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18 Oct 2013, 2:13 am

I must admit though that man in the video does seem a bit messed up. Again though, not having social skills is a lot worse than not having a job when it comes to dating, I would say the main factor as to why many guys on this website are single is due to social skills and social status.



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18 Oct 2013, 4:34 am

Boo, is your problem that the girls you are interested in aren't interested in you and you can't figure out why and keep blaming height and religion or lackthereof and money and shirts and stuff because you just can't understand what the heck is going on?



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18 Oct 2013, 5:06 am

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Boo, is your problem that the girls you are interested in aren't interested in you and you can't figure out why and keep blaming height and religion or lackthereof and money and shirts and stuff because you just can't understand what the heck is going on?


I am not blaming anything or anyone really but my own self, and my problems are not of your concern.



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18 Oct 2013, 5:38 am

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Those surely have joined some local terrorist group.

You could change your profile name to Hez-baller , do a gangster pose and put your tagline as "I have an explosive personality. Meeting me is a once in a lifetime experience."



Hyperbole is hyperbole.

I hate hyperboles. :P Yet I do have hyper balls, wait...that didn't sound so right.


It was meant to be a play on words for a terror group in your region :P


Hezbollah is either respected/worshiped or hated to bones, no room for neutrality, the local population are divided in half over it. I am of the latter.



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18 Oct 2013, 8:31 am

Hmmm....... There may be something to this switching countries for love thing.........

Could we exchange Lost for Boo?

I'm pretty sure western women would think Boo's quite a catch and Lost is looking for a more traditional submissive women. Sounds like a perfect arrangement actually!



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18 Oct 2013, 8:34 am

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I think a one reason why Okc worked so well for Geeko because he's of a category of weirdo which is common there: gypsy/neopagans/Trekie/magicians/gothic/artist/AnimeHair/tattoos/vampires... you got the point, for some reason those people are common on okc and they seek each other.

Me on the other hand, more like JM and Jono tbh, of the more 'boring' category of weird: the regular-looking, socially inept and typical nerd/geek who's into factual info more than fictions or whatsoever. Girls of that category are even more rare and from my exp they seek for extroverts to complete them.
With glasses I look typically geek too even tho I was called sporty without them.

Laid back, normal looking, no tattoos, no magic carpets, no snakes, no crazy hairstyle and cool facial hair. Nothing is too odd looking nor too "crazy" about us, too normal plus lack of NT social skills. Got my point?

This category isn't much desired by the other type of weirdos nor much by regular people because well... we're neither super hot nor serial travelers or riches with cool cars, overall we stand out less and belong to a less desirable breed on okc.


I was about to write something similar.

I think this thread worked because it was Geek-to-Geek. But Nerds with high level of dorkiness in them are going to find it tough. Nerds, don't talk about their interests unless the other person triggers the interest. Dorks don't care what they do, what people think of them or how they do anything. This thread is nice for the Geeks. But doesn't apply to nerds, the type that rambles and everybody leaves and he/she ends up preaching to the wall. The type that looks boring and shows no interest in anything because it isn't really an obsessive interest or boring, relatively simple in their eyes or because it was already understood.

I only manage to end up talking to INTP females on OKCupid anyway, their not forward either. Everything is neither here nor there with them.

Anyway nice to hear good stories Geekonychus.



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18 Oct 2013, 9:25 am

Stalk wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I think a one reason why Okc worked so well for Geeko because he's of a category of weirdo which is common there: gypsy/neopagans/Trekie/magicians/gothic/artist/AnimeHair/tattoos/vampires... you got the point, for some reason those people are common on okc and they seek each other.

Me on the other hand, more like JM and Jono tbh, of the more 'boring' category of weird: the regular-looking, socially inept and typical nerd/geek who's into factual info more than fictions or whatsoever. Girls of that category are even more rare and from my exp they seek for extroverts to complete them.
With glasses I look typically geek too even tho I was called sporty without them.

Laid back, normal looking, no tattoos, no magic carpets, no snakes, no crazy hairstyle and cool facial hair. Nothing is too odd looking nor too "crazy" about us, too normal plus lack of NT social skills. Got my point?

This category isn't much desired by the other type of weirdos nor much by regular people because well... we're neither super hot nor serial travelers or riches with cool cars, overall we stand out less and belong to a less desirable breed on okc.




