Afraid of being alone forever?

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What do you want me to say? I'm not gonna pretend I'm a "top-shelf product" when I'm obviously not. What I'm saying is that there are a lot of plain and average girls out there who seem to be under the impression they're worth more than they actually are. I think it might behoove them to reconsider their options.

Again, seeing as you're a woman, I can sort of understand why you'd think that way, but not for me, it isn't. I don't want to be alone.

Cafeaulait, I have been years here on the forum, and I can assure you, most female members, even those who whined a lot of being lonely, did find someone - especially the young ones 18-25s.

You yourself got a two boyfriends, including the current one, while your equivalent complaining males like Sly and Brian and many others are still single during the same period of life.

Let me put it in perspective: You: 1, them:0, same period. got it?

Don't know how many times I already gold you that, are you deaf? Is hard for you tot grasp that having sex with a guy a couple times =/= having a boyfriend?


There are so many examples, but I won't name more than that.

If only I can find this long article written a female aspie arranging aspie meetups, It was ages ago when I first joined WP, the whole article was about how she noticed all the males in the meetups were single while the females were not.

That's all good news for the OP btw.

If you ask me about who was meaner/harder to tolerate in the past, I'd have to say both were revolting but men edged out women. The women in my past would be constantly but covertly sizing each other up and trying not to fall behind on some abstract degree of worthiness. Since they were covert about it though, it's entirely possible that my social ignorance prevented me from fully understanding their brand of toxicity, making them seem less harmful (pre-menopause women have the potential to be each others' worst enemies regardless of neurological makeup).

Men would be spitting on me for not being the kind of person they'd want to bed, for being too outspoken for my own good and for making them feel stupid (intentionally or not e_e). Un-womanly/inferior breed/ disgusting, etc. Men themselves would compare me with other females and berate me for not following their example . And if it was seen that I fancied someone (my body language was obvious to everyone but me despite my best attempts to cover it) I would be publicly humiliated in front of them until I stopped looking at that person(know your place).

You could theorize that maybe I avoid women just to avoid anything to do with the role I was constantly being attacked over. I get along with tomboys just fine and conversely the more stereotypical, the more repellent women are to me. True tomboys that lack the annoying sizing up mentality women often have towards each other are rare to come by though.

I don't think dating it's easier or harder for aspies of either gender. Being an aspie gives you your own crappy set of challenges depending on (or regardless of, depending on how you see it) your plumbing. Ultimately you are high maintenance in the most repellent ways , and no one wants high maintenance. No one ever visualizes the Aspie kind of high maintenance as their ideal partner, and more often than not it is endured for the sake of other traits/ lack of better options.

I get the impression people want to believe there's something about women that makes them more intolerant of aspie traits, being aspie makes it nasty for both genders to date, it's possible that men are much more vocal about it though.




Nevermind my dating problems (I gave up on that crap) , I'm not sure you're fully aware of the message you're sending here.
By saying this, aren't you in a way implying that a woman would need lower standards to consider you?
Aren't you implying that a woman who would consider you needs to have a less-than-average perception of her own value?
Would you be happy with being a "settling for the next best thing" target?

Romance is nice, but people forget it's optional rather than compulsory. Being alone is always, always better than being in poor company.

The Face of Boo, why do you have so much difficulty comprehending what I write everytime? This bittered faulty attitude is your nummer one problemen in dating. It's the way you andere Gauldoth think about women.

Do you not see the flaws in your own perception and reasoning? Nearly every phrase has a faulty premise, interpretation or premise in it. You've become a walking self-fulfulling prophecy, trying to convince other males tot see it your way.

Again: I have way different experiences then you. Now what?

Actually, you're right, I have no idea how Aspergers affects women in dating because I've never seen any way in which it does.

And I have, now what?


Oh, I've seen plenty of women like you who THINK that their dating woes are because of their Aspergers, but when/if they actually start getting into details, you see that it has nothing to do with it.

Oh, I have seen plenty of men like you who THINK that their dating woes are because of their Asperges, nut when/if you start getting into details, you see that it had nothing tot do with it.


The dating problems that plague both NT and Aspie women are these: you have ridiculously high standards, mostly due to your gross overestimating of yourselves and your own personal value, and complete, and often times willful, ignorance of the differences between the sexes. You just think that hairier versions of yourselves, and then became upset when that doesn't turn out to the case.

A load of belittling crap. Stop acting like women are these infantile, immature irrational weird creatures. It's the reason you will never find a woman to love you for who you are. Any sane woman would be turned off by reading this. Also hilarious how you speak about ignoring differences between the sexes. It's the thing you are best at yourself.

Look, just because you can't get Chad McAlphamale to settle down with you doesn't mean you're an Aspie. It just means your value as a romantic partner wasn't as high as you thought.

You're crazy. Blabla romantic value blabla. Another weird assumption. This has nothing to do with me, nor most aspie women.

My advice: date within your own level. I know you're not gonna do it, because women seem to preffer to die alone rather than to settle with a guy who is as plain and average as they are, but there you go.

Again, you sound like you are crazy. My advice to you: get out of your self fulfilling prophecy, bittered attitude towards women and grow up.

You talk no sense.

I have plenty of female friends.

I am not bitter toward women, but I am stating something very obvious here.
This is is my opinion and my observation on this gender matter, even some female aspies agreed before, it's not like I walk in real life and grudge at women's faces for it.

I get along better with women irl, but better with aspies as a whole, both on the internet and irl. The only aspies I knew were girls, and I got along with them pretty well.

Not all aspie women get along with men well or women. Most of the time I don't get along with anyone! I tend to repel people somehow.

You do come across as 'bitter' to many women on this board, even though you are not explicitly or consciously stating it (just as many people say 'i am not racist', but they are). My opinion is different from yours, plenty of male aspies agree with me. Stop trying to convince me of my own experience because it is nog in line with yours. It's dumb.

You do come across as 'bitter' to many women on this board, even though you are not explicitly or consciously stating it (just as many people say 'i am not racist', but they are). My opinion is different from yours, plenty of male aspies agree with me. Stop trying to convince me of my own experience because it is nog in line with yours. It's dumb.

What actually gives you pleasure, Gaul?

Forget about the chicks for a while--take a break. Get into your interests.

Or obtain a college/university degree if you don't have one already.

Just forget the girls for a while. It might do you good.