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01 Oct 2010, 2:49 pm

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hey, that last part was mean!


True but he's not wrong. No one online or IRL is dying to date me. Why would they? I may as well save them the trouble and wave a big ol' sign above my head that reads, "I'm a giant b***h incapable of having feelings for you!" :/


why would you want someone obsessed like that lol?



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01 Oct 2010, 2:52 pm

Erisad,
how could you possibly know if people are dying to date you if you won't give them a chance?


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01 Oct 2010, 3:03 pm

bewarethebob wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
hey, that last part was mean!


True but he's not wrong. No one online or IRL is dying to date me. Why would they? I may as well save them the trouble and wave a big ol' sign above my head that reads, "I'm a giant b***h incapable of having feelings for you!" :/


why would you want someone obsessed like that lol?


I'm confused as to who you're referring to. Explain please. >.>

hyperlexian - Um...if someone was interested in me IRL, I think I would notice. If they really were, they have an odd way of showing it. :/



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01 Oct 2010, 3:06 pm

Erisad wrote:
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Erisad wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
hey, that last part was mean!


True but he's not wrong. No one online or IRL is dying to date me. Why would they? I may as well save them the trouble and wave a big ol' sign above my head that reads, "I'm a giant b***h incapable of having feelings for you!" :/


why would you want someone obsessed like that lol?


I'm confused as to who you're referring to. Explain please. >.>

hyperlexian - Um...if someone was interested in me IRL, I think I would notice. If they really were, they have an odd way of showing it. :/


hyper is right, they got a good head on their shoulders. give more guys a chance even if they are a bit odd....they may not all be bad.

but what I am saying is why would you want a guy wanting ONLY YOU so soon LOL 8O



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01 Oct 2010, 3:11 pm

Are you implying I wanted sex with you or something? I have no sex drive and years of traumatic masturbatory syndrome have left me without the ability to maintain an erection. I just wanted to know what you looked like because I was bored. This sort of thing happens with every single person I talk to--I either bore them and they leave, or I anger them and they leave. According to my AIM list this has happened 93 times so far.



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01 Oct 2010, 3:16 pm

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Are you implying I wanted sex with you or something? I have no sex drive and years of traumatic masturbatory syndrome have left me without the ability to maintain an erection. I just wanted to know what you looked like because I was bored. This sort of thing happens with every single person I talk to--I either bore them and they leave, or I anger them and they leave. According to my AIM list this has happened 93 times so far.


AT 20!?
damn dude, well sorry to hear, ummm....you can get some drugs for that....



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01 Oct 2010, 3:35 pm

bewarethebob wrote:
Erisad wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
hey, that last part was mean!


True but he's not wrong. No one online or IRL is dying to date me. Why would they? I may as well save them the trouble and wave a big ol' sign above my head that reads, "I'm a giant b***h incapable of having feelings for you!" :/


why would you want someone obsessed like that lol?


I'm confused as to who you're referring to. Explain please. >.>

hyperlexian - Um...if someone was interested in me IRL, I think I would notice. If they really were, they have an odd way of showing it. :/


hyper is right, they got a good head on their shoulders. give more guys a chance even if they are a bit odd....they may not all be bad.

but what I am saying is why would you want a guy wanting ONLY YOU so soon LOL 8O


Because I'm tired of being used, abused and cheated on. I want a real relationship for once. I've been told that at my age I have no excuse to be single and I am wasting my youth because of it. :/

Baratos - I'm not going to lie, I was a bit creeped out when you asked for my photo within five minutes of our conversation. You were asking where I lived and other stuff and I was unsure of your intentions. That's usually not what people talk about for their first AIM conversation. Not to mention I was in the midst of a meltdown while you were talking to me. Sorry for being a biiiitch. >.<



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01 Oct 2010, 4:11 pm

Well, I was asking where you lived and stuff because I always try to establish the basics before moving on to feelings and things. Its even more creepy when I ask about personal issues and emotional problems in the first five minutes.

What confuses me is that in real life no one considers me a creep, but when on the internet I seem to turn into one.



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01 Oct 2010, 4:12 pm

Erisad wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
Erisad wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
hey, that last part was mean!


True but he's not wrong. No one online or IRL is dying to date me. Why would they? I may as well save them the trouble and wave a big ol' sign above my head that reads, "I'm a giant b***h incapable of having feelings for you!" :/


why would you want someone obsessed like that lol?


I'm confused as to who you're referring to. Explain please. >.>

hyperlexian - Um...if someone was interested in me IRL, I think I would notice. If they really were, they have an odd way of showing it. :/


hyper is right, they got a good head on their shoulders. give more guys a chance even if they are a bit odd....they may not all be bad.

but what I am saying is why would you want a guy wanting ONLY YOU so soon LOL 8O


Because I'm tired of being used, abused and cheated on. I want a real relationship for once. I've been told that at my age I have no excuse to be single and I am wasting my youth because of it. :/

Baratos - I'm not going to lie, I was a bit creeped out when you asked for my photo within five minutes of our conversation. You were asking where I lived and other stuff and I was unsure of your intentions. That's usually not what people talk about for their first AIM conversation. Not to mention I was in the midst of a meltdown while you were talking to me. Sorry for being a biiiitch. >.<


so what you're saying is any guy you meet who is diffrent will cheat on you and use you.
well, that is your problem then. Its almost the same as racism, you just gave a broad swooping generalization. thats not good.

not that I am into you, but lets say i knew you in person, and asked you out, would you think I would use you and cheat on you?
Im just about your age, and your parents arent giving you good advice. ignore them. And please, dont think you are wastig your youth. your actually extending it...because you dont have kids. I think younger people dont make great parents, sorry.