I was about to write something similar.

I think this thread worked because it was Geek-to-Geek. But Nerds with high level of dorkiness in them are going to find it tough. Nerds, don't talk about their interests unless the other person triggers the interest. Dorks don't care what they do, what people think of them or how they do anything. This thread is nice for the Geeks. But doesn't apply to nerds, the type that rambles and everybody leaves and he/she ends up preaching to the wall. The type that looks boring and shows no interest in anything because it isn't really an obsessive interest or boring, relatively simple in their eyes or because it was already understood.

I only manage to end up talking to INTP females on OKCupid anyway, their not forward either. Everything is neither here nor there with them.

Anyway nice to hear good stories Geekonychus.


http://i.imgur.com/Euhjue0.jpg. That's my personality type.


That reminds of a that eccentric atheist girl I knew from a local online group for years (met her in person twice) and later on stumbled over her profile on okcupid, I had a great interest for her, we've chatted there for ages and finally we were discussing where to meet up - I don't recall why and how we started talking about personality types and the moment I mentioned I am intj, she like had a shock "nooo nooo, not intj", something like that. I recall she said she bad a lot of male intj friends but she could and will never be able to date one - and she cancelled the whole meeting up possibility.
That was ages ago tho.



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18 Oct 2013, 10:46 pm

Stalk wrote:
I think this thread worked because it was Geek-to-Geek. But Nerds with high level of dorkiness in them are going to find it tough. Nerds, don't talk about their interests unless the other person triggers the interest. Dorks don't care what they do, what people think of them or how they do anything. This thread is nice for the Geeks. But doesn't apply to nerds, the type that rambles and everybody leaves and he/she ends up preaching to the wall. The type that looks boring and shows no interest in anything because it isn't really an obsessive interest or boring, relatively simple in their eyes or because it was already understood.

Well, if a nerd isn't really interested in anything except their special interest, why are they looking for a girlfriend? Wouldn't that also be 'neither here nor there' to them? So it shouldn't really matter if they don't have much success finding a date.

There are nerdy people who still have an interest in the world and don't know everything yet. I'm one of those. Actually according to a certain Venn diagram, I'm a dweeb. That's a nerd minus the obsession. Perhaps that's the key. Be smart and socially awkward, but instead of rambling on about stuff, have conversations. I know a lot of aspies thinks that's more effort than it's worth, and so again I say, such people should not be so fussed about finding a partner, because conversation is usually a big part of a relationship. You can't ramble AND relate (well you can but how would you know?).



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19 Oct 2013, 2:17 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
Stalk wrote:
I think this thread worked because it was Geek-to-Geek. But Nerds with high level of dorkiness in them are going to find it tough. Nerds, don't talk about their interests unless the other person triggers the interest. Dorks don't care what they do, what people think of them or how they do anything. This thread is nice for the Geeks. But doesn't apply to nerds, the type that rambles and everybody leaves and he/she ends up preaching to the wall. The type that looks boring and shows no interest in anything because it isn't really an obsessive interest or boring, relatively simple in their eyes or because it was already understood.

Well, if a nerd isn't really interested in anything except their special interest, why are they looking for a girlfriend? Wouldn't that also be 'neither here nor there' to them? So it shouldn't really matter if they don't have much success finding a date.

There are nerdy people who still have an interest in the world and don't know everything yet. I'm one of those. Actually according to a certain Venn diagram, I'm a dweeb. That's a nerd minus the obsession. Perhaps that's the key. Be smart and socially awkward, but instead of rambling on about stuff, have conversations. I know a lot of aspies thinks that's more effort than it's worth, and so again I say, such people should not be so fussed about finding a partner, because conversation is usually a big part of a relationship. You can't ramble AND relate (well you can but how would you know?).


I think he means that they show no interest in other things - not that they don't have interest at all. Think of the difference.

And as I far I know, nerds aren't necessarly asexual nor with no emoional/romantic needs as you make them sound. You know, they aren't less humans just for your info.



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19 Oct 2013, 3:21 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
Stalk wrote:
I think this thread worked because it was Geek-to-Geek. But Nerds with high level of dorkiness in them are going to find it tough. Nerds, don't talk about their interests unless the other person triggers the interest. Dorks don't care what they do, what people think of them or how they do anything. This thread is nice for the Geeks. But doesn't apply to nerds, the type that rambles and everybody leaves and he/she ends up preaching to the wall. The type that looks boring and shows no interest in anything because it isn't really an obsessive interest or boring, relatively simple in their eyes or because it was already understood.

