Women, Men, Tell us What You Need The Other Sex To Know!.

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I have lots of other interests. I always come off as living at work.

I like music from many regions.

I would like it even better if they had subtitles.

It is the typical nerd stereotyping I guess.

Women, a lot of you wrongly think that everyone with this type of swimmer six-pack body must certainly be due to "natural" exercising: https://img.huffingtonpost.com/asset/5c ... _noupscale

Many of you think that steroid takers all look like the Hulk, but ....well, as much how many guys fail to see plastic surgery enhancements such as whether boobs are fake or not, you women also fail big time in knowing what's natural male body or not.
The difference is that those "naturally swimmer built" take supplements more smartly than the hulk types. Men who take these stuff won't say it in front of you ladies, they will not admit it in front of you, even if they are your boyfriends, but we men know, we hear them what they take in the gym lockers, they show us the stuff they take and even they recommend stuff to us, and they make sure to keep it secret especially from you , the ladies - but it's no secret in the manosphere. Testosterone pills, growth hormones, steroids , immense quantity of protein shakes, fat burners....all these stuff are very common among the "swimmer body" types whom many women foolishly think it all due to normal exercising.

I wish women could picture me somewhere other than surrounded by machines.

This is so true. One of the best things my wife has done for us sometimes is to start with the words: "I don't want you to fix anything, I just need to vent about........" That I can understand. Now I can listen. Pressure is off. I can be an ear.

Women don't always want a man to simply listen. Sometimes women want feedback, opinions and suggestions from their partner just like men do. It's only natural. It's unfair to the other person, regardless of sex, to assume or expect them to know intuitively, telepathically, cosmically, etc when you just want to vent or when you want advice.

I've heard NT guys complain about this & it seems to be the kinda thing that's probably more common with NT women than Aspie women but it's one of the various problems I've had when trying to get romantic relationships. Women if you tell a guy that you want to be friends when he makes a move on you, the guy will interpret this as you only wanting friendship with him or you only telling the guy you want to be friends to be nice or save face. If you want to start off as friends while leaving the possibility open for more than friendship down the road, actually tell the guy something like you want to be friends for a while & see where it goes. Women do not reject a guy making a move on you by you saying that you want to be friends & then get mad at the guy when he continues searching for a romantic relationship with other women. You should of actually said you wanted to start off as friends while potentially having the possibility open for more if that's what you wanted when you rejected the guy. Getting mad at the guy after you weren't clear enough about exactly what you wanted or didn't want when you rejected him will cause guys to think your playing that hard-to-get game that us guys tend to hate or guys will think that you want guys to chase you when you have zero romantic interest in them which makes you come off bad, or guys will think you changed your mind cuz your fickle & were expecting us to magically know you changed your mind when you never actually told us or gave us any hints or reason to think you have. This will cause us guys to think that we're glad you rejected us & that we're better off not even trying to be your friend.

Due to prosoprognosia, I am naturally clingy, and it would help if my potential other half is naturally clingy too.

That's interesting - my husband has prosopagnosia and he is extremely clingy but I don't see the connection.

Think of it this way. Someone with prosoprognosia will through experience have a fear of losing loved ones in a crowded place. They will either want to stay in the car and wait for the other person to go shopping (If like me one can panic in a crowded shop) or they will want to go with a loved one but will be always concentrating to either keep the other person within view, or ensure they are somewhere where they can be easily found.

Something which would really help me big style, is if the other person wore something unusual or dyed their hair pink or something like that. As long as they were the only one with pink hair I would be fine. The clingyness comes from the fear of separation and not finding the other person again. It is kind of inbuilt. It is such a fear of losing the other person and not being able to find them again, that one would find it easier to live in a society where all married couples spend their lives handcuffed togegher... I know it sounds daft, but the fear of losing the other person and not finding them is a big one with people who suffer from faceblindness.

Faceblindness is wierd. For me I do not know when I am having it. For the most part I can identify people, but then I may think I am following someone I know like my Mum, but then have a shock when I find the other lady has a similar body height and mass, and wears a similar coat... But is not my Mum.... And then there is the panic of thinking "Where's Mum?"
At times I forget what I look like and almost get a shock when I look in the mirror! (Which is embarissing!) I find I am faceblinded to certain types of people rather then being generally faceblind. I knew my Mum was faceblind, but though I had also always had it, I disn't come to realize this until I was about 16 years old going on 17, where I was handing in the wrong homework to the wrong lecturers and I didn't know why I kept getting bad marks... Like 0%... After about 6 months of this where sometimes I'd usually get average marks and then have the occasional 0%, where the lecturers were also puzzled, I once saw one lecturer walk in to have a quick chat to the other. It dawned on me that very moment that they were two seperate people! I had assumed it was one man teaching a few different subjects which a few lecturers did. I do not know how I didn't twig that they both had different sirnames! But there again. I also am not very good at remembering names either!

I am the “anti-clingy.”

Hahahaha!

Career women.... why I have the impression that many of them work for traveling? As if they spend everything they make on frequent travels. What about the other concerns in life? That always puzzled me.

I won't try and completely overtake your life. You can still have friends and have hobbies. I don't own you.

Aww Hurtloam. Some men may need a little taking over on occasions... I thought marriage was both of you owning each other.

Same here.