What qualities do Aspie men consider important in a partner?

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I don't like having to be an actor, and I hate when women seem to be acting a part. (Or something) It reeks of insecurity and low character. (Or something)

I guess I would prefer someone who pushes wherever/however they can at the compromises we have to make to get along in the world, but especially with me. What I'm trying to generally say is make it clear your interest in the guy is non-arbitrary. Maybe one thing all us aspie guys could be said to have is a desire to be accepted by someone.

We can accumulate cynicism towards others over time, though.

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Last edited by holden on 15 Feb 2009, 10:12 pm, edited 1 time in total.

No, a teenager - and a minority of one - reprimanding an adult for a perceived breach of etiquette is uncalled for.

As is expecting complete strangers to know what's going on inside another stranger's mind, as well as anyone assuming to know what those same thought processes may be.

The OP should ask her bf what's going on instead of expecting complete strangers to speak on his behalf. We Aspies are not possessed of a collective mind, after all.

There is so much that I love about him but he seems to question my sincerity at times.
As though, "Why would a woman like me like a guy like him?" kind of thing. I would never say anything I don't mean. I just want to reassure him so he is comfortable with me.

lol in his defense i dont see what wasnt nice about that. ok it was straight to the point but he gave her the most obvious answer didnt he. lol. i should have a crack and see if he gives me such good advice.

Like was said before, he has probably been rejected before and don't trust you enough to be sure you won't reject him as well.

Trust, honesty, and respect are at the top of the list for me.

Even as you tolerate his flaws, you should also help him to correct them. Asperger's can cause bad behavior but that's not an excuse for not fixing it.
Anyway, you know the situation better than I do.

Well, I am very horny, so sex appeal is a big one at this stage in my life.

Well, it depends on the guy; some of us are happy with a pulse and respiration...

It sounds like he's using rudeness to put a given 'distance' between him and everyone else, possibly even you. Some of us have had the hard knocks of non-productive behavior, some of us just don't get it. We're as varied as any other group.

But being more direct than you would with a 'normal' guy might be in order. Just as long as you don't put yourself in a position where you can't respect yourself.

hope it works out; the world needs fewer virgins... (j/k...