no the person that she likes is her ex, and her ex just broke up with his current gf
11 Jan 2009, 3:24 pm
