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26 Jan 2012, 4:57 pm

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nono. i was talking about the passive aggressive posts at grisha; and lex, who is perfectly intelligent enough to know otherwise, playing dumb and turning it round on him


shouldn't judge until you know the whole situation.
not saying i do - but situations are rarely as clear cut as they look.

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& on stalkers - i wonder if lots of people have like...silent stalkers who they know nothing about.



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26 Jan 2012, 4:58 pm

whoa, wait a second there, OSB. i couldn't tell if Grisha was saying that there was a personal attack by Lilya on him, FullofStars on him, MXH on him, MXH on Lilya or FullofStars, or what. there is no attack there, except possibly Grisha on FoS or Lilya.

people are allowed to talk anonymously about other members as long as there is no identifying information in the post. Lilya has spoken of having a problem with an unidentified male in the past (who was not Grisha), so it is a reasonable assumption the post had nothing to do with him. if he chose to assume it was, then that is his decision to "out" himself.


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26 Jan 2012, 5:03 pm

i've noticed that people tend to choose a side. passive aggressive posts seem to be allowed by certain members in one direction and not the other. one member's passive aggressive posts are met with sympathy and support, when another member's are met with... well... the posts above me. depends how popular the member is.


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26 Jan 2012, 5:04 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
i've noticed that people tend to choose a side. passive aggressive posts seem to be allowed by certain members in one direction and not the other. one member's passive aggressive posts are met with sympathy and support, when another member's are met with... well... the posts above me. depends how popular the member is.


and their gender, and their physical appearance too. interesting really.



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26 Jan 2012, 5:04 pm

emlion wrote:
& on stalkers - i wonder if lots of people have like...silent stalkers who they know nothing about.



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26 Jan 2012, 5:06 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
i've noticed that people tend to choose a side. passive aggressive posts seem to be allowed by certain members in one direction and not the other. one member's passive aggressive posts are met with sympathy and support, when another member's are met with... well... the posts above me. depends how popular the member is.


I treat them all the same. That is, I ignore them unless my irritation gets too great. This one irritated me more than usual for several reasons, but since one of those is that it's thrown off my thread I shall not list.


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26 Jan 2012, 5:07 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
i've noticed that people tend to choose a side. passive aggressive posts seem to be allowed by certain members in one direction and not the other. one member's passive aggressive posts are met with sympathy and support, when another member's are met with... well... the posts above me. depends how popular the member is.


I treat them all the same. That is, I ignore them unless my irritation gets too great. This one irritated me more than usual for several reasons, but since one of those is that it's thrown off my thread I shall not list.

you didn't notice any entire threads that are passive aggressive in the forum right now?


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26 Jan 2012, 6:41 pm

:salut:


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26 Jan 2012, 6:56 pm

<----This seal was arrested for stalking fish.



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27 Jan 2012, 9:50 am

To get back on topic. When my ex and I said goodbye, we remained friends. He told me about his new gf's facebook. I just can't shut off loving someone even though I stopped being with them. I have no desire for him whatsoever, but I do occasionally check her fb to see if they are doing alright. Is that stalking?

My first husband used to stalk me so badly that the courts ordered him to exchange my daughter at the police station. Even then, he smashed my car door right out front. My neighbor called one night when he was hiding in the bushes outside my first floor apartment. He was listening when I told her I was going to call the police. He yelled from outside, "They won't get here fast enough. There's going to be blood." He also used to follow me after I would leave a club where I knew the bouncer. If I left with someone and went to breakfast, he would stand outside the window where we were sitting.

Now THAT is stalking!


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27 Jan 2012, 2:32 pm

You may notice that some posts that broke the rule about discussing drama has been removed.

No one has been contacted at this point but I´ll assume that the next person posting about this issue is deliberately breaking the rules and will treat them as such.

On topic of discussion I dont think Ive ever been stalked and I havent gone any further than the usual face-stalking which Im trying to quit because it aint healthy



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27 Jan 2012, 2:55 pm

You mean facebook stalking? I really don't consider that stalking unless things get creepy.


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27 Jan 2012, 3:01 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
You mean facebook stalking? I really don't consider that stalking unless things get creepy.


http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.p ... cestalking
Was mainly trying to make a joke though



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27 Jan 2012, 3:05 pm

Oh, okay. Cool.


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27 Jan 2012, 9:28 pm

Hmm.. I think I am just too lazy to stalk someone. Maybe they could text me and let me know what they're up to and I could write creepy things back to them. I could also let them know where I am going to be, so they can show up and feel properly stalked. I would guess stalking is a lot of work. I wonder if I could afford to hire someone to do the stalking for me. Just my idle thoughts.



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28 Jan 2012, 12:00 am

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I dunno if this counts as stalking but my ex would text me from time to time and he still does which creeps me out. I ignored his texts. Usually, if someone don't text you back then you eventually stop. Totally different story with this dude. His texts always goes like Hey wats up let's do this let's do that. When are you free? let's meet up blah blah blah. He's been texting me like this for 4 years already :cry: and I have already told him years ago to please stop...... What creeps me out even more is that when we used to be together I remember him jokingly telling me that I would need to get a restraining order to not see him any more. 4 years later, I'm thinking about getting one....


If it's that problematic, then why not just block his phone number?


Thank you! haven't thought about that. I'm not a smartphone user so I don't know how I can get that done but I'll look into it. What worries me is that he's a good friend of my close friend from High School and I do run into my hs friend on a daily basis so I hope I dont get myself into any uncomfortable situation by blocking him. Plus he's kinda unpredictable.. Am I shaking right now? 8O