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I’ve seen some To but they all had great paying jobs or were teenagers.

Most couples I see are similar oh and the ones
Like you describe the women at work are like” I don’t get why she’s with him”

You’ve also seen people win the lottery will you win it? Do most people win the lottery?

Cause a fat ugly poor guy like me getting a gf non less a thin fit one would be like winning a billion dollar lottery. More likely to be hit by lightning.

Women have never showing me slightest interest in person. I’m worthless to them they can’t get money from me

How did I get girls, then?

I'm short, husky, didn't drive until my 30's. Always had a clerical job. No savings. Only of average looks. And....I'm short! I'm a shrimp. And I'm weird.

You don't have to drive in Manhattan. But you do have to drive in parts of Queens.

You're not that bad, Sly. Hate to break it to you.....you're in a rotten situation in some ways. But you're worthy of female companionship. At least you take showers, and don't stink to high heaven. And you're tall. Women like "teddy-bear" type guys. They're not particularly keen on short guys.

I'm not what women "want." But I said "screw it." I went for women, anyway.

From being born into a different generation and society. I’d probably done better in any other time then today.

Women like well off teddy bear types
Women do not like losers like me
I’m not worthy of any female companionship hence why I don’t get any.

Again different generations
Women today think the things women of your generation found romantic are creepy.

They won’t date some worthless loser who talks to them only guys who have their life together are loveable

I'm sorry it's so rough. Remember it feels like it's most women, but it's not all women. Truly, I suggest you say "most women" and let there be the possibility for the "some" that are different (even if it seems near impossible). That said, I've mentioned before that I had a real rough medical challenge and I was probably talking like it was impossible (or else kept my thoughts to myself), until it was possible...

I do understand. It's hard.

Strange, my husband's impressions from California (Silicon Valley) were completely different.

Oh, your husband is a Silicon Valley guy? $$$$

Your husband is blinded by you.

Or he's telling you that to make you feel good.

He's one of the guys working for SV in Poland (Russia, India, etc.), so Silicon Valley saves their $$$$.
Good enough to visit their headquarters twice a year or so.
He's kind of compulsively honest, it puts him in trouble sometimes but it makes me comfortable with him.
We have no problem talking about female beauty. I know he was very impressed by Israeli women but not Palestinians, as an example - I did like the kind of elegance Palestinian women showed, so we disagreed on this.

Anyway, from his relation, people on Californian streets - including women - are not as pleasant sight as even here. College campuses are exception.

I don't think so. Modern age is more equal, fair and safe than any other era. It' just that people tend to idealize past because they remember only the good parts.

As you acknowledged though, you're basically right at the cusp between overweight and obese as it relates to your BMI. I think when most people think of obese, they probably have a mental image of someone who's morbidly obese, or at least someone who's pretty firmly in the obese category, not someone who's more on the cusp like yourself.

As I've been losing weight (I've lost about 37 pounds now), my BMI has so far gone down from about 37 to 32. I'm not even sure if people would look at me now and clock me as being obese, but they might have before I started losing weight.

I think people probably generally picture someone with a BMI over 35 when the word obese is used.

Well done you! I am also chubby. Going down to two small meals a day have helped me lose weight and I'm off blood pressure meds. Some men prefer a fuller figured woman and I have refrained from commenting on the men who berate overweight women here, it's really a matter of metabolism and genetics. It's not healthy to be too overweight but us voluptuous ladies don't deserve to be considered defective or less attractive.

Are you a Silicon Valley staff too? just curious

Nope. Academic.

Teacher you mean? Or a staff of an Academic entity?

Researcher. Funny numerical stuff. But I'm not active now due to my health problems.

Not anymore. The site used to be the cream of the crop but now it is just another lowest common denominator dating site only it costs money. Given that a number of people flat out told me they were only interested in sex, a couple ran for the hills when I said I was interested in marriage and children and how many women were on there for years, it's obviously not for marriage minded people anymore in my area.

I will say that when I started in 2012 my number 1 complaint wasn't that the women were snooty, stuck up, arrogant or demanding like today but that they were just not very attractive. I certainly was never interested in a model but these women were just plain ugly, mostly due to their sloppy appearance and facial piercings. I did eventually date 2 women who had pictures like models but looked very plain in real life so they obviously manipulated their pictures. Why for example would you put up a picture with bright blue eyes and looking very thin when you are brown eyed and overweight?? Do you think nobody is going to notice or they are going to forget it once they meet the real you? I now realize that many women do significant touchups to their "candid" pictures.

While I certainly understand you struggle as I have been there too I really find it hard to believe that women show no interest in you whatsoever. I have a guy on Facebook that I keep on there solely for laughs: in short he is a Loser with a capital L who always posts melodramatic things like a 12 year old and practices 'vaguebooking' where he fishes for sympathy. While his relationships always break down due to his inability to communicate like an adult he has no trouble finding women to date him. He is over 40 and will never own a car, a house and will never make more than slightly above minimum wage yet he still has plenty of women interested in him to this day. Slightly OT, but when I was 20 and visiting my old hometown he invited me downtown. He had two very attractive women with him and it took me years to catch on that the reason one of them was asking me so many questions wasn't because she was nosy and invasive but she was his girlfriend's single friend and was checking me out AND liked what she saw. If you were to tell 20 year old me that she was probably willing to sleep with me that night I would have considered that an early April Fools joke as it was beyond my ability to comprehend.

Thanks, and good on you. Just make sure that you don't go straight back to your old habits after losing the weight, or you will most probably gain it back.

As far as I've seen with people who are overweight, it's generally more a matter of what they're eating or how much they're eating than genetics and metabolism, at least when you're younger and don't have any medical conditions. People do come in all shapes and sizes, but I think most can see the difference between curvy and overweight.

In terms of people not deserving to be considered less attractive, I don't know that that really ends up meaning much to be honest. How do we determine who does and doesn't deserve to be considered attractive? Is it really something we have control over anyway? In my case, I gained 65 pounds early last year during a particularly difficult time, and then I gained a further 13 pounds between late last year and early this year. and I'd still say that I don't really deserve to be considered attractive since I let myself go and become clinically obese, which is not an immutable characteristic and is instead something directly influenced by my own poor choices.

I could say I don't deserve to have gotten to the age of 23 without having a romantic relationship, but it doesn't change much about reality, or about what other people want and don't want.