I got rejected and slapped hard in the middle of the hall.

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Well aren't you hard to please
I can assure you that I may not be bored with the opposite of me, they'd leave me as I'd be a pain in the backside.

Lol, you think? maybe I am kinda picky after all.

To be fair, she's a very outdoor-activities-person type, so probably that's why she has very little to talk about while she's recovering in bed. She doesn't read (seriously, no reading interest :-/), I wish a bit of balance in that regard, at least by 90-10%.
But that's ok, I am not much balanced myself, people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, should they? ;p

I've only really started taking an interest in reading but only the things I have an interest in, hope that makes sense.
So you can be picky when it comes to some factors but not so much in others that do not concern you?
Reminds me of me. Ha.

So what you want is a friendship-relationship with her, and if no issues, marriage later on, correct?

I would have to weigh in the advantages and disadvantages of a serious relationship with someone very extrovert and outgoing if I were you. My personal preference is a girl who's an introvert but can easily be social when she has to (to back me up socially). But your preferences in this aspect might be different.

Could you bear the idea that there might be times she will just have to go out on her own because you might want to stay home instead with the possibility there might be guys out there she'd be at least flirting with in your absence?

Is she sexually/romantically attracted to you? Or does she just like you and see you as a good potential man for her and her kids? Would you be ok with the possibility that she wants you but isn't really attracted to you in such a way and agree to a relationship regardless?

Yes, but I emphasis on later on.



That's my personal preference too.




There's acceptable flirting-joking, and there's obscene flirting. I would be ok only with the former.




There are strong signs, but I had to find out for sure after she recovers.



In that case, I'd agree only on a friendship with benefits or just friendship; no more than that.

maybe i am way off base with this question, but i did some thinking about common interests from a conversation with someone in another thread.

is it possible that if the early chemistry is strong enough then people just say to heck with common interests or compatible personalities, but if the chemistry is not so strong then these things become more important?

haha, hyperlexian, you're asking me this? I have zero experience in this, remember that.

You should know better.

Since the last post I visited her 2 more times (on Saturdays) with her best friend.

Things are going the friend-zoning gradually I guess, but that's fine by me since it's being mutual.

A funny thing happened the last saturday after the visit: her best friend made me to go out with her.

After leaving together, she told me that she has received a message from her friends that they'll wait her at the Mexican restaurant for dinner.

So she asked me if I want to join , at first I declined saying that her best friend might not like we're going out without her plus i don't know those people anyways.

So she went all damsel in distress and teary saying how she's afraid to go alone in a taxi and how all taxi drivers are harassers and dangerous (she's somehow right about that tho), also said that she texted her friends before not to come to pick her up since she expected me to go with her.

I was like "Fiiiine, stop it, let's go"

We went to the restaurant by taxi and guess what....her friends weren't there already! But I reserved a table for 6 persons anyways since they were supposedly to come shortly.

We had some chit-chats while she was texting on her BB with those friends, then after like a half-hour she was like:

^_^ "Guess what?"

-__- "What?"

v_v "they might not come!"

O_o '"what?!"

^_^ "I say, let's order some appetizers"

-__- "fine"

And she started doing most of the talk and asking me questions, I am not sure what exactly was happening.

Her friends came eventually, but like after an hour of all this!

Sounds very confusing. Last mother I dated was trying to pay her own way also/drive herself. I asked her what she was talking about and told her I'd pick her up. She explained the kid thing on the first date and 2 ex husbands at 23 years old (her daughter was sitting in my backseat). She then gave me big eyes the entire movie, and when I took her home she said she'd let me come in but her home was dirty... To which I responded "I've seen plenty of dirty houses", she she replied back "next time".

A friend from work told me I should have said... "I'll help you clean!"..

Things always work out better when thought through. I say enjoy the ride boo.