Well, if a nerd isn't really interested in anything except their special interest, why are they looking for a girlfriend? Wouldn't that also be 'neither here nor there' to them? So it shouldn't really matter if they don't have much success finding a date.

There are nerdy people who still have an interest in the world and don't know everything yet. I'm one of those. Actually according to a certain Venn diagram, I'm a dweeb. That's a nerd minus the obsession. Perhaps that's the key. Be smart and socially awkward, but instead of rambling on about stuff, have conversations. I know a lot of aspies thinks that's more effort than it's worth, and so again I say, such people should not be so fussed about finding a partner, because conversation is usually a big part of a relationship. You can't ramble AND relate (well you can but how would you know?).


I think he means that they show no interest in other things - not that they don't have interest at all. Think of the difference.

And as I far I know, nerds aren't necessarly asexual nor with no emoional/romantic needs as you make them sound. You know, they aren't not less humans just for your info.

They aren't not less humans? :lol:

He said "shows no interest in anything", I assumed he meant that those types of nerds show no interest in anything except the things that they obsess about. I have heard such people on this forum saying they are not interested in relationships because then they won't have time for their interest, etc etc. Someone who doesn't think that way presumably does have other interests outside their obsession (that they would be willing to chat about?), and so surely they would not be "boring" and "showing no interest", therefore, that's not the sort of person Stalk was talking about.



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22 Oct 2013, 10:24 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
Stalk wrote:
I think this thread worked because it was Geek-to-Geek. But Nerds with high level of dorkiness in them are going to find it tough. Nerds, don't talk about their interests unless the other person triggers the interest. Dorks don't care what they do, what people think of them or how they do anything. This thread is nice for the Geeks. But doesn't apply to nerds, the type that rambles and everybody leaves and he/she ends up preaching to the wall. The type that looks boring and shows no interest in anything because it isn't really an obsessive interest or boring, relatively simple in their eyes or because it was already understood.

Well, if a nerd isn't really interested in anything except their special interest, why are they looking for a girlfriend? Wouldn't that also be 'neither here nor there' to them? So it shouldn't really matter if they don't have much success finding a date.

There are nerdy people who still have an interest in the world and don't know everything yet. I'm one of those. Actually according to a certain Venn diagram, I'm a dweeb. That's a nerd minus the obsession. Perhaps that's the key. Be smart and socially awkward, but instead of rambling on about stuff, have conversations. I know a lot of aspies thinks that's more effort than it's worth, and so again I say, such people should not be so fussed about finding a partner, because conversation is usually a big part of a relationship. You can't ramble AND relate (well you can but how would you know?).


I think he means that they show no interest in other things - not that they don't have interest at all. Think of the difference.

And as I far I know, nerds aren't necessarly asexual nor with no emoional/romantic needs as you make them sound. You know, they aren't not less humans just for your info.

They aren't not less humans? :lol:

He said "shows no interest in anything", I assumed he meant that those types of nerds show no interest in anything except the things that they obsess about. I have heard such people on this forum saying they are not interested in relationships because then they won't have time for their interest, etc etc. Someone who doesn't think that way presumably does have other interests outside their obsession (that they would be willing to chat about?), and so surely they would not be "boring" and "showing no interest", therefore, that's not the sort of person Stalk was talking about.

I'm not smart enough to be a "real nerd" but I'm failing to see why the my advice (which essentially comes down to presenting your real self in a positive light) can't just as easily apply. No other girls have the same obsessions? No other girls are in nerdy introverts? Are there no female librarians/scientists/teachers in lebanon?



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22 Oct 2013, 11:11 am

I'd move to Lebanon in a heartbeat. Face of boo has some decent women over there he just needs to find his niche.



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24 Oct 2013, 2:00 am

You know, the world should allow consensual switching citizenship.



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24 Oct 2013, 2:15 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
You know, the world should allow consensual switching citizenship.


+1



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24 Oct 2013, 2:16 am

Also, OP, I like the bird on your hat.



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24 Oct 2013, 2:30 am

^^ I hope he doesn't make the hat as his toilet.