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09 Mar 2022, 10:28 am

Think of it this way: you do have a logical mind.

You're in a similar status to me, actually, so I can identify.

I'm going to tell you the truth: I don't believe I'm "less of a man" just because I've lost "function."

Just like you're not "less of a man" because you have "Low T."

My wish is that you value the other aspects of your life at least as much as you value romance.

I had to learn that things aren’t absolute, all or nothing. Once I did, I started doing better.



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09 Mar 2022, 10:32 am

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Who cares when I did it exactly ? How is that relevant ? When I did it it was the same time for me as it is for you at the moment: Now.


At this point in my life, I have diastasis recti, an umbilical hernia, abnormally low T-levels, and erctile dysfunction.
Even if I could find a partner, I am physically incapable of having sex.

i am living proof that abnormal T levels and ED can be fixed in just about anybody. the harder parts are your abdominal issues. you have relative youth on your side [compared to me].



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09 Mar 2022, 12:09 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Think of it this way: you do have a logical mind.

You're in a similar status to me, actually, so I can identify.

I'm going to tell you the truth: I don't believe I'm "less of a man" just because I've lost "function."

Just like you're not "less of a man" because you have "Low T."

My wish is that you value the other aspects of your life at least as much as you value romance.

I had to learn that things aren’t absolute, all or nothing. Once I did, I started doing better.


It doesn't make me "less of a man", but it makes me undesirable to women. It also makes me physically unable to do what I want to do even if I could get a partner.

You may no longer function now, but you had plenty of fun when you were young. I never did and now its too late and I never will.



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09 Mar 2022, 12:12 pm

auntblabby wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Who cares when I did it exactly ? How is that relevant ? When I did it it was the same time for me as it is for you at the moment: Now.


At this point in my life, I have diastasis recti, an umbilical hernia, abnormally low T-levels, and erctile dysfunction.
Even if I could find a partner, I am physically incapable of having sex.

i am living proof that abnormal T levels and ED can be fixed in just about anybody. the harder parts are your abdominal issues. you have relative youth on your side [compared to me].


True. But that requires medical treatment I can't afford. I attempted to get treatment for my low T a few years ago. I had to pay over 2K out of pocket because insurance wouldn't cover it, and I never saw any improvement.



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09 Mar 2022, 3:11 pm

dorkseid wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Who cares when I did it exactly ? How is that relevant ? When I did it it was the same time for me as it is for you at the moment: Now.


At this point in my life, I have diastasis recti, an umbilical hernia, abnormally low T-levels, and erctile dysfunction.
Even if I could find a partner, I am physically incapable of having sex.

i am living proof that abnormal T levels and ED can be fixed in just about anybody. the harder parts are your abdominal issues. you have relative youth on your side [compared to me].


True. But that requires medical treatment I can't afford. I attempted to get treatment for my low T a few years ago. I had to pay over 2K out of pocket because insurance wouldn't cover it, and I never saw any improvement.

YMMV [Your Mileage May Vary] but here is my regimen-
*exercise large muscle groups [core isometrics, push-ups and crunches and bridges]
*4 horsepills of Prime T which contains 3 grams of D-Aspartic Acid, proven to boost T an average of a third
*2 grams of panax ginseng
*1200 mg of tongkat ali
*about a gram of fenugreek standardized at 50% fenusides, in a product called "Testofen"
*2-3 grams of L-Citruline combined with 100mg of pycnogenol [marine pine bark standardized to 70% procyanidins] which boosts circulating nitric oxide [vasodilator]
this gives me [per lab results] a boost from my previous subclinical result of 99ng/dl up to over 500 ng/dl.



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09 Mar 2022, 3:56 pm

Are those over the counter?



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09 Mar 2022, 3:59 pm

dorkseid wrote:
Are those over the counter?

Google tends to answer those types of questions.



