why you are a virgin?

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I'm a virgin because I'm only 18, but I don't plan to lose it in the future.

almost 22 and still counting...

well for one. Im not eighteen yet. And two. I usually dont have the correct tools around <--- think about it. AND thirdly sex needs to be with someone you really love. And if you just have it to have it. Theres next to no meaning. Thats my aspect.

people thought I wasnt all the way there just because I was quiet and had a blank facial expression so they thought that there was nothing going on in my head. and they also thought that not having good social skills was a form of mental retardation, so they thought it would be funny and weird to date me so they didnt. also i didnt get a lot of respect because of this and no girls gonna date a guy who gets laughed at and picked on. thats the more detailed expression.

Well it's pretty simple...

Being an aspie and all it's hard for me to make a woman feel comfortable around me, and if she doesn't feel comfortable, I'm not getting any.

Keep practicing and don't give up. Also try meeting women online. Eventually you'll get there...

Thanks for the encouraging words, but I am actually super successful with women online, but then after we meet in person, no matter how great it goes, and how cool I thought I was on the date, it quickly goes downhill from there! I do shower in case that's what you're going to ask next. It's just the whole 'not being able to read her body language' thing that I think creeps women out bigtime. I know people say these things can be learned and get better with practice, but I've practiced a lot and so far no luck!

In my case the trick was to wait long enough for her to already fall in love with me when Instant Messaging one another so the moment she saw me in real life she would already be biased in my favor. They'll more easily ignore your quirky sides when they're already in love with you.

The problem is that while in the beginning they might think your quirky sides are cute, after a few months they'll start to get annoyed by them. Although I have been in a relation of 6 years, I haven't really found myself a woman who is willing to take my quirky sides along with the rest of the package for the rest of her life.

ditto. there was this girl, who was REALLY into me, but I was missing that part, or something.

I need to meet more people

The guy I'm dating right now is my first boyfriend and the idea of actually sleeping with him pretty much disgusts me. I can do other sexual things with him, but actual penetration just plain bothers me. I think it may be because I hate kissing so much.

Had to edit so much so I wouldn't be accused of spamming. When will Alex fix this?

Hi, Liz!

I am a male virgin. While I am not in the least repulsed at the thought of sex, I am not at all enthralled with the idea of kissing. For me, I am reminded of Raymond Babbitt in Rainman where, when he was kissed by Francesca, he replied that it was "wet". To me, kisses are wet, slimy and uncomfortable. I also don't like hugging as it feels as if my body is in a vise.

Ah, good. Then I'm not the only one. Phew! I don't know if it's a sensory thing for me or if I'm secretly worried that I'm not good at it (I think I'm okay, meh... don't really care). It must be sensory because it just seems like such a weird and gross thing for people to do. You're really going to smash lips and tongues together? But... all that bacteria...

Liz,

I cannot speak for you, but, as for myself, I believe it to be sensory in nature. I don't like being touched much and even feel uncomfortable and cagey if I am in public and people are milling about within a few feet of me. I think my desire for sexual contact is basically my sex drive trumping my dislike for touching.

I find the thought of standard "French" kissing to be rather repulsive both in a sensory sense and in a hygenic sense, as you already stated. To do so is to invite foreign bacteria and rotting food particles from another person's mouth into my own and on top of that, the saliva is wet and slimy. I cannot fathom the appeal of such an act.

There are other forms of sexual expression that I do find appealing, but that is for another time and another place...

Maybe it's a trust issue? I don't like being touched by people I don't trust, but I love being touched (anywhere and anyhow) by the woman I love. Also, French kissing can be damn exciting if you know HOW to do it. Unfortunately many people don't know

tongue in mouth

There's more to it than that