Best friend confessed his attraction for me. Ick. Help?

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12 Jan 2011, 7:35 pm

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I have that too, I've been mostly lucky thus far, but I'm prepared for the worst.


The worst always gets better so it's worth taking the risk. :D
I always bounce back and bones always heal! :)



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12 Jan 2011, 7:39 pm

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What do you mean by 'your relationship with him is a symptom of issues that are demanding attention from you.'? I read it a few times and I still don't quite see it?


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16 Jan 2011, 8:53 am

I thought he went away.
No such luck.

I was stronger this time, and didn't let him guilt trip me.
It's his problem, not mine.



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16 Jan 2011, 9:32 am

It'll take persistence, but you can do it!! Good job. He keeps trying because he hasn't changed his ways. Hold firm.



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16 Jan 2011, 9:34 am

I shall. :)
It's so nice not to have to be careful what to say when I talk to people.
His girlfriend broke up with him, because he started being like that to her.
So she came over to talk to me, and together we'll be strong.



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16 Jan 2011, 9:37 am

You lost a friend and got a new one. :D



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16 Jan 2011, 9:39 am

Jonsi wrote:
You lost a friend and got a new one. :D


Yes! Even though it's not the same and I miss sharing all my secrets with him.
Maybe in time she will develop to be a good friend too.
Stefan keeps telling me she's exactly like me in so many ways. :O
I hope that's a good thing.



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16 Jan 2011, 9:43 am

You two can be mind twins. :D



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16 Jan 2011, 9:45 am

Jonsi wrote:
You two can be mind twins. :D


8) That'd be cool.

Stefan said 'secretly, i'm glad. cause now i know i'm the most important man in your life.'
D'AW. He always was. :3



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16 Jan 2011, 12:10 pm

emlion wrote:
I shall. :)
It's so nice not to have to be careful what to say when I talk to people.
His girlfriend broke up with him, because he started being like that to her.
So she came over to talk to me, and together we'll be strong.


I was going to ask you about his girlfriend.

I cant understand why he decided to confess his attraction when he had just started a relationship, I mean it seems like its something that he has been thinking about for a while and I cant understand why find a girlfriend if you are going to tell your best friend you are attracted to her(then again I usually have trouble understanding other people´s behabiour and I usually need someone to explain me why x was behabing in such a weird manner).

Im happy to hear that youve made a new friend and I hope you are able to develop a good relationship.


Ive been on a situation that was similar to your friend´s once and I waited until her relationship ended to tell her that I liked her(she probably knew beforehand but thats just because I have trouble hiding my feelings from others). If the person you are attracted to is in a happy relationship you should be happy for them.

Confessing atraction to someone in a relationship usually causes some sort of trouble for the other person and Im pretty sure that creating trouble isnt the best way of showing your love to a female.


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16 Jan 2011, 12:19 pm

She told me, he said he only dated her to make me jealous.
Which is weird, because i've never been attracted to him.
Hm.
Oh well.



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16 Jan 2011, 12:21 pm

That is wierd. Was she aware you already had a boyfriend?



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16 Jan 2011, 12:25 pm

Jonsi wrote:
That is wierd. Was she aware you already had a boyfriend?


Yeah. She met Stef. She even said it was obvious I had no feelings for Chris.
But we're both better off without him. :)



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16 Jan 2011, 12:56 pm

That's more than true. :) He'll realize his errors in time though. Unfortunately, that may not be for a long time. :\



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16 Jan 2011, 12:57 pm

Even if he does, I can't forgive him.
I can't let men hit me anymore.
(unless it's in the fun way of course. 8))

I'm sticking to nice guys from now on!



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16 Jan 2011, 12:59 pm

Yes, that is understandable.

Hopefully not the evil nice guys. :D