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20 Jan 2008, 11:04 pm

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lvben i dont think that was very nice- you appear to have issues with kindness?

You think he wasn't being serious?

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21 Jan 2008, 10:58 pm

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That's nice of you. Update you must.

She actually called me today, before I was going to call her, to tell me that she was feeling better! I must've made a good impression on her last week.

We're going out to dinner on Wednesday.

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22 Jan 2008, 1:37 am

Yay!

Don't cheap out.

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22 Jan 2008, 1:43 am

LVBen wrote:

catspurr wrote:

That's nice of you. Update you must.

She actually called me today, before I was going to call her, to tell me that she was feeling better! I must've made a good impression on her last week.

We're going out to dinner on Wednesday.

Sorry I am late. What's been your experience on dating sites so far?

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22 Jan 2008, 1:58 am

Maybe someone can explain this to me...

What's with the "pouty", "kissy", or "deer in headlights" looks all these girls put up as their profile pictures on these online dating sites? Do they really think we find someone who looks like they're on crack as attractive?

Makes me want to punch them in the face...

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22 Jan 2008, 2:07 am

juliekitty wrote:

Yay!

Don't cheap out.

Haha! It's a 2nd date, so I still have to keep it cheap if I want there to be a 3rd date, and dinner can be expensive, but I tried to do lunch instead, and that didn't work out. Oh well, there are tricks to keeping dinner cheap without it looking like you are trying to keep it cheap. I already eat healthy, so I almost always drink water with dinner anyway and that saves some money, so I'll just order a salad or something else that is light too and hope that she follows suit. I just rented a few movies tonight, so if dinner goes well, I'll ask if she wants to go back to my house to watch one of them with me afterwards.

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22 Jan 2008, 2:16 am

LVBen wrote:

I still have to keep it cheap if I want there to be a 3rd date... there are tricks to keeping dinner cheap without it looking like you are trying to keep it cheap.

But if you don't look like you're trying to keep it cheap, won't she lose respect for you?

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22 Jan 2008, 2:20 am

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LVBen wrote:

catspurr wrote:

That's nice of you. Update you must.

She actually called me today, before I was going to call her, to tell me that she was feeling better! I must've made a good impression on her last week.

We're going out to dinner on Wednesday.

Sorry I am late. What's been your experience on dating sites so far?

I've had mostly good experiences so far. I've only used dating sites in two different periods. One girl I met on a dating site a few years ago became my gf for a year and a half. I've gone on a handful of 1st dates with other girls that I ended up not being attracted to. One girl I met 2 months ago seemed like a great catch until she told me that she "expected to be treated like a princess". I've never been stood up or ran into any fake profiles, like I've hear so much about from other people. Also, I've had some good luck with finding girls on MySpace.

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22 Jan 2008, 2:31 am

juliekitty wrote:

LVBen wrote:

I still have to keep it cheap if I want there to be a 3rd date... there are tricks to keeping dinner cheap without it looking like you are trying to keep it cheap.

But if you don't look like you're trying to keep it cheap, won't she lose respect for you?

No! You aren't supposed to look like you are keeping it cheap! You are supposed to look like you have lots of money, and that you don't mind spending money to have a good time, but the most important thing is that you spend very little of it on her!! !

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22 Jan 2008, 2:39 am

LVBen wrote:

Wow.

If I were dating a guy who I thought loved to spend money on everything EXCEPT me, I'd assume he wasn't that into me, and keep looking elsewhere!

I guess that might work on low-self-esteem girls, though...

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22 Jan 2008, 2:51 am

juliekitty wrote:

If I were dating a guy who I thought loved to spend money on everything EXCEPT me, I'd assume he wasn't that into me, and keep looking elsewhere!

Haha! That's what you think!

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I guess that might work on low-self-esteem girls, though...

You don't have a clue, but from reading your other posts, it appears that you like to date multiple guys at a time, and I can't imagine any intelligent guy with high self-esteem willing to spend any money on a girl that is going on a date with another guy the next night. How many low self-esteem guys do you go through that are just trying to buy your favor?

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22 Jan 2008, 3:00 am

LVBen wrote:

Haha! That's what you think!

Um, no, it's what I know I would assume.

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I can't imagine any intelligent guy with high self-esteem willing to spend any money on a girl that is going on a date with another guy the next night.

Well, picture a guy who's smart enough to know I'm worth the effort of trying to win over, and has high enough self-esteem to think he can do it.

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How many low self-esteem guys do you go through

Generally they don't make it to the first date, because they say things like, "I don't suppose you'd be interested..." or "You've probably already got a boyfriend..."

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22 Jan 2008, 3:06 am

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Um, no, it's what I know I would assume.

What a person thinks they want and what a person actually wants are oftentimes not the same thing.

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Well, picture a guy who's smart enough to know I'm worth the effort of trying to win over, and has high enough self-esteem to think he can do it.

Why do they need to spend money on you to win you over?

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22 Jan 2008, 3:10 am

Because I'm into what I've heard described as "protector/provider males".

It doesn't have to be a lot of money, either. My last boyfriend had a low-paying job. He usually made dinner for me at his place, and would buy me a nice plant or a secondhand book or something else cheap.

That was totally cool, because I knew he was being generous with me within the limits of what he could afford.

I wouldn't be impressed by a guy whose attitude was, "I have tons of money, but I don't want to spend any on YOU." I'd be like, "Fine, then leave me alone and go find a girl who you DO think is worth spending something on."

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22 Jan 2008, 3:31 am

juliekitty wrote:

So, it is like an auction, but one that is not based on how much money they spend on you, but what percentage of their income they spend on you!

If my date expects me to bid on her, I really really hope that she leaves me to find someone else!! !! Not only would I still have my money, but I wouldn't be wasting my time on someone that wants to be with me for my money instead of someone that actually enjoys my company.

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22 Jan 2008, 3:36 am

LVBen wrote:

Not only would I still have my money, but I wouldn't be wasting my time on someone that wants to be with me for my money instead of someone that actually enjoys my company.

As I said, my last boyfriend didn't make much money. To be exclusive with him, I turned down opportunities to date guys who made more money than he did. If I cared about money more than a man's company, obviously I wouldn't have done that.

Sorry if that's inconvenient to your new theory about me.

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