Soulmates

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BS is not swearing, the filter doesn't detect it. In fact, there's nothing wrong with swearing anyway.

^Swearing is vulgar and terrible taste in words.

No, it's normal human behavior. How old are you?

I'm not normal, so swearing is not normal for me. What does my age have to do with anything?

It has to do with how you see swearing.

If somebody doesn't like swearing, it's nice to respect that person's wishes.

I wonder how old she is anyway. She likes to keep secrets.

She's young, but not as young as 15.

At her age she still has time to find a lover, considering her wide range of interests. I've lost all hope for myself.

Gah, for Gaia's sake, Cockroach, you're barely older than me! Why are you giving up when you've barely begun your life?!

Um, not all of them get bored. Like i said, 18 years and no we are not tired of each other.

(And i am not Michele Duggar either--perish the thought! 18 yrs of marriage but not 21.998 kids or however many they are up to now. I consider myself a Christian but i do not feel that a lot of the publicly vocal Christians are stellar representations of us commoners. Reality tv especially gives me hives because people think it's real and it's not. We are not all uber-right-wing and Bible-thumping. But that's a rabbit trail.)

Hubby and i are just normal people i think-- except that, unlike all the divorces we hear about around us, we are best friends who get to have sex with each other (which is still not boring after 18 yrs either). We've always thought it's a pretty good arrangement. Sometimes we fight and get on each other's nerves, etc., but that's part of living with anybody.

Some people are soul mates the instant they meet. Others grow into it. My "Anne and Diana" friend is the first kind--we clicked right away. My hubby is the 2nd kind--we hit it off well when we met, but became soulmates with the years.

Anyhow, my 2 cents if you wanted it.

Thank you, PAAspie. Your two cents was quite worthwhile!

28ish now been looking since 16. I can tell you that it doesn't get any better. I'm waiting for that part of me that refuses to give up to die. People would always say you only 19,20,18,21 etc you shouldn't be giving up stil time to happen. Welp 10 years later from 18 and nope still alone. Life doesn't change much if your like most aspie guys if you've never had a gf by 18 you probably never will.

Aww, thank you Kura. And to you and all of you other teenagers and twenty-somethings who are discouraged about not finding love--i am so sorry you are. I don't know you other than what i see on this forum so it is difficult to give generally helpful advice like i could if you were sitting in my dining room and we chatted over a cup of tea or something.

I do know that our hard work has paid off in marriage. But i think our generation (speaking as an ancient 30-something ) has fed your generation some really bad information about how to go about finding and keeping love. Yes, there are warm fuzzies but there is something called commitment which truly makes the world go round. And commitment produces warm fuzzies because there is nothing like the feeling you get when you know this person will stand by you for life--and you will do the same for them. You can be safe, you can be yourself. That is why, all religious stuff aside, i firmly believe in marriage til death do we part (of course there are cases of abuse or infidelity which are a different matter--but i am speaking of 2 good hearted, good-intentioned people who love each other). I would believe in it even if i had no religious reasons to; because, on principle and in reality, it works.

When you offer this to someone, you have to be selective about whom you choose. Not everyone is willing to commit to it. For my brother and some of my uncles, they were in their mid-30's til they found their mates. I know any of them would tell you it was worth the wait. (My personal opinion is that some of us take longer to mature and be ready to take on a family too. )

I have a dear cousin who recently turned 40 and is still single. She is a beautiful girl with as sweet of a personality as you could find. Why she is not taken I have NO idea. But she is happy with herself and i know that if she remains single, she will still be happy being herself. I know she would rather be contentedly single than to be with the wrong person. If you cannot be happy with yourself, i don't think you would ever be happy with someone else either.

Ok, enough lecturing from the old married lady. But there's my 2 cents on that too for what it's worth. And now i must make supper for my family and get off the computer. Take care, all of you!

^Wow! Thanks for sharing! I agree, it's supposed to be commitment, then warm and fuzzy feelings, not the other way round. That's great advice. Thanks again. Ha ha, 'old married lady'.

Swearing is used as a term of endearment where I come from.
"You're a f*****g bastard!" Means you're a sly one (in a good way) and I admire you.
Of course, there is a certain tone of voice employed.