i cut my long-distance thing. i feel like s**t

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exactly. online or offline, people are people, emotions are emotions, over time comes real attachment. its not like i swim around in it tho, this is one, and there was another. thats it :b
my "merit list"

Another question: Are the friends that she's used to visit frequently are people she met online or they are people that she always knew them for real?

WTF?

are you for real??

seriously, am I the only person who doesn't get it? how can an online relationship work? it's *not real*! !!



so what, your dad sent your mom a little fridge with a DIY set?

LOL

online friends of course. that was what begun to sting, im broke, i cant save up, and i didnt expect her to, im waiting for a lucky brake, economy-wise (unemployed etc..).
but she did save up, and went abroad to visit other onile friends, and then once more, and then she moved abroad, to work in cities where yet other online friends lived, so she could hang with them. and on her blogs, listed up further plans, for visiting further friends.

over time, this becomes... annoying...

or am i totally selfish? :S if she cant afford, fine, but come on :S

your probably the only one who dont get it. being a minority is usually a sign ;]



nah, he packed and moved to norway. then all hell broke loose, just like any other normal relationship :]

yes this is called a reality check, and this is why there is no such thing as "online relationship"

not really, norway has a 50% divorce rate. half. at least i came out of it, and my brother, and later with some other chick, two more.
mission accomplished, in my book :]

I think you should try and focus on other things,
from the sound of it she`s doing her thing and if
she feels like visiting you one day she`ll come.
No good getting annoyed over such things but
i understand it can be frustrating, good luck.
Maybe you bumb into someone else, theres
some really nice girls in little Norway or
maybe take a trip over the border and look
at some swedes

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So you have a norwegian mom, that's cool!

I'm 100% norwegian, and currently live in Oslo.

Wow, then theres three vikings right here right now

i`m also in Norway

From the OP it sounds like she was just stringing you along and never really cared about you, sorry to say. Promising to come see you, always going other place except to see you, ect.. Typical wome- woops, I mean demon from hell.

You are stronger for ending it.

kenM, yep. thats what ive been told.

and whats with all the norwegians? herregud!

*pats on the back* I know what stringing along can be like - except mine was in person (as in a guy I saw every day)

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"""and whats with all the norwegians? herregud! ""

jeg vet, plutselig er det knadd med nordmenn her
herregud indeed

Because it can be real. Relationships don't mean physically interacting, they mean caring for each other, helping each other through troubles, and enjoying interactions with each other. This can be real online or in person or could be fake or in person. A relationship does not mean a marriage or starting a family, though that may be the goal. There are people who are happy without those who know each other in real life.

An online relationship cannot have the physical aspects of a normal relationship, but that does not make it less of a relationship, it just means simply that you cannot physically interact. It's a long distance relationship just like one where you knew each other first.

Are there problems with internet-based relationships, yeah, there are risks involved which aren't as strong in the physical world relationships, but the risks are in both.

As for internet friendships - they yet again are just like frienships, just you don't see each other in person. Would you say that people who have known eachother 15+ years, talk daily, send christmas gifts to each others kids, and such aren't friends? What about if they have never actually met in person?

I have some internet friendships I cannot see described as *not real* despite being different from the normal. This doesn't bother me though. It's still a friend I can turn to when I need someone to talk to.

An online relationship is a relationship; it does not have the same qualities as one in person, and cannot be treated as such or have the same expectations. Sometimes an online connection allows people who have already met in person to develop their feelings for each other; for others, it is an opportunity to get to know each other safely before meeting and getting together in person. There are a lot of limitations to a long distance relationship, which is what an online relationship is in effect - sometimes they've met in person before, others have never met - and without a goal of meeting each other, then it will be stunted in terms as far as it can ultimately go. Anna, you don't believe in online relationships, but that doesn't mean they don't exist, don't have meaning, or don't have value in and of themselves.


M.