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09 Mar 2022, 4:04 pm

dorkseid wrote:
Are those over the counter?

yes, but not walmart-cheap, however. but cheaper than the doc's office for sure. amazon is where i got them all.



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09 Mar 2022, 9:09 pm

r00tb33r wrote:
Google tends to answer those types of questions.

Perhaps so, but dorkseid is suicidally depressed, which, alas, probably doesn't give him an abundance of energy for doing even small amounts of online research. And there was no reason not to ask auntblabby a simple clarifying question about auntblabby's own suggestion. (Thankfully, auntblabby did answer the question.)


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09 Mar 2022, 9:16 pm

dorkseid wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Who cares when I did it exactly ? How is that relevant ? When I did it it was the same time for me as it is for you at the moment: Now.


At this point in my life, I have diastasis recti, an umbilical hernia, abnormally low T-levels, and erctile dysfunction.

Even if I could find a partner, I am physically incapable of having sex.


As KK said previously in another thread, there are other ways to please a woman.
ED is only a concern if you want to start a family.
But even that can be addressed.



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09 Mar 2022, 9:19 pm

dorkseid wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Sex is really overrated, to be frank.

There are plenty of women who would not mind it if they are never "penetrated" by a man-----even if they have romantic feelings for men.


Irrelevant. Its important to me.


Queue Serenity Prayer.

I think you need to face reality and move on.
There is more to life than intercourse.
Focus on making the other person happy rather than yourself.
Just a suggestion. ;)



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09 Mar 2022, 10:13 pm

Pepe wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Who cares when I did it exactly ? How is that relevant ? When I did it it was the same time for me as it is for you at the moment: Now.


At this point in my life, I have diastasis recti, an umbilical hernia, abnormally low T-levels, and erctile dysfunction.

Even if I could find a partner, I am physically incapable of having sex.


As KK said previously in another thread, there are other ways to please a woman.
ED is only a concern if you want to start a family.
But even that can be addressed.


And I said in my response to KK, having intercourse with my partner is important to me.



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09 Mar 2022, 10:16 pm

Pepe wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Sex is really overrated, to be frank.

There are plenty of women who would not mind it if they are never "penetrated" by a man-----even if they have romantic feelings for men.


Irrelevant. Its important to me.


Queue Serenity Prayer.

I think you need to face reality and move on.
There is more to life than intercourse.
Focus on making the other person happy rather than yourself.
Just a suggestion. ;)


Everyone else got to have fun at least at some point in their live, but I never did.

Why should I have to face reality and move on when nobody else had to?



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09 Mar 2022, 10:47 pm

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And I said in my response to KK, having intercourse with my partner is important to me.

Hopefully auntblabby's suggestions can help you, then.


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10 Mar 2022, 12:43 am

Pepe wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Sex is really overrated, to be frank.

There are plenty of women who would not mind it if they are never "penetrated" by a man-----even if they have romantic feelings for men.


Irrelevant. Its important to me.


Queue Serenity Prayer.

I think you need to face reality and move on.
There is more to life than intercourse.
Focus on making the other person happy rather than yourself.
Just a suggestion. ;)

that is, unfortunately, precisely the wrong thing to say to the OP. he doesn't want to hear that intercourse is off-limits to him. he wants a solution that will get him there and checks off boxes that are important to him.



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10 Mar 2022, 12:46 am

auntblabby wrote:
Pepe wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Sex is really overrated, to be frank.

There are plenty of women who would not mind it if they are never "penetrated" by a man-----even if they have romantic feelings for men.


Irrelevant. Its important to me.


Queue Serenity Prayer.

I think you need to face reality and move on.
There is more to life than intercourse.
Focus on making the other person happy rather than yourself.
Just a suggestion. ;)

that is, unfortunately, precisely the wrong thing to say to the OP. he doesn't want to hear that intercourse is off-limits to him. he wants a solution that will get him there and checks off boxes that are important to him.


Being realistic is the wrong thing to say?
OK. 8)