Taking your time with someone you like a lot

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LePetitPrince
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07 Mar 2009, 9:51 am

MissConstrue wrote:
I think that is the best way to start a relationship.


Wrong.....

Anyways, I wish you luck JerryH.



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07 Mar 2009, 10:01 am

^Explain otherwise I disagree in earnest.....


Oh and Happy Birthday!! !


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07 Mar 2009, 10:38 am

MissConstrue wrote:
^Explain otherwise I disagree in earnest.....


Well, for one thing, I can't go any other speed than what is considered "slow" by others (I see it as normal speed)... to go really fast gets me all confused as to what the hell is happening, since input is going in faster than I can process it... and yet here I am, still alone...



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07 Mar 2009, 10:54 am

LePetitPrince wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
I think that is the best way to start a relationship.


Wrong.....

Anyways, I wish you luck JerryH.


That's your opinion though which does not mean it is 100% correct nor 100% wrong. My speed with my friend is a normal pace with the friendship comes first before anything else. Also a piece of advice I got was that if she starts showing interests and feelings for you then you go for it at the moment when it is right.


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07 Mar 2009, 10:57 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
^Explain otherwise I disagree in earnest.....


Well, for one thing, I can't go any other speed than what is considered "slow" by others (I see it as normal speed)... to go really fast gets me all confused as to what the hell is happening, since input is going in faster than I can process it... and yet here I am, still alone...


I didn't ask you..... but I can definitely identify with slow as far as relationships are concerned.


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07 Mar 2009, 11:12 am

JerryHatake wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
I think that is the best way to start a relationship.


Wrong.....

Anyways, I wish you luck JerryH.


That's your opinion though which does not mean it is 100% correct nor 100% wrong..


That's why I said I wish you luck.



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07 Mar 2009, 11:25 am

MissConstrue wrote:
^Explain otherwise I disagree in earnest.....


Oh and Happy Birthday!! !


Because with that strategy you might be wasting time , it does work when there's mutual attraction in the first place but It'll never work if there was no mutual attraction.

I said "wrong" because it's not the best way since it's not the safest one, in fact it's the most risky since it can time consuming and its result would be devastating. I didn't say it never works however.....



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07 Mar 2009, 11:29 am

LePetitPrince wrote:
JerryHatake wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
MissConstrue wrote:
I think that is the best way to start a relationship.


Wrong.....

Anyways, I wish you luck JerryH.


That's your opinion though which does not mean it is 100% correct nor 100% wrong..


That's why I said I wish you luck.


Thanks for the good luck.


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07 Mar 2009, 12:45 pm

It took eight years for me and my fiance to make it this far - take your time, and enjoy spending time with her.


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24 Apr 2009, 7:31 pm

I was glad that she wrote on my FB wall wishing me Happy 21st Birthday over a month ago. I am planning to return her kind gesture with giving her a b-day card. I alright gave her a card for being a good friend with me back in late February. So time is always an element with feelings and emotions between friends. I'm saying that from past experiences where by reflecting on those memories help me think more about putting the friendship first over my own emotions.


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25 Apr 2009, 8:33 am

I think you're wise, Jerry. Good luck. It sounds like you're having a lot of fun. :)



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25 Apr 2009, 12:33 pm

^^ A wise self-victim indeed.

JerryHatake wrote:
I was glad that she wrote on my FB wall wishing me Happy 21st Birthday over a month ago. I am planning to return her kind gesture with giving her a b-day card. I alright gave her a card for being a good friend with me back in late February. So time is always an element with feelings and emotions between friends. I'm saying that from past experiences where by reflecting on those memories help me think more about putting the friendship first over my own emotions.


:roll: after 4 months already have passed and just this...?


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So time is always an element with feelings and emotions between friends. I'm saying that from past experiences where by reflecting on those memories help me think more about putting the friendship first over my own emotions.



So you're giving up by leaving a tiny mini hope....that's a f- terrible constant feeling. That post of yours shows that you have realized something about your friendship with her , something that deep inside don't like a lot yet you're willing to ignore it.

Man, you either accept her as friend only by dispatching every single hope or just move on.



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25 Apr 2009, 2:57 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
^^ A wise self-victim indeed.

JerryHatake wrote:
I was glad that she wrote on my FB wall wishing me Happy 21st Birthday over a month ago. I am planning to return her kind gesture with giving her a b-day card. I alright gave her a card for being a good friend with me back in late February. So time is always an element with feelings and emotions between friends. I'm saying that from past experiences where by reflecting on those memories help me think more about putting the friendship first over my own emotions.


:roll: after 4 months already have passed and just this...?


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So time is always an element with feelings and emotions between friends. I'm saying that from past experiences where by reflecting on those memories help me think more about putting the friendship first over my own emotions.





So you're giving up by leaving a tiny mini hope....that's a f- terrible constant feeling. That post of yours shows that you have realized something about your friendship with her , something that deep inside don't like a lot yet you're willing to ignore it.

Man, you either accept her as friend only by dispatching every single hope or just move on.


Through out most of this thread, you have been quite negative and more of a realist, Prince. Everyone else agrees with me over you because I believe in respect and space for people. We have different ideas and approaches about certain subjects. Your opinions will always be different than mine and everyone else in this thread. Respect for each others' views and opinions on the subject matter is important here. I have respect for your views and opinions on the matter. I am doing what I feel is right and comfortable for me and for her.


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25 Apr 2009, 3:58 pm

I personally think that is the best way to go if you have a friend that you like. You want to take things slow and let it evolve so you don't jeopardize the friendship. Even if it doesn't evolve beyond friendship it is better to have them as a friend then not in your life at all right?

I'm in a similar situation with a classmate I became friends with this past Tuesday. I do have an interest in her but I'm not madly in love or anything so I'm not expecting too much beyond friendship with her. For now I'll just get to know her and over time, either we may end up together or she'll introduce me to some of her friends. Or we'll just stay friends. It's a win-win situation no matter what. Only time will tell and the same applies to you Jerry. :)


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25 Apr 2009, 4:24 pm

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Those are universal matters that individuals might not all have the same view about , my race and where I come from have nothing to do with my point of view on that matter ....this is MY point of view and many people of my area wouldn't agree with me so do not try to box me by labeling me "from the other side of the globe".
I respect your views too but let's say ...that I was warning you from being so attached to her during that friendship. Anyways, tant pis pour toi , it's up to you.

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I do have an interest in her but I'm not madly in love or anything so I'm not expecting too much beyond friendship with her


That's a safer and better approach.



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25 Apr 2009, 5:13 pm

Social_Fantom wrote:
I personally think that is the best way to go if you have a friend that you like. You want to take things slow and let it evolve so you don't jeopardize the friendship. Even if it doesn't evolve beyond friendship it is better to have them as a friend then not in your life at all right?

I'm in a similar situation with a classmate I became friends with this past Tuesday. I do have an interest in her but I'm not madly in love or anything so I'm not expecting too much beyond friendship with her. For now I'll just get to know her and over time, either we may end up together or she'll introduce me to some of her friends. Or we'll just stay friends. It's a win-win situation no matter what. Only time will tell and the same applies to you Jerry. :)


That is how I am with my friend, fellow Patriot Platoon and DAP honor society member. I'm not madly in love with her either as I have an interest in her as well.


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