Feeling ugly, flat chested and that I'm not good enough

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People have already said this but you really need to address your whole insecurity issues about your body. It's not fair on your bf and take it from me, after a while they get sick of hearing it , and eventually you will drive them away with your constant doubts and accusations. From and objective perspective, seeing an advertisment about breast cancer awareness and suddenly thinking your bf is going to be having sexual thoughts about those breasts is preposterous.

Don't get me wrong I do understand your insecurities, I, like most women, have my own, but you really can't be projecting them onto your bf all the time because it's not fair on him and if you don't want to lose him you're going to have to find some other way to cope with these feelings. Are you in therapy ?

I'm not.in therapy because I'm still dependent on my mom and live with her and she would get angry if I suggested it. She gets angry if I tell her anything abiut this and b*****s about how she had it worse. Also: Men will sexualize healthy breasts (like the ones in the ads) no matter what.

There are workouts that you can do to make your breasts look larger. Surgery sounds expensive.

Yes, we will all breasts we see. If you could grow a pair of perfect breasts in a lab we would all be fascinated by them.

But that doesn't mean that he would prefer those breasts over your breasts. Sure, they may be bigger. But you're forgetting one really critical thing that those other breasts are missing... they aren't yours. Men, as physical as we can be, are also very emotional creatures and at the end of the day our emotions rule us more than we like to admit. Those perfect lab-grown breasts will simply never be anything more than a fascination because there isn't a woman attached to them to love. If a man loves you, there is no leg, no stomach, no big toe, no belly button fuzz, and no pair of breasts that are better than yours because none of them are yours.

The only exception would be if you had a penis, in which case it would be his second-favorite penis in the world. Nothing comes between a man and his own willy.

Do want out of that relationship because your working very hard at it.

Correction, boys in puberty and perverted men may, but not all men. Self respecting, mature and secure men will see it as everyone else, another body part. What if you and your boyfriend saw a woman breastfeeding her baby would you get intimidated, jealous and insecure then too?

Based on your rationale you must assume that even male dr's start fantasizing about sex and boobs everytime they have to treat a female patient. What about gynocologists, do you think they start salivating everytime they see a vagina too?

Ok, if that would stop you complaining then please do.

I might even donate for it.

Correction: Most men, including self-respecting mature and secure men, are sexually enticed by breasts. It's the culture that these men are a part of. But to say that they don't respect themselves because they love breasts is nonsense talk.

That said, a lot of men love breasts of various sizes, from small to large.

@curlyfry No, I don't. I just want to feel pretty and womanly again. Ever since he said the crap about wanting to check out topless women it's botheered me at the back of my mind.

@Boo Don't like the thread? Don't read it. Simple.

I just started to like it.

Agreed, and agreed with curlyfry. It sounds like you are doing your best to drive him away

But I gave you advice before so I won't repeat it.

Not in a professional context, a doctor's dick wouldn't get erected while he's checking a breast because he really sees it as another body part of a patient. The same doctor would get horny the same night by seeing his lover flashing her boobs on him or some breasts bouncing in a strip club.

Umm... I think this was a bit explicit.

Curious question......Does a 12 page discussion specifically about your breasts make you more or less self conscious?

@Geekonychus It helps me try to figure things out and vent. As I said, my mother would get angry if I wanted therapy so this is how I vent and get feedback and help.

I am sorry, but this seems to be really bothering you. So its something you yourself should feel to be important, to take care of. If you had breast cancer, would you care if your mother would get angry, if you visited a doctor, so he can help you with that problem?

Feeling not happy, is a serious problem, its about having a ruined life. If your mother doesnt care that much for you, then I also wouldnt care for her wishes. Special when its about such really normal things like: Visiting a doctor to get professional help. Even if it was only about a ruined car wheel, and your mother would be angry if you visited an mechanic, i think you wouldnt care about it. Because a ruined car wheel is something important and visiting a mechanic is nothing to feel sorry for. So take yourself at least as serious as you would be about a car wheel.

You are worth much more then that.

If I saw a 12 pages discussion about my cock I would totally be flattered.