How come a young wheelchaired guy can get a gf while ....

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Actually, yes, this is relatively common. Women tend to have strong care-giver instincts and may feel maternally drawn to a poor paraplegic who can't take care of himself. Then, of course, you can't possibly dump him.. come on the guy's in a wheelchair!

I knew that... my comment wasn't meant to be taken seriously...

Yeah, look at Stephen Hawkins, he's been round the block

^ the point of this thread is to how how much a talent or a savant skill can compensate other major weaknesses and negative traits...such as disability.

yes sir

No, I think that LPP and the quote in the original post is definitely on to something. I don't wanna toot my own horn, but I'm a very intelligent person - which is the result of my insatiable craving for knowledge of pretty much any kind.

Point being, the moment I decided to break out of my shell (barely months ago, and I'm still getting comfortable doing it) and started to speak my mind [loudly and proudly], regardless of what I felt, I noticed a significant increase in females that looked at me for extended periods of time instead of simple glances of acknowledgment, as well as an increase in females approaching me (greater than zero ). I also noticed that men with whom I converse would shut up for longer instead of interrupting me all the time.

For me, this discovery is a strange and foreign phenomenon, and I'm still working out the theoretical details behind it... but it seems that too much courtesy and consideration won't get you very far in the social realm - which surprises me, as I thought respect was something people enjoyed and appreciated. Apparently challenging peoples' mental bubbles or frameworks instead of respecting them at a distance is a way to get their respect... Or maybe it's something else... Maybe people respect someone that just doesn't care what others think of them. Maybe they're jealous of it.

Alright, I'm just vomiting thoughts at this point. I'll get back to you when I figure these humans out.

First... I find the implication that one being in a wheelchair should someone make them less attractive - or moreso - to the opposite sex, save for those who have a fetish for such things. People are people. All are different, and all are the same. Your advice to him answered the question - take chances, expose your inner self, be confident. Try that same prescription, Dr. LPP, and you might be onto something.


M.

I'm often seen as either a "walking encyclopedia", a "fountain of knowledge" or a "know-it-all" depending on what people make of me. I stand out pretty well and am fairly confident in myself in a lot of respects. I conclude that evidently this is not a sufficient condition to find women interested in you, though it may have helped other men who may have already had other things going for them.

When I was in school, people said I was talented and smart. If I didn't have any girlfriends then, why would I find one now? I guess it really depends on the kind of talent.

Oh no....you didn't get bored from WP yet Dr.Ideal?

You're completely misunderstanding it and reading it out of context. You're trying to tell a total different story.

I never said that wheelchaired people are less attractive but get real for a moment: girls don't usually dream about a wheelchaired man. Your illogical idealism makes me laugh sometimes.


My answer was not "Be confident" ...another typical cliché guru's advice. As Hector explained, confidence is not always enough. My advice was only aimed to a niche group of Aspies who might have great talents and telling them not be shy in showing their talents to the public, that might compensate their weaknesses.

Don't explain people's intentions by your own, Dr.

NTs would have you believe they success with woman is down to discipline, wisdom and strength.

Well the only thing I can think of is this wheelchair bound guy has a great personality and is not a whiny needy guy.

hmm... we were used to "whine "together before giving him the singing advice LOL.

Every lonely person would whine at times, stop labeling people under one mood.

Hardly, Mr. How... schedule has not allowed me the time to read and respond as I would like. At least I have the satisfaction of having made you laugh - it is a response of some sort. Can't win - here I agree with you and I'm still wrong. I'm impressed, to be honest. Everyone has talents; they need not be the greatest to make an impression on others, to have an effect. I'll try your prescription, but I fear I might allergic.

Idealism isn't necessarily illogical. It's just another way of seeing the world.


M.

I am feeling obliged to update this thread...

Update: She broke up the relationship with him yesterday because it was too hard for her to maintain....
Anyways, he did great and did all what he could, he's feeling so down now but he's having a positive attitude , at least he achieved something.

Hope he 'll find someone better next time...