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calandale
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11 Sep 2007, 11:11 pm

Misspelled cheap.

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12 Sep 2007, 12:42 pm

calandale wrote:

Misspelled cheap.

Oh I get it now, thanks for noticing my error. LOL

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12 Sep 2007, 3:09 pm

techstepgenr8tion wrote:

juliekitty wrote:

I agree, techno, and the real shame of this whole boys vs. girls routine is that it's such a red herring. As you say, aspies all suffer in relationships, just in different ways. The guys don't get enough, and the girls get too much of the wrong thing. Blaming each other for being male or female won't help; we should be supporting each other and trying to help each other find a way.

I'm hoping my 'for the poster above you' thread will help start the demilitarization of this folder. If people can hang up their combat boots for one just one thread even I think there's hope.

Why? The only thing better than sex and violence is combining the two.

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12 Sep 2007, 3:31 pm

Contrary to what many people think, I feel that I would never want to date the supermodel type of women.

I am a very VERY shallow person so yes I do only judge women by the way they look.

The problem is that with the women who look too good is that every other guy wants to date them.

You wouldn't be wanting to date the girl who will get looked at by other guys 24/7 and will probably be a major pain in the rear end.

Thats what the supermodel type is for- To look at. Not to date. Uh-Hum.

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12 Sep 2007, 4:28 pm

Ragtime wrote:

Why? The only thing better than sex and violence is combining the two.

Volatile combination. Not sure everyone buys
it. But, I definitely miss it.

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13 Sep 2007, 4:43 am

Brian003 wrote:

i do not judge women only by their looks, but otherwise i more or less agree. i wouldn't want to date a woman way beyond my league.

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13 Sep 2007, 5:46 am

'tain't nothin' beyond my league.

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13 Sep 2007, 5:44 pm

Aridarr wrote:

Whenever any of you makes the claim that all girls/women are like this, or that, you are utterly wrong.

The way that women treat you is more a reflection on yourself than on the gender itself; just as the way that men treat me says more about me than the male gender.

Sorry guys; it's not them; it's you.

Think about it; if you met an overweight, unattractive girl, you would treat her badly in comparison to a beautiful supermodel type.

These women are doing the same as you would in that situation.

If a woman rejects you, it isn't because women are unfair; it is because you don't make her happy.

That is what love is about; being with someone who makes you happy. Neither women nor men have control over who makes them happy. If someone rejects you, they are not being judgemental, or bigoted. They are just obeying their emotional reaction to you as a person. Why should anyone tolerate a romantic partner who doesn't make them happy?

That is why aspies have so much trouble in romance; they don't understand what it is that makes others happy as well as other people do.

And if a woman is unkind in her rejection of you; it could be because she has her own life and set of priorities that don't include you.

Just as you may have all the time in the world for one girl and ignore another; they are the same.

People (meaning women and men), especially in romance, tend towards behaviour that causes emotional distress to others. This doesn't mean that they are bad people, or playing games with your emotions; in most situations, they are probably just confused.

As people, none of you are socially perfect; many of you upset people without meaning to.

So-called 'neurotypicals' are no different; they make mistakes too.

Okay, I cannot really degrade this thread until I see a picture of Arridar.

I am only guessing that he is an overweight, unattractive, zombie like guy who spends all day hacking websites on his computer!

Okay, thats my taunt. Show yourself Arridar you coward!

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13 Sep 2007, 7:52 pm

What can Aridarr's gender or personal appearance possibly have to do with that post?

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13 Sep 2007, 8:09 pm

juliekitty wrote:

What can Aridarr's gender or personal appearance possibly have to do with that post?

Maybe he has the hots for her.

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13 Sep 2007, 10:47 pm

Accrding to his profile, he is a guy.

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14 Sep 2007, 9:51 am

Either way, how about responding to what he or she said, rather than trying to find out personal facts about him or her and then distilling the validity of the post out of those facts?

Man, I've seen lots of ad hominem arguments, but I've never actually seen someone go on an ad hominem hunt.

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14 Sep 2007, 1:43 pm

Well, I'm not really trying to find his picture. I find the original post highly unlogical because Aridarr is a man and not a woman.

How does a man know how women think? I just don't understand?

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14 Sep 2007, 2:14 pm

^^ wait a second *checking profile* .....you are right , all the time I thought that Aridarr is female!! ! now this is really hypocritical .

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15 Sep 2007, 5:39 am

I thought Aridarr was female too. The challenges we (Aspie men) have in relationships with women are no different from the challenges we have in other areas of life. Though I admit that the difficulty in relationships with the opposite gender is particularly hurtful, especially with the added pressure from others who feel we should be paired up.

I think Aspie men have a lot going for us that can make women happy, if we can get through the difficulties in Interaction and Communication. We don't have hidden agendas. We don't play, or know how to play, mind games. We don't have ulterior motives, we are honest, straightforward and don't lie as much as others. Perhaps that's not every woman's cup of tea, but it will make a lot of women happy.

There's one woman for every man (actually more women than men in my country, Scotland). Sometimes it seems otherwise because of the effort men have to make, and the competitiveness they have to show, in the mating game. Even with all this natural selection stuff, God made roughly equal numbes of men and women so that eventually, there is one for everyone.

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15 Sep 2007, 2:12 pm

Women and men both have issues. We're all the same.

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