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27 Jun 2019, 10:01 am

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In reality looks will of course be used as a first filter because you inevitably know someones looks before you know their personality. The relative importance is hard to asses because looks and personality don't have the same unit of measurement - if you can say at all what their unit of measurement is..

to quote Dr McCoy from Star trek..."it's worse than that Jim"
The reality is girls have multiple filters before they even consider personality
Race
Culture
Clothes
Appearance comes in at number 4, a good look man with a jewish skull cap or muslim garb would be automatically deleted from consideration without assessment of looks.

A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath


Black men illicit fear? What a bigoted, ridiculous remark! You know nothing about what women really think and feel. Based upon what you post here, the books you’ve read and the podcasts and “men’s” forums you follow appear to be written by bots rather than thinking, rational humans. The women posting here aren’t lying when they say what they prefer. Religious garb does not automatically delete someone from consideration. And what a cold, analytical term - “delete”.



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27 Jun 2019, 10:09 am

AnneOleson wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
NorthWind wrote:
In reality looks will of course be used as a first filter because you inevitably know someones looks before you know their personality. The relative importance is hard to asses because looks and personality don't have the same unit of measurement - if you can say at all what their unit of measurement is..

to quote Dr McCoy from Star trek..."it's worse than that Jim"
The reality is girls have multiple filters before they even consider personality
Race
Culture
Clothes
Appearance comes in at number 4, a good look man with a jewish skull cap or muslim garb would be automatically deleted from consideration without assessment of looks.

A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath


Black men illicit fear? What a bigoted, ridiculous remark! You know nothing about what women really think and feel. Based upon what you post here, the books you’ve read and the podcasts and “men’s” forums you follow appear to be written by bots rather than thinking, rational humans. The women posting here aren’t lying when they say what they prefer. Religious garb does not automatically delete someone from consideration. And what a cold, analytical term - “delete”.


Now! Now!

He’s a man, so he obviously knows this subject better than we do. :wink:

My first boyfriend was black. Of course, since I don’t fit in with this preconceived notion of what women supposedly want, I’m an outlier and, thus, my experience doesn’t count. :roll:



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27 Jun 2019, 10:22 am

Notice in the initial statistic that 28% of men and 18% of women reported no sex in the last year. These are hardly huge numbers and the difference between men and women is not that earth-shatteringly significant.

It’s a 10% difference. There’s no need to come up with these complex theories as to why it’s “impossible” for young men to find someone.



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27 Jun 2019, 11:02 am

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Personality requires TIME to properly determine while the other stuff are instantly assessed.

That's why I've always preferred to take things slow.


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27 Jun 2019, 11:17 am

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A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


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27 Jun 2019, 11:37 am

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A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


There’s usually no fetishizing about it. Sometimes a good man is just a good man.



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27 Jun 2019, 11:46 am

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A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


Cyberdad is 50 yo, so maybe he remembers how things were back in his days.



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27 Jun 2019, 11:54 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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cyberdad wrote:
A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


Cyberdad is 50 yo, so maybe he remembers how things were back in his days.


I'm older than he is which doesn't make me lose touch with reality. "Dating" changed greatly over the last few decades, it's ridiculous to give advice or apply standards from my generation's youth.


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27 Jun 2019, 12:02 pm

cyberdad wrote:
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In reality looks will of course be used as a first filter because you inevitably know someones looks before you know their personality. The relative importance is hard to asses because looks and personality don't have the same unit of measurement - if you can say at all what their unit of measurement is..

to quote Dr McCoy from Star trek..."it's worse than that Jim"
The reality is girls have multiple filters before they even consider personality
Race
Culture
Clothes
Appearance comes in at number 4, a good look man with a jewish skull cap or muslim garb would be automatically deleted from consideration without assessment of looks.

A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath


A few more posts like this and you'll have no credibility on this topic whatsoever.

What makes you so sure you understand how women think better than all of the women contributing to this thread?


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27 Jun 2019, 10:49 pm

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I also see race as more similar to attractiveness and culture as more similar to personality when it comes to why it is relevant for a relationship.

I get your point but people's "culture" is assumed when you first look at them. For example 99% of young girls will pick up a man's socioeconomic background by the way they dress, groom, walk, type of car they drive, how they sound when they talk, how they smell. Often how they look is combined as one great big package deal.

An really good looking white man only has to put on a skull cap on their head and 90% of women will automatically disregard them.



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27 Jun 2019, 10:51 pm

BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


And then there's the real world
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/white-wo ... b_10134298



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27 Jun 2019, 10:53 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


Cyberdad is 50 yo, so maybe he remembers how things were back in his days.


Yeah buddy...riding a carriage and cleaning up after your horse crapped everywhere was such a pain back then :wink:



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27 Jun 2019, 11:04 pm

cyberdad wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


Cyberdad is 50 yo, so maybe he remembers how things were back in his days.


Yeah buddy...riding a carriage and cleaning up after your horse crapped everywhere was such a pain back then :wink:


That’s what having kids is for. :P

What was life like without electricity?



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27 Jun 2019, 11:49 pm

cyberdad wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


And then there's the real world
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/white-wo ... b_10134298



Yes, dating in the real world is racist, viewtopic.php?t=275336

When a same non-white person gets 70% of swipes as matches in some non-white countries and ZERO in others (majority white countries), then it's no longer can be explained as 'individual preferences' , there's a strong hive mind going on in the world. Note that East Asian societies have a very strong sentiment of reverse racism where they praise White beauty standards, they have White fetishism even way times worse than 'Yellow fever' among white, they hate themselves if their skin get dark , almost every Asian woman I dated was so paranoid of being exposed to sunlight in summer ; and basically they have a self hate of their facial features, the nose in particular and envy the 'White narrow nose', some even expressed to me they're interested in white men so they can have 'half-white' beautiful babies (ugh, as if the white genes would make their lives better....) - I guess that's part of the reason why I get so much attention and matches with East Asians ( to them I am "White" but to the typical Europeans I am "dark"), but it's mostly initially for these wrong reasons sadly.


And everyone is using Tinder these days, so you can't say "but people on dating apps are not the same as in real world", yes, they are a very representative sample of the typical people in a given country.



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28 Jun 2019, 12:55 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


Cyberdad is 50 yo, so maybe he remembers how things were back in his days.


Yeah buddy...riding a carriage and cleaning up after your horse crapped everywhere was such a pain back then :wink:


That’s what having kids is for. :P

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28 Jun 2019, 12:58 am

cyberdad wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
A really good looking black man would illicit fear first in the average white girl before there's any thought about the person underneath

Not in this century - good looking black men (in the West) are actually seen as very desirable/sought after and are often fetishised in a similar fashion to Asian women.


And then there's the real world
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/white-wo ... b_10134298

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