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12 Jun 2022, 9:11 pm

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This is out of line. If a woman wants to have sex with 100+ men it's not your place to shame her.


Actually I have never met such girls? Certainly known a few who probably had one night stands but they would be like 10+ not 100+

I saw my first girlfriend once after we were no longer a couple. At that time, she bragged to me that she'd been going to bars and having sex with random guys she met there (if she thought them attractive, of course!). I doubt she did 100 but I also doubt she was opposed to trying. She would have been proud of such an accomplishment, not at all ashamed.


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12 Jun 2022, 9:23 pm

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I saw my first girlfriend once after we were no longer a couple. At that time, she bragged to me that she'd been going to bars and having sex with random guys she met there (if she thought them attractive, of course!). I doubt she did 100 but I also doubt she was opposed to trying. She would have been proud of such an accomplishment, not at all ashamed.


Is it possible she was exaggerating for effect?



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13 Jun 2022, 12:48 am

some only want one-night stands and nothing more. some don't care for love or even know what love is. we're all wired differently. that is not for me, however. love matters.



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13 Jun 2022, 12:51 am

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some only want one-night stands and nothing more. some don't care for love or even know what love is. we're all wired differently. that is not for me, however. love matters.


I see these types on the movies/TV but yet to meet one in real life.



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13 Jun 2022, 1:07 am

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some only want one-night stands and nothing more. some don't care for love or even know what love is. we're all wired differently. that is not for me, however. love matters.


I see these types on the movies/TV but yet to meet one in real life.

you find them at the highest echelons of society, big business and hollywood.



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13 Jun 2022, 1:09 am

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some only want one-night stands and nothing more. some don't care for love or even know what love is. we're all wired differently. that is not for me, however. love matters.


I see these types on the movies/TV but yet to meet one in real life.

you find them at the highest echelons of society, big business and hollywood.


Yes there was a comment made by one the female characters in peaky blinders that sex is used like a handshake between the husbands and wives of the European aristocracy.



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13 Jun 2022, 1:10 am

cyberdad wrote:
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some only want one-night stands and nothing more. some don't care for love or even know what love is. we're all wired differently. that is not for me, however. love matters.


I see these types on the movies/TV but yet to meet one in real life.

I'm sure what love is. I don't particularly care.
But I will pay attention to interests such as safety. So, no one-night stands


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13 Jun 2022, 1:10 am

cyberdad wrote:
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some only want one-night stands and nothing more. some don't care for love or even know what love is. we're all wired differently. that is not for me, however. love matters.


I see these types on the movies/TV but yet to meet one in real life.

you find them at the highest echelons of society, big business and hollywood.


Yes there was a comment made by one the female characters in peaky blinders that sex is used like a handshake between the husbands and wives of the European aristocracy.

a mutual exchange of le petit mort.



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13 Jun 2022, 4:26 am

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Although if i did go that route the country would be Germany..


Only 4% of German women marry foreigners and off that 4% nearly 75% would only consider a German speaking foreigner from the EU so that leave you 1% who would be willing to date an American.

If it's Europe then Ukrainian women would be a good bet, Not only are they as attractive as German women from what I hear they are willing to marry anyone to get out of that country,

Maybe Romania could work?Are there any possible countries in Northwestern Europe that could work?Germany has a big population so one percent is still a good sized number of women.



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13 Jun 2022, 5:20 am

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Maybe Romania could work?Are there any possible countries in Northwestern Europe that could work?Germany has a big population so one percent is still a good sized number of women.


I think eastern Europe is a better option. Germany is a conservative country and there plenty of foreigners for those 1%.

I have male relatives who have married women from the following countries
Sweden
Estonia
England

Believe it or not but there a lot of English girls who dig Australian and American men.



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13 Jun 2022, 11:55 am

cyberdad wrote:
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I saw my first girlfriend once after we were no longer a couple. At that time, she bragged to me that she'd been going to bars and having sex with random guys she met there (if she thought them attractive, of course!). I doubt she did 100 but I also doubt she was opposed to trying. She would have been proud of such an accomplishment, not at all ashamed.


Is it possible she was exaggerating for effect?

Unlikely. She seemed excited and talked about it as though it was a wonderful thing she had discovered and would share with the world if possible. She also seemed proud of the amount of drinking she did in those bars, in addition to the pick-ups.

I doubt she kept that up indefinitely. This was at least 3 years before she got married. But I suppose anything's possible.

BTW I believe she was at least somewhat on the spectrum. When she told me this, it didn't seem that she was concerned as to how I would feel about it one way or the other, i.e. she didn't seem to be looking for a reaction.


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14 Jun 2022, 3:09 am

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Unlikely. She seemed excited and talked about it as though it was a wonderful thing she had discovered and would share with the world if possible. .


Hmmm possible she was enjoying the male attention perhaps. A lot of single girls in bars (when I used to frequent bars back in the 1990s) enjoyed flirting when they got drunk. But they didn't always hookup with strangers.

I don't know your ex, it's quite possible she was sleeping around. I guess we will both never know?



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14 Jun 2022, 4:43 am

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Unlikely. She seemed excited and talked about it as though it was a wonderful thing she had discovered and would share with the world if possible. .


Hmmm possible she was enjoying the male attention perhaps. A lot of single girls in bars (when I used to frequent bars back in the 1990s) enjoyed flirting when they got drunk. But they didn't always hookup with strangers.

I don't know your ex, it's quite possible she was sleeping around. I guess we will both never know?

If by sleeping around, I suppose you mean while we were still together - I doubt it, although it would probably not have been hard to get her to cheat. No, almost half a century later, it doesn't matter nor do I care.

Later I had another girlfriend who is more likely to have cheated on me, but I basically chose to ignore it. Not by picking guys up in bars though. :


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14 Jun 2022, 5:29 am

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Later I had another girlfriend who is more likely to have cheated on me, but I basically chose to ignore it. Not by picking guys up in bars though. :


I don't know what goes through these girl's heads?



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14 Jun 2022, 5:45 am

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14 Jun 2022, 5:50 am

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Later I had another girlfriend who is more likely to have cheated on me, but I basically chose to ignore it. Not by picking guys up in bars though. :


I don't know what goes through these girl's heads?

The first night I spent with her, she told me she had a FWB. Sometime later, I saw her walking around holding hands with a guy, when she wasn't expecting me (not the FWB). I basically forgave her for that. In this case, I think it was a matter of "old friends". She wasn't out looking for hookups but took pride in the idea that guys had sexual thoughts about her and that she knew how to make a guy happy (she wasn't actually a great sex partner but was charmingly enthusiastic and eager to please). BTW this is somebody who dearly wanted to marry me, she even published a wedding announcement in the paper. We were officially a couple for over 2 years. BTW as I see it, she was probably autistic. A major reason I didn't marry her was because my parents thought there was something wrong with her and were horrified by the thought of having her as a daughter in law, and I wasn't independent enough to defy them.

I hope I didn't offend anyone by saying she was autistic. Women on the Spectrum have a wide variety of ways to deal with their sexuality. She was by no means a bad person nor did she have any desire to hurt me, she just did her own thing.


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