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26 Jan 2009, 2:57 pm

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Your a girl or a guy? Wow thats quite rare if your a girl (if your a guy then not so much haha), well I guess aspergers is too. To be honest I have no clue how one can be asexual, that to me is like being born dead(As dark as that sounds).


I am male.

I don't understand asexual either.


But you have a boyfriend?

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Are you homo or bi sexual?

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26 Jan 2009, 4:22 pm

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My drive is very high, though I don't have a ton of AS symptoms.

I sometimes think sex drive has a lot more to do with gonad size (I have larger than normal cajones), hormones, and psychological makeup (like not being scarred in some way) than AS.


I dont know if it has to do with the size of THAT....if so well, that might explain allot, haha. I think its mainly hormone levels. I'm not scared of allot of things as well so you might be on to something here.


Bigger testes would probably give you higher testosterone levels, which in turn have been shown to reduce fear or increase aggression. This doesn't mean you'll be free of anxiety or fear (I used to have quite a lot of anxiety), but it should push you in certain directions with your drive.

Case in point -- I distinctly remember when I was 12, and really got the onset of puberty (not just pubic hair) -- it was crazy, like someone switched a light switch on. I was attracted to girls/women before, but once puberty and testosterone really hit, its like I was thinking about sex all the time, wanted to jump on the girl next to me in class, etc. Still like that to some extent, though things have settled a bit now that I'm in my 30s.



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26 Jan 2009, 4:23 pm

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How can a Man have sex with Men unless if you do it Orally? :lol:


Surely you're not that naive? Gay men often have anal sex (as do some straight couples).



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26 Jan 2009, 10:21 pm

billsmithglendale wrote:
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My drive is very high, though I don't have a ton of AS symptoms.

I sometimes think sex drive has a lot more to do with gonad size (I have larger than normal cajones), hormones, and psychological makeup (like not being scarred in some way) than AS.


I dont know if it has to do with the size of THAT....if so well, that might explain allot, haha. I think its mainly hormone levels. I'm not scared of allot of things as well so you might be on to something here.


Bigger testes would probably give you higher testosterone levels, which in turn have been shown to reduce fear or increase aggression. This doesn't mean you'll be free of anxiety or fear (I used to have quite a lot of anxiety), but it should push you in certain directions with your drive.

Case in point -- I distinctly remember when I was 12, and really got the onset of puberty (not just pubic hair) -- it was crazy, like someone switched a light switch on. I was attracted to girls/women before, but once puberty and testosterone really hit, its like I was thinking about sex all the time, wanted to jump on the girl next to me in class, etc. Still like that to some extent, though things have settled a bit now that I'm in my 30s.
Learn something new everyday I guess. I was like that when I was a bit young around 12 as well, All though I wont even get into vague details as that would get somewhat dirty and inappropriate and I might get a virtual b***h slap from a line of woman on here.



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28 Jan 2009, 6:23 pm

I CAN RELATE! I've always (well since I was around 12) had an over-the-top sex drive that beat out that of any man I met. When I was dx'ed with Aspergers, and talked to my first few Aspies about it, most of them seemed to have LESS sex drive than average, which REALLY made me feel out of place. Oddly enough, though, the first partner I've ever had who can keep up with me, and actually manages to beat me to the punch in initiating, is my current boyfriend, who incidentally also has Aspergers (and whose symptoms are quite a bit more obvious than mine). A few Aspie friends I've met more recently seem to share my passion for all things below the waist, as well as BDSM, roleplaying, breathplay, etc, etc, and so on and so forth.

From what I've seen, though, despite my boyfriend having sex drive to spare, most of the Aspies I've met who are perpetually horny and sexually adventurous have been female.



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28 Jan 2009, 7:20 pm

RoisinDubh wrote:
I CAN RELATE! I've always (well since I was around 12) had an over-the-top sex drive that beat out that of any man I met. When I was dx'ed with Aspergers, and talked to my first few Aspies about it, most of them seemed to have LESS sex drive than average, which REALLY made me feel out of place. Oddly enough, though, the first partner I've ever had who can keep up with me, and actually manages to beat me to the punch in initiating, is my current boyfriend, who incidentally also has Aspergers (and whose symptoms are quite a bit more obvious than mine). A few Aspie friends I've met more recently seem to share my passion for all things below the waist, as well as BDSM, roleplaying, breathplay, etc, etc, and so on and so forth.

From what I've seen, though, despite my boyfriend having sex drive to spare, most of the Aspies I've met who are perpetually horny and sexually adventurous have been female.


I have an EXTREMELY strong sex drive and for many years since I broke up with my 1st gf almost 10 years ago I didnt have any regular sex partners :( . These last few years Ive met people willing to f_ck me but ONLY on a 1-time basis. My sex drive is coming back though and is back in full force! Worst of all I dont have anyone to f_ck despite trying VERY hard for the last few months(online thouhg)! ! :evil:



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28 Jan 2009, 7:22 pm

It is not unusual for someone your age to have a high sex drive. In fact it is perfectly normal. Just be careful.


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