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01 Oct 2010, 4:26 pm

bewarethebob wrote:
so what you're saying is any guy you meet who is diffrent will cheat on you and use you.
well, that is your problem then. Its almost the same as racism, you just gave a broad swooping generalization. thats not good.

not that I am into you, but lets say i knew you in person, and asked you out, would you think I would use you and cheat on you?
Im just about your age, and your parents arent giving you good advice. ignore them. And please, dont think you are wastig your youth. your actually extending it...because you dont have kids. I think younger people dont make great parents, sorry.


No, I never said that it had to be a guy who was different for that to occur. I don't know what made you think that. :/

I'd be nervous and wondering how long it would be until something happens to screw it up. It usually doesn't take too long. I feel like I'm behind. It's like, how can I expect to reach point B if I can barely get past point A? I'm not saying I have to be married by next year but I feel like I don't have the skills/qualities needed to get there. :(


Baratos - Oh okay. I didn't quite understand that at the time. I was mistaken then, sorry. >.>



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01 Oct 2010, 4:34 pm

bewarethebob wrote:
Erisad wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
hey, that last part was mean!


True but he's not wrong. No one online or IRL is dying to date me. Why would they? I may as well save them the trouble and wave a big ol' sign above my head that reads, "I'm a giant b***h incapable of having feelings for you!" :/


why would you want someone obsessed like that lol?


I'm confused as to who you're referring to. Explain please. >.>

hyperlexian - Um...if someone was interested in me IRL, I think I would notice. If they really were, they have an odd way of showing it. :/


hyper is right, they got a good head on their shoulders. give more guys a chance even if they are a bit odd....they may not all be bad.

but what I am saying is why would you want a guy wanting ONLY YOU so soon LOL 8O

thanks bewarethebob! i'm an old lady with too much experience. i think you have some very good advice also.


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01 Oct 2010, 4:49 pm

Erisad wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
so what you're saying is any guy you meet who is diffrent will cheat on you and use you.
well, that is your problem then. Its almost the same as racism, you just gave a broad swooping generalization. thats not good.

not that I am into you, but lets say i knew you in person, and asked you out, would you think I would use you and cheat on you?
Im just about your age, and your parents arent giving you good advice. ignore them. And please, dont think you are wastig your youth. your actually extending it...because you dont have kids. I think younger people dont make great parents, sorry.


No, I never said that it had to be a guy who was different for that to occur. I don't know what made you think that. :/

I'd be nervous and wondering how long it would be until something happens to screw it up. It usually doesn't take too long. I feel like I'm behind. It's like, how can I expect to reach point B if I can barely get past point A? I'm not saying I have to be married by next year but I feel like I don't have the skills/qualities needed to get there. :(


Baratos - Oh okay. I didn't quite understand that at the time. I was mistaken then, sorry. >.>


which tells me all of it is in your head. You are confident enough, and you arent willing to give men a chance. the first thought you had would be waiting until something messes it up, which tells me that you arent ingnoring that, and just enjoying yourself.
That is a definate issue. You need to be more confident, and when you finally find a guy, give him a chance, and if that starts working, dont worry about what could be, just what is. all right?



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01 Oct 2010, 4:49 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
Erisad wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
hey, that last part was mean!


True but he's not wrong. No one online or IRL is dying to date me. Why would they? I may as well save them the trouble and wave a big ol' sign above my head that reads, "I'm a giant b***h incapable of having feelings for you!" :/


why would you want someone obsessed like that lol?


I'm confused as to who you're referring to. Explain please. >.>

hyperlexian - Um...if someone was interested in me IRL, I think I would notice. If they really were, they have an odd way of showing it. :/


hyper is right, they got a good head on their shoulders. give more guys a chance even if they are a bit odd....they may not all be bad.

but what I am saying is why would you want a guy wanting ONLY YOU so soon LOL 8O

thanks bewarethebob! i'm an old lady with too much experience. i think you have some very good advice also.


welcome hyper.



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01 Oct 2010, 4:51 pm

here, lets try something erisad and other ladies out there....like the OP.

is there any more specific questions? I mean for a long while we all have been playing the statement and retort. But lets reel back a bit, and ask some more specific questions, I and the other men will try to answer as best we can.



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01 Oct 2010, 4:58 pm

bewarethebob wrote:
here, lets try something erisad and other ladies out there....like the OP.

is there any more specific questions? I mean for a long while we all have been playing the statement and retort. But lets reel back a bit, and ask some more specific questions, I and the other men will try to answer as best we can.


Nothing comes to mind right now. I'll probably be back later though. >.>



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01 Oct 2010, 5:06 pm

Erisad wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
here, lets try something erisad and other ladies out there....like the OP.

is there any more specific questions? I mean for a long while we all have been playing the statement and retort. But lets reel back a bit, and ask some more specific questions, I and the other men will try to answer as best we can.


Nothing comes to mind right now. I'll probably be back later though. >.>



Sounds good. ill be around hahaha