WHAT ARE YOUR DEAL BREAKERS WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS?

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I've actually had a decent amount of woman whom I made love with. Mostly in my 20's. After age 30, I've only made love with about 3-4 women.

Despite all this, I still think I'm "innocent and naïve."

Why? Do you want to make sure your acceptable number is the same as the average acceptable number?

Yeah. This too. Definitely.

I would also be somewhat wary of anyone who had ever been to a strip club. Not necessarily a total deal breaker, but if they were a frequent or recent visitor to a strip club, I couldn't stomach that.

Also - I forgot to put this on my list! It would be an instant, forever deal breaker if a guy had ever prostituted himself. I heard this about one guy after we broke up, and I'll never know if it was true or not, but it didn't surprise me a bit. Thankfully I had only very limited physical contact with him, but still...ew!

Oh an another one would be if a guy asks me if I think he might be gay...especially if he asks me while we're having sex. Yep, that actually happened. I didn't wait around to find out how that relationship was going to end.




I think it depends on a lot of factors, like how old the person is, how recent it was, and how they talk about it. Like if it was in the long buried past, it wouldn't bother me as much.

But more recent would definitely put me off, especially if a guy lets it be known as if he's proud of it, or worse still hangs out with and flirts with former partners. Not so much a deal breaker, because I just wouldn't be interested in someone like that to begin with.

All things considered, I think if it was more than a dozen or so, it would probably bother me.

I've had rather long periods of celibacy and I would prefer to be with someone is the same way.

I'd like to know if my acceptable number is me being unrealistic. I don't even know if most men would be honest. I think 5 or less would be acceptable (preferably less).

I last went to a strip club when I was 21.

I've never been to a prostitute.

under 10 partners in a lifetime is assoc. with a lower risk of STD's.

I've had about 30-35 partners in my life--about 25-30 of them before age 30. Never had an STD (fortunately).

never been to a stip club, I have no desire to either.

never been to a prostitute

Very smart of you, Sly. I commend your excellent choice in this mater.

Casanova probably didn't have that much before 30.

Another deal breaker I have might be if I ran into someone and he thought it's okay for parents to be abused by their child because he doesn't think they should be hospitalized and thinks its lazy parenting. Uh no thank you, if we have a kid together and that kid turns out to be violent, I am not having a unsafe life in my home and endangering my other kids because our kid has ODD or a conduct disorder or anger issues or something or they have that rare autism that just makes them attack you for no reason because they get told no or because of a change in their routine or a change in plans lets say or their "meltdowns" make them attack you so they look for you and attack you so you have to lock yourself in your room and they pound on the door because they couldn't kick your ass.


Believes all abortions are wrong so that means if you have a unsafe pregnancy, you must die then. No thank you.

Still married after 22 years, but back in the day the deal BREAKERS, not makers, were
1. Smokes.
2. Dumbass.

Some (divorced and later turned widow) woman that used to live around the corner from our house would send her kids to summer camp for the whole summer, I just couldn't fathom that, but I don't know how one would detect an attitude like that while dating.

I try to not be so judgmental but maybe the mom always went off to summer cap every summer so it's the way she did it with her kids and didn't know any different because it's what her family had always done.

Her kids loved going off to summer camp all summer

And the worst one I can assume is she hated being a mom and didn't like to be a parent and always having to take care of them so she sent them off so she wouldn't have to deal with them.

most men seem to go. bunch tried to get me go a bunch of times.
I don't find it romantic and i want stuff like seeing a woman nude in person to be romantic. I also don't like the idea of some strange woman touching me. also its loud in there at-least in movies.

Never been to a strip club, and not to a prostitute either. Have only had sex with one person. I've had 2-6 partners depending on what counts as partners.

There are a lot of important things you cannot detect with dating, which is why it is such an ineffective method.