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I have to disagree with the people who have popped up and said things like "being nice is basic human decency" or "the vast majority of people are nice" because they just aren't these days. You do a good deed, and it is automatically assumed you want something from the other person. Plus with peer pressure running rampant, and how wild everything else has gotten, there's been an "every man for himself" attitude applied to just about everything, so this pretty much explains why most people can't even give you the time of day.

And yeah, I can agree that in today's world, kindness should be rewarded, but it is only expected, and that's a scary thing to think about, especially given the fact that just a few decades ago, character mattered more than how selfish you were and how much money you had.

Now also, when I said positive actions should be rewarded, keep in mind I'm not talking about romance at all. That's an entirely different thing from what I was talking about. Nobody is entitled to anybody's body, but I will say it's quite disturbing when you get people in real life that say things like that, and then they turn around and end up with someone who really shouldn't have anything to do with their body.

The irony of the whole thing is, the human race seems to be reverting back to the ways of the caveman. That is, to fend only for themselves and say "to hell with everyone else." Even racism is at an all-time high now for the first time since the '50s. I mean, society is just getting more and more corrupt. It doesn't surprise me that the bad guys always win.

According to people I've known for years, who have lived through all sorts of things, it is a lot different. The only bad thing was, really, that racism was so widespread and accepted. But back then, people got along with others better, could let their kids run around with very little fear of anything happening to them, and all sorts of stuff you wouldn't believe if you were born in the '80s or later. The most important thing is that people judged others by character, and not by how they looked. Sure, you still had the kids who teased other kids for how they looked and everything, but it all evened out later on in life. Today's people don't have that luxury. You either got it or you don't. If you don't got it, then prepare for hell.

i have no idea what this thread is inherently about, but i will say something anyway.
i have never joined a dating site because i am not interested in dating.
i have a girlfriend who i love in one way, and who i feel constricted by in another way.

i am thoroughly satisfied with how i am and how my world i live in is. i need no one else to be an ingredient in my satisfaction.

i do not know why anyone feels lonely when they are not in the company of other people. i feel more lonely when i am in company because i can see just how far away from them i am.

their rules and regulations that are unspoken (but very important to reciprocal conversations) can not be obeyed by me. i have no idea why people are incensed at mere suggestions, and of the verbal renditions of my observations, and so i consign their reactions to the scrap heap of my memory.

the main requirement i have is to breathe and eat and sleep warmly.

i do not even understand the language of love

it is unfathomable to me why many young men feel less than whole without a girlfriend.

the notion of "romance" i am blind to.

many girls want to know me on a personal level, but i have told them "no" because it takes all day every day for me to consider my own needs.

here is a wordplay:

you are either a hot guy or an ice guy.
there is a fertile field of consideration that i can not be bothered to type about.

This thread has turned into a very fascinating series of conversations. Rare for L&D. I am impressed and intrigued.

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