Do Aspies have the same sexual drive as NTs?

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I hate my libido... it has been inconveniently high, especially lately. Without a significant other, it is nothing but a nuisance, as I have no practical use for it. And ironically, if I ever DO find a significant other, it probably won't be until I'm too old and impotent anyway.

lol, stop being so nagative Cyberman. Honestly, it doesn't help. I know its easier said than done to try and be positive, especially about relationships sometimes. You just need to come up with a plan.

I am straight and I would enjoy sex with girls like any guy and I do....*ehem* use my hand but I am not sex-crazy : what that means that I don't make 'excitement' gestures when a hot girl pass by like other guys do. I usually remain sometimes I don't even notice the hot girl that all guys around are oogling at. That's why some people think that I am gay.

Well you do seem confused about your gender....

Maybe your Yen and Yang are evenly distributed into one facet.

MissC, you know the true story behind this 'gender identity' , it's not a matter of Yen or Yang or even Yong .

You mean you've never heard of a little yen in yang and a little yang in yen?

I've hear yin and yang out the yingyang...

I'm an NT, and I must say that I'd to poorly in a relationship; I'd have a hard time talking or admitting my feelings.
However, I see little difference in my 'sex drive' compared to the norm.
Seriously, to be honest, I find that I get 'fired up' and 'do it' about as often as normal.
Of course I wouldn't really know much.

I'm asexual myself, though I've never met any other asexual Aspies other than on message boards like AVEN (the giant asexual forum) and here. All the others I've met in person have been the opposite, hypersexual, which has made it hard to relate in some ways.

I am trying to phrase this tactfully, but I'm not so happy about the "lacking a huge part of the human experience" bit in the original post. Perhaps it's just been the huge number of people I've met who describe asexuals in such unpleasant terms as "unnatural," "inhuman" or "not a real man/woman" that makes me annoyed at this. You might have not meant it that way, though it is written like not wanting sex = not wanting love and relationships. I can love, and I want companionship - I'd love to have people who I can talk with about anything from video games to philosophy (and maybe both at once) late into the night, who will care for and respect me and vice versa, who I can enjoy taking part in mutual hobbies with, and who will be with me forever. It's just putting something into a hole in my or the other person's body that seems completely irrelevant to love in my mind. Non-invasive physical affection like hand-holding and hugging figures into my idea of love, but the rest seems intrusive and unnecessary for my purposes.

If I could find another AS (or at least nerdy) ace, I'd be quite happy to be with them.

Cause if its making love, you feel like you can get even closer to that person, its so intimate.

It's probably easier for people to think that asexuals are either "weird" in some broader sense or in denial, because they can't relate. Certainly I can't relate at all, but I realise they may well exist, especially after a while posting here.

For some people its easier than others... I'm one of those that will likely never find someone as well... When all you know is rejection, there is no hope for success...

Maybe, but things can change. If something's not working, change it. It does feel like that, but your thoughts can change.

Yes that is true. You can get very close to a person that way and it's often when people fall in love.

And yet, for me (and other aces), sex and love don't seem to have any correlation - there are so many other sorts of closeness and ways of "making" love that have nothing to do with that. No one has ever been able to explain how body part + orifice = love. I understand it leading to physical stimulation, but I am lost at how it relates to feelings for another person in and of itself.

Well you get to express them so are drawn closer.