SarahH wrote:
I know that you're all right... I guess I just needed to hear it to make me a bit stronger.
I broke up with him today and it will be nice to have this post here if I forget why I'm leaving. Thankyou guys.
he is a sexual abuser and abusers NEVER CHANGE. they go through therapy, admit and honestly promise to change, but they never do. because they like abusing people; they like the power play. this is what my PHD/MD psychologist with twenty years in family care said.
on monday the abuser beats you and rapes you. on Saturday he brings you flowers, apologizes, and tells you he loves. this cycle continues forever.
at night the abuser tell you he loves you and can't live without you. in the morning he yells at you that he made the worst mistake of his life to marry you and that he hates you and that you are worthless. this cycle continues forever.
if he forces you to have sex with him again, just call 911, tell the operator your name and his name and that he forced you to have sex with him. the ambulance will bring a rape kit and a sexual assault nurse will help you get samples for court. he will be jailed on rape charges. guys go to prison for domestic rape of their wives/girlfriends all the time.
i have several family members, women in late twenties and late thirties, who are living with abusive husbands and you do not want to go through this hell. it's not worth it. better be single than be a victim of an abuser.
good luck and take care.
P.S. a pretty/smart/loving girl like you is guaranteed to have plenty of hot/cute/loving/respectful boyfriends or a great husband.
27 Feb 2009, 1:24 pm
