Aspie girl seeks aspie guy

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well aren't you just a "bundle of joy"
so there are lonely people in the world, no reason to be rude.

Thank you.

And oh...you can't blame me for my rudeness, blame my AS.

lol nice, well AS or no it seems a lot like spiteful trolling..
i for one am very lonely &unlike many here want to change this by meeting people, not debating on a forum with people 1000's of miles away.
maybe that's just me.

Maybe I've misunderstood, but I don't even understand what you're on about! lol

I can understand both sides here. I'm a spiteful troll by nature, IRL as well, but I also understand people's will to meet others fully.

I'm not sure how to put it any more clearly but I'll try:

He said that he dosn't like threads where people are trying to find someone to date, then he said that threads started by men are because its a desperate guy and threads started by girls are because she is an attention seeker.

Oh well I'm not trying to find anyone on here. I titled my thread purly because I thought is was a suitable title for the topic I'm not actually activly looking for an aspie guy on here ergo I am not an attention seeker so I still don't fully understand his point.

I'd say go to a comic or scifi convention and stand by one of the guests tables. If someone seems to know way too much about the series, movie or comic then try to flirt causally. If they are a nerd they will run away. If they are a geek they will say something back meant as flirting but it will likely be so esoteric you might not get it. If they don't seem to understand that you are flirting then they are probably an aspie guy.

I mean finding any little niche hobby place is probably a good hunting ground because of the whole compulsive collector/ professional fan aspect which seems to often come as a package deal. If you see one you like... then just start throwing non-verbal cues at the guy and if he doesn't pick up on them then he's probably on the spectrum.

I know there was a girl who was once curious if I was... she asked me a technical question with intentional flaws in the logic of it to see how I would respond. Apparently where as a guy who just happens to be tech savvy will just make a leap and guess what you most likely meant and then explain it simply recognizing that you probably don't know enough to handle a complex answer... an aspie guy is more likely to offer up the different options of what you could have meant and the possible solutions to each since most are quicker to explain things in different ways instead of make assumptions. Ha like I just wrote the same basic idea 3x.

You know what most people with aspergers have trouble picking up on... go somewhere that's likely to have heavier aspie traffic... then throw some of them out there... and if the guy seems to get confused or doesn't respond then you have yourself a winner.

Without wishing to sound like your mum (or 'mom' as you septics say) you start with the notion that you're looking for an AS guy to make you happy. This is a very dangerous thought. If you rely on someone else to make you happy what happens when they're no longer there? First and foremost you have to be able to make yourself happy. I hope this makes sense and doesn't come across as patronising. Good luck

I think going to aspie social groups is a good way to meet people. Its easier to see what someone is like in real life (rather than online) you can see if he is nice to other people or if he is very critical etc.

On the NAS website it has info on where local groups are or you could google "aspergers leeds" and see what groups come up. Or you could organise your own meet up on WP.

I think it is easier meeting in a social group as there is not the 'relationship expectation' that there is on dating sites, which I find stressful and off putting.

Oh god know! I understand your point totally, no I'm not wanting someone to make me happy because I am happy in myself anyway. I'm just merely looking for someone to compliment me... and erm, I'd be lying if I said sex didn't play a bit role in that..

But to be honest, from what I understand about relationships (to be fair, my knowledge is quit limited in this area) people seem to just drag you down (not you personally, I'm speaking in general).
I would simply like to find someone who will accept me for me and will not dare to try and change me, because I'm happy in myself, and I won't allow anyone to ruin that.

Perhaps this is why I'm somewhat selective... I don't know. Maybe this is why I had a perception in my mind that an aspie guy would be perfect because of being able to relate and whatnot, but maybe I'm being very bias, because I'm sure there are many kind hearted guys out there who are not aspies.

Those who said about going to a support group... that's acrtually not a bad idea. Of course my sole reason for going to one would be for support (as the name suggests) and help, but if there so happens to be some nice guy there then... hmm haha